To ask why little girls seem to be preferred?

[foxtaildream]

Is it just me who has noticed this?

I originally wanted a girl because I stupidly thought itd be easier to deal with as I am a girl so would have some insight. I was more frightened of having and caring for a boy.
Anyway I had a son and hes amazing! So this time I thought right im prepared for a boy..... now im having a girl hahaha

I havent actually noticed any one around me prefer girls unless its because they already have one or more boys. My closest friend actually really wanted a boy because she had been told they were easier!

pet never mind "nice try", the statistics about men preferring boys speak for themselves. Tons of studies. Google them. Hun.
Of course your DH would say he wanted girls, he's trying to convince hImself. Load of shit. He protests too much. Of course he may be an exception, but the odds are he isn't as he's trying to save face. You seem strangely defensive about this.
More to your attitudes than meets the eye I suspect.

Yes I absolutely wanted a girl. I didn’t mind having one boy, but I DID NOT want two boys. Couldn’t think of anything more dreadful. Thankfully that never happened!

Can’t think of anything more dreadful than that idiotic statement. Or stupid.

Some of the replies ARe seriously bizarre. Esp the poster downthread -cant remember which - that said we all want girls and if we say otherwise are in denial. Unhinged if you ask me.

Repeating myself here but I absolutely had no preference until after first dc, who happened to be a girl and I was and still am delighted with her. After that I did start to want a Ds, as I think wanted to experience both (esp having hardly any platonic male relations) but would have loved a second daughter too equally.

All this bollocks about being looked after in later life by a daughter seems very selfish to me. Do people really think about it that clinically?

On that note my ex-H is nearly 50 and so close to Ex-Mil. Holidays, regular visits, he really takes care of her. More so as she's a widow now. My 13 yr old ds and I were walking past a group of his school friends just today, at an age where I was really self-conscious, him saying he likes it when we link arms.

As for the 2 children ideal, one of each thing. Yes that's what I have, do I feel smug? no. Mainly because I think often of the two I lost in between.

One of the many beliefs that the internet has reinforced in me is that many people are batshit.

My mum wanted a boy and ended up with 4 girls

The post up thread about boys having behavioural issues so people prefer girls...

Reading this thread it's no wonder boys have issues! At best they're tolerated by their mums and expected to fuck off and find their own family, and are not invited to spend time with their mums because of course they won't want to go shopping and drink coffee did you try even inviting them. At worst they are unwanted and clearly only tolerated in favour of much more wanted girls.

jesus this thread makes sad reading. And people say pink brain/blue brain exists, it's nothing to do with the way sexes are brought up...

DSIS and i’s
Yikes

Yep meant upthread - always get that wrong. And you're right really, makes sad reading. I don't know anyone openly anti-boys just for being boys and if I did they'd get short shrift from me.

Girls are great.
Boys are great.

FACT.

There. It’s definitely true now. Because I’ve said it is. TRUE FACT.

Everyone else is lying and deluded.

oneofthegrundys

Yes you are completely right

I have no idea of exactly how but you are yelling FACT alot so it must be true

I know someone with two girls who (with her husband) decided to try one last time for a boy

She got twin girls

Wanted a son and a daughter, have one DS who I adore - I think the mother / son bond is amazing and unlike any other.

Yes I absolutely wanted a girl. I didn’t mind having one boy, but I DID NOT want two boys. Couldn’t think of anything more dreadful. Thankfully that never happened!

I can think of lots of things more dreadful. Miscarriage, stillbirth, having an baby with a life threatening illness... etc
Some people!

I think the mother / son bond is amazing and unlike any other

But how would you know? It’s probably just like the mother/daughter bond, or the father/daughter bond, or the father/son bond...

I wanted a boy first, as little boys are beyond cute , but now I have two I would like a daughter, I think it is because I'm curious what a girl would look like and also I think women are slightly more genetic related to their little girls. I would like a daughter before my maternal grandmother dies but I think I've left it too late. My DH only wants boys though.

I quite wanted a girl to help smash the patriarchy.

Yes I felt that very much OP, contrary to many cultures I perceive daughters are preferential here, possibly it's the "so I can dress her up" mentality or simply perceived as less trouble. When I had my boys, now grown up that was certainly the case. I also found, particularly in primary school, there was an older type of female teacher, often close to retirement, who vocalised their preference for girls and had a lack of empathy for their male pupils. I think some boys suffer from the lack of male teachers when going through school.

I think the mother / son bond is amazing and unlike any other
But how would you know? It’s probably just like the mother/daughter bond,

I know. I've got one of each. The mother son bond in my experience is fab. So is the mother daughter bond. I don't get why people make a fuss of one over the other. You love what you get.

PET your probably one of these mums who aborted if the fetus was a boy.
Your mother-in law had a son which who you then married and had a family with so Boys are a biological neccesary !

"I think the mother / son bond is amazing and unlike any other"

So did my mother but in reality this was simply her internalised self hatred. She hated girls, everything to do with girls, femininity and the expression of it, even the natural pitch of a girl's voice.

Normal people who aren't emotionally damaged don't think that ahving a particular set of genitals makes their male baby more special than their female baby./

Your mother-in law had a son which who you then married and had a family with so Boys are a biological necessary

Yes I was going to say for all her loathing of males she still managed to have one to have sex with her to give her these AMAZING daughters

I hope you end up with all male grandchildren. Or maybe that wouldn’t be fair on them to have a grandmother who despises them because they have a penis.

Petbear, life doesn't always work out the way you think it will, adult daughters are quite capable of cutting their own mothers out of their lives along with grandchildren. I know one woman whose daughter has done that, but she is very close to her son.

I've only noticed the occasional poster on here say it. Never heard it IRL.
I was thrilled when I found out I was having a boy.

I'm surprised so many posters haven't encountered this. I have lived on both sides of the pond and seen a slight cultural preference for girls in both places. Definitely it is talked about amongst my friends - not ALL my friends, but I have quite a few who would openly admit they are glad to have girls / disappointed not to have a girl.

I can't get worked up about it, considering that in most other cultures and through nearly the entirety of history, boys have been vastly preferred.

I think it's bizarre to hear it. I've lived at both ends of the U.K. and abroad, have observed family and friends and haven't noticed this prejudice. Unless maybe someone has say 3 girls or 3 boys and would quite like the opposite for once then I don't know what you're on about.