32 weeks pregnant and don't want sex

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DP is harassing me. I don't want to be touched, I'm grumpy, my hips hurt, my lady bits are sore. He says that I should be able to go all the way up to birth and should be able to have sex.

AIBU?

So showing the dh this thread has brought about this rapid turnaround in his attitude.

Gosh. Who'da thought it?

If he’s attempting to rape you you should report him to the police.

I dont know why all the smiley faces OP. Your dh is acting like a complete and utter dick. Its not funny

This ^

I feel sorry for you OP if you think this is funny.

God, anyone whining at me for sex when I was in pain would suddenly lose all appeal to me, permanently.

You aren't an object who's there to service his needs. Sex is supposed to be mutually pleasurable and he's supposed to want it to be mutually pleasurable.

Is he actually prepared for going without for a good while after the baby is born, should you not want it for months?

Real men never get whiny when their partner doesn’t want sex, for whatever reason.

Next time find yourself a real man.

So it took a bunch of strangers on the internet to convince your husband he was being a 'twat' abusive man

He didn't listen to you though. You and your unborn baby that you and your husband made together in love and in respect. Those should be the two most important things in his life right now.

He's not a keeper.

I'm in the same boat OP! 27 weeks and really achy. Dh keeps making references to my last pregnancy saying we did it all the time then etc. Well, I've grown up a lot and I'm not just going to do something I don't want to to avoid a mood. Neither should you.

So, he needed to hear it from strangers on the internet before he stopped pressuring you for sex? The fact that YOU told him you were tired, had aching hips and were sore wasn’t enough?

Jesus wept, having a baby with this twat is going to be a fucking nightmare.

If you’re going to stay with this wanker, I suggest you start some threads now...

AIBU not to be up for sex nano seconds after I’ve delivered our baby?

AIBU to think he could hold the baby while I take a shower?

AIBU to think it’s not ok to leave the baby to cry while he ‘finishes’?

...it’ll be an extensive list.

We didn’t have sex at all during pregnancy. Three kids. Just didn’t feel comfortable. There is no obligation to do it if you don’t want to.

You don't need a medical reason to say no to sex. Ever.

It is very common for pregnant women and those who have recently had babies to not want sex and be uncomfortable with it. For an open ended timespan.

Any partner who pressures for it should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves, and I am glad that he appears to be retreating. Long may it last. Stick to your guns. No means no, and you don't need a doctor's note.

Is he so old fashioned in the rest of his thinking also?

Does he leave you to do the house work etc?

Well I hope he realises he has been a dick but a shame it's taken the views of strangers on the internet for him to realise it

We didn’t have sex at all during my first pregnancy due to illness and in fact it was well over six months after the birth when we finally dtd again! Might even have been nearer to a year. My DH didn’t complain because he’s a reasonable decent human being!

he is shocked at being called vile

He should be shocked to realise he is being vile.

I have a feeling you will be posting a lot about him after the baby is born and he is no longer number 1. Abuse often begins during pregnancy and hassling someone for sex is abusive.

He's a Cunt.

He is a dick. That's all. Maybe you'd be more in the mood with someone less horrible. Maybe not.

He is a cunt

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LOL snap

He really shouldnt need to be told. Its worrying that he did. I would bear in mind he may harrass you as soon as you've given birth through a lack of 'understanding'.

Dp and i didnt get sex for 18 months due to a risk of miscarriage and then bad tearing during birth. He was horny as was i but considered himself 'lucky i even want sex with him' after seeing how poorly i was.

I went off sex around 34w pregnant as it felt funny and I wasn’t enjoying it. Does your partner really want sex with someone doesn’t want sex and won’t enjoy it???? Sex is meant to be mutually enjoyable.

My DH hasn’t complained and I am sure we will resume our sex life once I have recovered fully from the birth.

Your partner has hands - he can use them! If he doesn’t want to wank he can do something useful like cook dinner or put the vac round!!!!

Tell you DH to strap a weight to his front, put on a bra and stuff that full of weights as well. Kick him in the balls so he gets the idea of sore lady parts. Tell him to do the housework for 2 hours after being kicked in the balls and then see if he wants to have sex with the weights still on of course.

Tell him he's lucky, my body became a sacred vessel for the last seven months. Selfish bastard.