Dh is in a job which takes him away from home often, sometimes for long periods of time. At present he has a few shorter trips planned (a couple of which are abroad) but with very loose dates. He may mention in passing that he'll be away in a while, but rarely puts anything on the calendar, or gives me a definite date until just before he's due to leave. I've asked him to keep me updated until I'm blue in the face, as it affects me and the DC - we can hardly ever plan in advance. Nothing changes. The last (heated) conversation we had about it ended in him promising to keep me updated as soon as he knew himself, forwarding emails etc.
At the start of Dec he mentioned he'd be away in Jan. Nothing was written down, no date given. Halfway through Jan he overheard me talking to a friend about his trip later on in Feb, and told me I'd forgotten about his being away next week. Still nothing written down, he had obviously got a firm date at some point which he hadn't mentioned to me. This was Mon. On Wed he forwarded a work email of his travel itinerary, received that day, to his home email. No copy or mention to me, until I asked on Thu evening when he was actually going to be leaving, as we had plans with extended family at the weekend.
When I asked why he hadn't just forwarded the itinerary to me at the same time as to his other email, he said he'd thought about it, but felt like I was being too controlling, so didn't bother.
This is typical of him. Am I BU wanting to know when he's going away, or is he BU by not keeping me in the loop?
Would be interested to know how it works for other ppl. I've asked him to write on calendars, forward emails.. Says he will, but just CBA. Getting increasingly pissed off with him about it.