To ask why little girls seem to be preferred?

[foxtaildream]

Is it just me who has noticed this?

I find the energy of my boy amazing. I can't believe what I've had missed out on if I'd only had girls like I'd wanted

Oh for fucks sake!

You may well have had a girl with the same amazing energy. Energy is not exclusive to boys. It is the personality which decided these things, not the genitalia.

I have a girl who has been higher energy than any boy i’ve ever met. Always been able to out run, out climb and out flip everyone.

I put her in gymnastics because of it and the first time i saw her sit still was the week they upped her training to 16 hours a week. She soon adapted though.

Based on your judgement should i assume all girls are extremely high energy based on the observation that i have one?

Any qualities your boy has is because of him, individually. It does not extend to every boy.

It is generally true I think. I’m sure I saw the results of a poll were shown here on MN in summer 2014 (I remember because it was soon after I’d had DC2) which showed the composition of the ‘perfect’ family if I t could be chosen.

Most popular was 2 girls, then I think 1girl 1 boy, then 2 g 1b. Does anyone else remember it or did I dream it?! Would be great if someone could link to it!

I have both. Never heard anyone I know express that they prefer one or the other. I know I couldn’t choose and wouldn’t want to.

There's definitely an unspoken preference for girls out there. After I had my DD i was told we couldn't have any more and talking to a random nurse one day, upon me telling her this, she said how lucky it was that we'd had a girl :s shamefully i had to agree with her. As much as I'd have loved a son, I desperately wanted a girl! I don't know why as I'm well aware that they're both pretty much the same anyway!

I find the energy of my boy amazing. I can't believe what I've had missed out on if I'd only had girls like I'd wanted

Why do people keep peddling such shit? DD2 is 2.5 and has never sat still for more than 30 seconds. DD1 will sit and colour/craft etc, DD2 is like a puppy who needs constant exercise.
Does that mean she’s really a boy?

I really didn't have a preference. I got a girl and I love her but I'd have loved a boy just as much. I've read that some people have sex preferences/disappointments but I don't understand it.

Never had a preference. I have 2 girls and a boy. In fact, when I was pregnant with dc3 (my son) all everyone kept saying to me was how I must definitely want a boy and even that I can always try again if baby was another girl . Baby was a boy and I of course was thrilled with him...coz he's my child. Would have been just as thrilled with a third daughter. I think people just assume you want what you don't have

And to the poster who finds 'the energy of her boy amazing' ffs you've clearly never met one of my dds. She has lots of energy despite being female, funny that

If I had a girl people would think me awful for giving her a buzzcut when the nits at preschool hit epidemic levels (though I probs would have done TBH) so for that I am relieved I have boys. Otherwise can't honestly see the big deal.

I have 3 boys. I adore them all, and between them, through the years they have covered most of the range of traits and interests attributed to both girls and boys. They are or have been both boisterous and calm, liable to turn everything into a weapon and devoted to craft projects, good at sitting and concentrating and apt to run round like lunatics. They have enjoyed a huge range of interests from princesses to diggers to music to assault weapons. I genuinely believe that gender is socially constructed and not biologically determined.

BUT... despite loving my sons so much and feeling that I wouldn't change them for the world, I have also had a fair bit of sadness about never having a daughter (this fantasy daughter would not replace one of my DS's but be in addition.) . This is not because I believe that girls are innately different from boys, but because of the social expectations around gender. I would like the chance to be a parent to a child who has to navigate roughly the same social expectations and norms as I have had to navigate. Yes, a boy can do anything a girl can do, but the response to their doing it will be quite different. Things that would be socially easy and natural to do with a girl, come with a weight of social baggage when you do them with a boy, which I may or may not want to expose my sons to at any given time. Dressing your daughter in dresses/ playing dolls with them/ introducing them to the games and books you loved as a child all pass without comment. doing the same things with a son, is more socially complicated territory. Boys are more likely to develop 'boy' interests eg Star Wars/ fighting etc, because that is the environment they are raised in and the peer pressure they receive. I wish i had had the chance to guide a child through the peer pressures and norms of being female as a) i believe i understand them much better and b)having been raised in them myself i generally find them more fun.

none of this is to denigrate boys or to take anything away from my gorgeous kind, hilarious and quirky boys.

