32 weeks pregnant and don't want sex

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DP is harassing me. I don't want to be touched, I'm grumpy, my hips hurt, my lady bits are sore. He says that I should be able to go all the way up to birth and should be able to have sex.

AIBU?

The tea video applies here. If you don't want tea, you don't need a reason, other than you don't want it. No one should be pressuring you or making you feel bad about not wanting it.

For clarity i meant both partners have to be willing for sex to take place. Otherwise there is, at best, an element of coercion (not acceptable).

If you were not pregnant he would still be wrong to pressure you for sex.

He wants to stick his dick into a part of your body that is sore ? Is he planning to stop if you actually cry?

Why are you laughing at your situation ?

I had HG and severe SPD (on crutches - such fun).

No way in hell would DH even mention sex.

Abusive ex on the other hand called me selfish, and said if I didn’t put out, I shouldn’t be surprised if he went elsewhere for it. Nice.

Worried if he’s like this now, what he’ll be like after. Again, current DH never pestered after babies. Ever.

However, abusive ex did.

Good luck with the birth x

He feels very ashamed of him self and says he now understands and we will not be having sex until well after baby is here and he's so sorry for being at twat

If you can only say “no”to your oh when you have a medical reason (do you need a sick note?). You really have got a cockwomble for a husband.

He should love and respect you, as both his wife and mother of his growing baby, he doesn’t sound very loving or respectful.

I do hope he knows you may well be ‘out of service’ for weeks or possibly even months after you have you baby. I know of one couple where she had such a horrific time she refused him altogether for a full eight years!

What a shame he couldn't respect you enough to accept you saying no and it has apparently taken strangers on the internet for him to understand the concept of consent.

Glad he's listened op, but he needs to have a think about why it took mn to tell him off before listening to you and treating you with a little respect.

No medical reason for not doing it? What's his medical reason for doing it?

If you both want to, great. If one of you doesn't, then it doesn't happen. End of!

I don't think either of you are taking this seriously enough

Good because that attitude is vile! Bloody lord of the manor mainsplaining crap.

Mansplaining even.

I'm 34 weeks, with significant medical issues, and haven't had sex with my DH since we found out I was expecting.
Sickness, then the spd kicked in once the sickness wore off at about ten weeks.
DH hasn't mentioned it, and doesn't even touch me unless I ask as my skin feels so sore and I feel so touched out all the time.

But, even if I didn't have spd, it's my body, and if I said no he would never ever get mad with me.
I think your DH is in for a shock post birth when you might not want it for a year. Stitches, tiredness, breast feeding...

There might well be no medical reason, but since when did you need a medical reason to say no to sex? Prior to being pregnant I said no because I was too full, too drunk, feeling bloated, mad because he wouldn't let me feed the street children in a dream, in clean sheets and didn't want to mess them up... all valid reasons because I didn't want to. He has also not wanted to because he was stressed about the car, bloated, had a headache, wanted to go to the gym... the list goes on. It's your choice, your body, and he needs to respect that. He should also be apologising profusely now. What a tool.

Oh gosh! I'm only 24 weeks pregnant and we haven't had sex in weeks. My hips hurt and I just don't feel like it. My DH hasn't pressured me once and understands completely. I hope yours is more understanding from now on!

I didn't have penetrative sex for a year with both of my pregnancies

No man who really loves their partner behaves like this.
And as for after the baby....took me about a year to feel like doing much! My DH was patient kind and loving whatever

Errmmm I think he may be in for a shock when the baby is here. Not many people feel sexy after they’ve had about 3 hours sleep in 24 hours and not all in one go and have a newborn screaming at them...!

He doesn’t sound very nice to be honest.

I'm glad he has seen the error of his ways, but bloody hell, why did it have to take randoms on the internet for him to realise.

He should be ashamed of himself.

He feels very ashamed of him self and says he now understands and we will not be having sex until well after baby is here and he's so sorry for being at twat smile

Good. Now OP's DP - the important thing - what are you going to do to make up for it? :)

It shouldn't take a load of women on the internet to make him understand that heavily pressuring a woman into sex that she does not want is awful.

And that's before you get to the point that you have told him that you are sore, your hips hurt, so he actually is OK with hurting you just so he can have an orgasm?

Tell him to fuck off and have a wank and if it were me I'd be incredibly angry. If my DH did this I would interpret it to mean that he doesn't give a fuck about me. And then I'd need to decide how to proceed from there.

Is he often like this? A total cunt, I mean.

Oh Goddess - I don't mean the sex - I mean make it up to the OP for being a twat.

touch me and you die vibe with dc2 from 30wk