Have you ever checked your partners phone?

[Elizanotlittle]

I have with my ex. Some of my friends say they have never looked snd don't even think about it. Others say they check now and then and don't feel bad.

I don't want to go down this road with new partner.

Isn't HE the homewrecker, neverexpected??

My DP and I have full access to each other's phones and I've never felt the need to snoop.

Many years ago though my ex left his phone at home and took mine to work with him by mistake. I took his phone to work with me so that we could contact each other and was most surprised at the text messages that his phone received that day from his ex girlfriend. Unfortunately this was the day after I found out I was pregnant so I gave him another chance. 3 years later he started messing around again, didn't even need to check his phone it was that obvious 😡

No, if I felt I had to that would be an issue in itself.

Once many years ago because my spidey senses were going berserk. It turned out my dp was still contacting his ex when he was adamant he wasn't.

Marvellous- both as bad as each other. I've filed for divorce. They are welcome to each other

I used to with my shitebag ex. ALWAYS found something that upset me, and if I found nothing I'd just start thinking he'd deleted it.

I haven't even felt the urge to snoop with the guy I'm with now, he has full access to my phone and vice versa but neither of us would ever snoop. Just don't feel the need to I suppose?

Yes - already had suspicions and I was right.

He was a fucking idiot tbh cos - no passcode, no deletions, listed under her correct full name.

Divorced many years now.

I understand not checking if you've no suspicions but if you DO don't you need to know for sure for your own peace of mind?

Yup. No suspicions whatsoever but sometimes if I don't have any interesting texts or emails and nothing much is going on on mumsnet, I'll have a look to see if dh's communications are any more interesting than mine! They rarely are!

He knows I look sometimes and can see all my emails on our joint iPad, so I don't really think it can be classed as snooping!

I use it but I don't 'check' it.

I've only done it once with an ex and it's how I found out he was cheating on me.
Glad I did it.

No. If I had suspicions he was up to no good and wanted to find out I likely would but not otherwise. I would be beyond livid if he did it to me

No me and DP don't check each other's phones but I do sometimes have a little peep at a text if it appears on the lock screen! My DP has many flaws but cheating isn't one of them it seems