My family has a preference for boys, they are always the golden children, even when they turn out to be shitty people (in fact there's probably a correlation...)

I'm about to have a little girl.

I knew when I went for my 20 week scan that I wanted it to be a girl. I cannot articulate a single logical reason why. My husband didn't know he wanted a girl, but when we were discussing it after the scan he got a bit overcome and said he didn't realise until that point that he wanted a girl too, but at that point he realised. He can't come up with any particular reasons either, beyond "I was a teenage boy one, and shared a room with my brother, and teenage boys smell".

I should add at this stage that I am not a girly girl myself. Far from it. If anything, I'm a tomboy. I have long hair but rarely wear make up and live in jeans and trainers outside of work. I love rugby, cricket and F1. But I still really really wanted a girl and don't even know that I know why myself.

So if I'm anything to go by (I realise I'm potentially an anomaly however),there is a preference.

I still have no idea why though!

I really wanted a daughter - I don't even know why. As it happens, I have 2 sons and I couldn't wish for lovelier kids. They're sweet, affectionate, and often hilarious.

I also get the 'So will you be trying for a girl next time?' questions. I've been given all sorts of advice about how to make sure I conceive a girl, and all of it was bloody batshit.

Anyone sane would prefer a son. Only reason little girls are preferred is because women are crazy!!

So true. Plus if you have a girl it’s likely that some random will post pictures of her on an Internet forum in an attempt to publicly shame her.

Anyone sane would prefer a son. Only reason little girls are preferred is because women are crazy!!

I have two boys. The younger was born with health issues and almost didn't survive surgery at almost two days old. He's fine now.

I have no intention of having a third, but if I did I wouldn't waste one single second worrying about gender. People who do often throw out 'of course a healthy baby is the main thing' so casually that you can tell they have never even considered the possibility of not having a healthy baby. So entitled and also naive.

We have friends who have taken five years and three IVF attempts to conceive. Still people have asked her if she is disappointed that it's a boy.

My grandma had passed a little before I got pregnant and my mother was pushing me to call my baby after my grandma, if it was a girl. I didn't want to so I was hoping for a boy. I would've called a girl what I wanted but didn't want to hurt my mum who was still grieving. I had a boy and he is such a character. My mum finds him hilarious.

Anyone sane would prefer a son. Only reason little girls are preferred is because women are crazy!!
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I couldn’t give a shit if the child im pregnant with is a boy or a girl.
I’m more worried about having to possibly have a late termination (I’m almost 24 weeks) due to a rare heart problem.

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Seriously people, get a grip. My response about my sons energy was in response to someone saying they find little boys too energetic. I was pointing out that energy isn't a bad thing. I would have missed out on everything my beautiful boy is if I'd had a girl instead. I now also have girls who I've no doubt will be equally as energetic. No idea why we have to spout off potty mouths at every given opportunity either. Delightful stuff!

I have one of each. I had my dd first and some people did say what a shame she wasn’t a boy! Which obviously goes against the norm on this thread! I didn’t care! I just wanted a baby and would have been equally happy if she’d been a boy!

Once ds one was born I was told I didn’t need to have any more children as I had one of each

I wasn’t bothered what they were I just wanted them to be healthy. (Horrific pregnancies)

If we had any more I’d be equally happy with either.

Frankly the thing that pisses me off more than anything is gender stereotyping. - i get pissed off with all the 'it's a boy thing' or 'typical boy' or the variations on don't cry be brave because you're a boy! Not from me but from others - especially older generations. I try to challenge this gently but occasionally crack and say loudly ' please don't say that. I don't like this gender stereotyping' - it does not make a blind bit of notice! And now I am pissed off because DS has started saying things like 'you should wear pink because you are a girl mummy' - SIGH. Rant over