To think if my marriage ever ends it will be because of SNORING!

[Bedsox]

Aaarrgghhh I cant stand that fucking noise that comes out of my other wise lovely DH! I honestly dont remeber the last time we spent the night in bed together but we live in a small 2 bed house and his snoring radiates through the house waking me and my 18 month old dd!

Ive always hated the sound of snoring it fills me with rage i remeber just wanting to punch my DF in the face every time he fell asleep on the sofa!

DH knows his snoring is bad and rather selfishly fell asleep at 8pm banishing me to the bedroom with no telly so i tried watching documentries on you tube while knitting and that sound is soooooo disruptive. I dont want to sound dramatic but his constant snoring is ruining our lives i feel so tired and tearful! I cant use ear plugs as come the morning i become a very heavy sleeper probably because of exhaustion and im scared i wont hear my dd or alarm.

What can i do? I am on the verge of asking him to make other living arrangements which i dont want to do i love my DH so much but i can feel myself becoming resentful.

Thanks for reading any advice or coping tips welcome!

Oh great news I think people in the past have laughed off snoring. It's so serious to the person who snores and the people their snoring effects. Good luck Bedsox 👍

Omg I feel your pain. I too am going through exactly the same as you. I'm at the end of my tether & have today convinced my partner that he needs to seek some professional help about this. I've suspected OSA for some time now & he ticks all the boxes for it so I'm 99% certain that he has this. I literally can't sleep in the same room as him & he's also disturbing the children. It's absolutely horrendous, I can't get to sleep & then I'm really angry because I'm tired & Irritable. It really is no fun & poses a massive health risk to them as well. I'm taking him to the gp this week because we can't carry on with things as they are & Im not leaving there til we've got a referral. I'm glad there are other people here to talk to because it's awful & it's affecting my life & our life as a couple.

To the poster who said that the CPAP machine hissed,it means his masks not on properly it may be the nasal bit is the wrong size. He should mention it at his next appointment.

My dh is in the spare room tonight, I'm normally very nice about his snoring but I have insomnia and once I'm awake I can't get back to sleep so at 2am this morning I was incandescent. If he's not snoring he's heavy breathing and makes these bloody clicking sounds. Last night he'd get to a crescendo then twitch which would then stir him and the cycle would start again. Not tonight Bernard off you fuck to the spare room with the cats so they don't wake me either.

I'm amazed that nobody has admitted to constantly prodding and nudging their partners as soon as they start snoring and just seem to lay there in silence. I'm constantly poking and occasionally (gently when I have my back to him and don't want to turn around!) kicking DH to stop him snoring. I couldn't just lay there and listen because it makes me so stressed.

If it's that bad he does tell me when he's going to bed so I've got a chance to get in first and fall asleep. Thankfully I'm a deep sleeper and don't wake up when he gets in.

Dr, lose weight don’t drink alcohol. Helped for ys

I constantly push, pine, shake my DH when he snores but it’s totally pointless. All he does is go straight back to sleep and start snoring again.

My Dh snores so bad if he lies on his back (there's a running joke that their balls cover their butthole and creates an air lock ) ... I just roll him over to his side but he's usually considerate enough to let me fall asleep first! My SIL split up with her bf for snoring and I thought she was joking at first! (they are back together now) I think she realised most men do! It really does rattle the brain when you're tired and could easily swift kick him off the bed or sit on a pillow on top of him but woooosssaaaaaaa...it's not worth the time haha!

Although there are a few PP making light of this is really really isn't funny whatsoever! Its marriage destroying. Proding doesn't help. They just wake up and back to normal a few minutes later.

Snorers neve seem to have any issue going to sleep very quickly.

Luckily we have a spare room but I would much rather share with DH. He wont do anything about it and accepts its separate rooms even on holiday (which adds to the cost)

I prod my DH awake when he snores. He will then grumpily inform me that he "wasn't even asleep so how can he be snoring?".

He then gets threatened with violence if he doesn't stop snoring.

DH is so loud and when he's not snoring, he grinds his teeth. Not overweight, doesn't drink etc and GP says no physical problems.

He makes sure that at least twice a week, he doesn't come to bed until I'm deeply asleep so I get a decent night's sleep a few times a week at least.

DH says that too Brat. Infuriating. I've recorded him on my phone to prove otherwise

GreatDuckCookery I've done that too. I also downloaded an app called snore lab I think and showed him the readings it recorded of his snoring.

My xOh snored soooo loudly. I sleep much better now! The only thing I can suggest - for those who find divorce a bit of an extreme remedy - is to try different sorts of ear plugs. I found the wax ones most helpful but what works for one person doesn't for another. You can buy bags of mixed ones to experiment with.

Might have to download snore lab too

I suppose I'm lucky that it takes DH several minutes to get back to sleep whenever I push him. He's currently getting a taste of his own medicine as I'm pregnant and apparently I snore when pregnant and I'm keeping him awake!

I offered to sleep on the sofa but he seems to prefer that I stay in bed so he can suffer and then complain the next day.

My DH snores like a train as well - but then, apparently, so do I. Fortunately I just pop in some earplugs and that takes the sound down low enough to allow me to sleep. You could get him checked out for sleep apnoea or see if any of these snoring aids might work, but when you're really bothered think about something I was told by an elderly friend.
Her husband had died the year before. She told me she'd give just about anything to be lying beside him listening to him snoring again. So next time it annoys you, earplugs and either a good book or a good show. And thank God you have found someone whose only real fault is that he snores very loudly.

Really helpful The my mum has not long died should I therefore tell you that you should be grateful for your Mum? It completely invalidates a persons feelings when you say things like that. Not helpful at all.

If dh ever does go first i have no doubt that i will probably feel that way and say thise exact words however being deprived of a basic need and having to listen to soul destroying noise is currently ruining my life and for mant other people its the same. Its a lovely sentiment don't get me wrong but im afraid it doesn't really help me or anyone else right now.

could be sleep apnea. best get it check. not just a fat person's disease either. you can get snore pillows as well but not sure how effective they are. i feel for you, OP, but remember people do not choose to snore

DP only snores on his back so I give him a hard boot!

My triggers are light and heat. I sleep with a fab ( provides white noise and breath ability) and an eye mask ( no light)

I’d attempt a far on x

16.5 stone is massively overweight ... my DP ( he is young) is 9st and 6’0

Even 14 stone is overweight he should be absolute max 13.5

He is currently addressing his weight issue. Hes always seemed healthy to me i dont really understand bmi though.

I personally don't think weight loss helps, it didn't for my DH. He's snored since he was a teen (his brother used to hit him with his skateboard from the top bunk ) He does smoke though and has for a long time so maybe it's that? Argh I dnot know