To think this a bit off?

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I'm in a friendship group of 3. One of them is getting married soon. I've always considered her a close mate we used to speak every night, I've done her loadsa favours etc. I had started to feel like it was a bit one sided tbh.
Anyway she's having 8 bridesmaids some family, some her partners friends and you've guessed it the other friend out of the 3 but not me. Tactless much?

And 12 ushers

Fuck her OP. My remaining 'best' friend the other day said she'd be hard pushed to pick her bridesmaids (she was one of mine?!) as she'd only probably have 3 and there are 4 of us she's closest to.

Told her if it came to that just don't ask me - because I'd rather say I didn't want to do it, than just be forgotten about.

On the upside her partner never wants to get married, ever, so win win I guess.

No wonder so many people give up on friends

She doesn't sound like much of a friend. I'm betting on evening do invitation with a tout for cash - update us!

Being a bridesmaid can suck if the bride is bridezilla. This one sounds the type so you've dodged a bullet but I'd stop the favour train as she sounds like one of life's takers.

My thoughts exactly @Yellow

8 bridesmaids? That's just ridiculous in itself!

It wpuld be very different if you werent such a small friendship group. Its a real kick in the teeth to show you your value. Especially as shes having such a big party.

If your group was bigger then id lean the other way. My friend asked 2 her best friend out of us 6 and still 2 others took offence at the 'slight'.

Definitetely no more putting yourself out.

12 USHERS?! This is getting worse!

8 adult women bridesmaids? That's going to be messy. A friend of mine had 6, they ended up falling out big time

You've defiantly dodged a bullet.

8 bridesmaids and 12 ushers?

It's like an episode of Say Yes to the Dress (a programme which I am ashamed to admit a slight addiction to)

His mates are her bridesmaids? Now, that's just bloody weird.

You got off lightly, good time to back away from the friendship.

Adding to the chorus of saying I wouldn't attend the wedding either.

Eight bridesmaids and 12 ushers?? Will there be any actual guests at this thing?

Yep seems they can't say no to anybody but me

You were her friend and she not yours

I really hope she doesn't invite me tbh

To the actual wedding you mean?

If she does, will you go?

If she doesnt she really shows her feelings. I suspect she will though. What will you do if she does?

I will go but I won't be putting myself or my family out

That sounds like a plan op. You still get so socialise with others, i just wouldnt put too much effort into a card or gift.

I’ll only have one of my close mates as a bridesmaid, then my sister, cousin, best work mate ... so many people expect to be a bloody bridesmaid and someone will always be offended.
Maybe she thinks you’re really kind hearted and would understand more than others so she felt safe leaving you off ?

Ah forget her. She knew it would hurt you and she did it anyway.

If you go to the wedding, give her a crap gift or none at all. Just joking or am I?