32 weeks pregnant and don't want sex

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DP is harassing me. I don't want to be touched, I'm grumpy, my hips hurt, my lady bits are sore. He says that I should be able to go all the way up to birth and should be able to have sex.

AIBU?

Absolutly not, I had 3 months left and it hurt to have sex/even have an orgasm (made my body ache for hours) . He's being a selfish dick

How weird that's what he's taken away as only one person mentioned rape.

Your boundaries are fucked if you think that this is amusing. It's not.

The person who mentioned rape, I took it to mean they were really indicating that the OP was over-reacting and should shut up.

"If he's attempting to rape you you should report him to the police".

@Gottagetmoving - tone? It sounds like you haven’t read the OP:

DP is harassing me. I don't want to be touched, I'm grumpy, my hips hurt, my lady bits are sore. He says that I should be able to go all the way up to birth and should be able to have sex

He doesn’t have to ‘understand’ - a no should be enough. It’s nice in a relationship to say when you’re in pain, especially because of pregnancy, but ‘should’ in the context of sex is all wrong.

Luckily it seems like having read the thread he’s decided to cease and decist for the time being. Maybe he’ll reconsider the harassment that will undoubtedly happen when OP is 12 weeks post partum and medically cleared fit for sex.

Do me a bloody favour scottishdiem - his "pleasure" is quite rightly the last thing on her bloody mind. Women have to sacrifice so much to have a man's baby, doing without sex for a few months without acting like a toddler is the least he can do, frankly. It's not pushing him away in the least, the issue is his lack of respect for how much she is suffering, which is highly unattractive

Gross. So he wants you have sex with him knowing that you don't want to and will cause you pain?

I can think of much worse words for him than vile. How long is he going to let you have after the birth before he starts harassing you again?

Your standards are too low OP.

tone? It sounds like you haven’t read the OP

It sounds like you haven't read OPs posts since her original one.
Couples have conversations like this without it being threatening or sinister. He's whingeing a bit about sex and repeating something he has read, she is telling him she doesn't want it and why. OP has explained their relationship is good and loving.... but hey, let this one thing be a reason to condemn him as a vile husband?
OP probably shouldn't have used the word 'harass' as it makes it sound more serious.

Hmm maybe harass was too strong a word then... we banter a lot and he's kind, loving, also the funniest person I've ever met - I'm most definitely not in an abusive relationship!!

It was just that this morning I was in a 'don't touch me' mood and he kept the banter up so I said I'd post on here so he could get an idea that it's normal to go off sex when in the later stages of pregnancy.

Both of us have a high sex drive and up until now sex every day is completely normal- id oblige with a BJ however my sense of smell and gag reflex is off the scale right now

I feel like I've been kicked all day in the foof today- baby is also head up snd really active- cue me feeling bruised and yuk.

It’s not kind or loving to continue asking for sex when your partner says no. I get he may normally be nicer than this, but please don’t excuse this behaviour as banter. “Yuk” is about the kindest opinion anyone has on here!

Please keep showing him this thread, because I'll add my two cents:

YOU, you stupid, vile, selfish little man, have NO RESPECT for your wife that is building an entire new human being out of two half cells.

Only ONE HALF CELL of those is yours. Everything else on that baby was built by your wife's energy from your wife's resources.

And all you can think about is getting your knob wet and your orgasms? You are selfish, stupid, inconsiderate and a sex pest.

To the OPs husband.
To get an idea of how your wife is physically feeling.
You've got to imagine someone sporadically, randomly, poking you hard in the bladder, kidneys, stomach, lungs
Lie on your back, add several bags of flour to your abdomen, make sure re one of the bags was dropped there, try moving.
Then do the splits. That pressure in the groin is similar to what your wife is feeling.
Chop a chili, go wee without washing your hands. That burning sensation ??

Feel like sex after all that?

Does he think all woman should have sex with their partner (even if they don’t want to) if there’s no medical reason not to?

I'm 39 weeks and haven't had sex with DH since about 20 weeks.

Growing a human is hard work, and that's without all the side effects!

Nausea, back ache, extreme tiredness xx