AIBU to ask opinions on this outfit..

[QueenArnica]

BIL’s wedding in August, dh is best man, dd (14) bridesmaid and ds (11) an usher.

It won’t be super formal but I wanted something different to just a normal dress. Would wear hair in a messy side bun with a flower probably and have ordered a pair of gorgeous matching heels.

Opinions please lovely mumsnetters..

It’s lovely and I love Coast. Definitely not bridal... I’d love it if somebody wore that to my wedding. Enjoy!

Really great outfit especially as you’ve confirmed it’s not white.
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It looks more like a very pale greyish pink to me, rather than white.

Look, OP, you obviously like it. Why do you ask for validation from a bunch of strangers? Just buy it if you like it! The consensus seems to be "don't wear white". So, even if you're feeling the need to take note of what random people are saying, it's fine - because it's not white!

For an August wedding I'd want something which let the air circulate a bit more (a floaty dress, strappy sleeves etc) in case it's a baking hot day - not an all in one with longish sleeves.

Rainbowsandflowers have you got out of bed the wrong side this morning? Firstly I would say opinion is divided pretty equally which negates your, “everyone is telling you but you don’t want to listen” comment.

Secondly the bride to be and I are bety close and trust me she is not afraid to speak her mind. So if she says she loves it then who am I or you to say she’s lying?

Have a great day

And I am part of the wedding party

Ah, part of thr wedding party is best man, bridesmaids, that sort of thing. Being close or staying the night before doesn't make you part of thr wedding party. Your husband and kids are part of the wedding party, you im sorry are not. What colour is "non white"

As said for many people, wearing white/cream/ivory to a wedding is a no no and many of the guests will look at you and think that, but you need to do what you're comfortable with.

Definitely not too bride or bridesmaid like! Unless the bride was wearing a pale trouser suit.

The only thing I wouldn’t do is the shoes. The coast site show it with nude heels, but I don’t think it goes, it looks more silvery/grey to me and I’d go for silver/grey shoes or even a really bright colour. You could match to a flower or bag too and I think that would look less bridal and more in keeping with a summer wedding.
Plus I prefer chunkier shoes with jumpsuits.

Absolutely love that, if it was white then I'd day no but its not, its very pale yes but not white. It also has the flowers on it which makes it more appropriate.

The woman questioning how she got an answer so quick...erm...what's app or something?

calzone yes am thinking either red or shocking pink with matching bag

Not remotely bridal, and very lovely.

Yep ‘‘twas WhatsApp, it’s a wonderful thing!

If you can carry it off, with height, I think it would make a lovely outfit for the occasion and for your role i.e. maybe not so much for MOB ! I agree with the guest not wearing white etiquette rule, but this is simply pale plus there is a pattern.

I think it’s gorgeous.

If it's not white and the bride is fine with it then go for it. It's beautiful I suspect some of the more unpleasant comments are from those who just couldn't carry an outfit like this off. I certainly couldn't. 😂 There's nothing wrong with offering an opinion (you asked for one anyway), but the 'desperate' comments are just unkind and unnessesary. It's a shame some posters resort to this.

As you've run it past the bride I think it will be fine and if you've got the figure for it it will look lovely.
I wouldn't have minded f anyone wore it to my wedding but I know some people feel strongly about those kinds of colours so I wouldn't wear it to a wedding myself - unless id checked with the bride. So go for it OP!

It's lovely!

I'm normally one of the 1st people to say don't wear white to a wedding, but I don't class that jumpsuit as white or non-appropriate. It looks very wedding guesty to me!

Perfect! I love that. Definitely not too white and also, it's a completely different item of clothing to a wedding dress!! Perhaps an ivory lace floor length gown would be pushing it, but this, it's beautiful. As are the shoes I think you'll look fab!

Maybe I'll get one for myself just because

I think the poor op was originally asking from a 'does this outfit look nice' point of view but a few people were going on about it being 'too white', hence her then also asking the bride.

There are some very chippy people on this thread!

My ghast is flabbered at some of the comments on here! I’ve been around on here a while and can never understand the unpleasantness that seems to happen.

I absolutely did ask for opinions so thank you to everyone who gave them, whether you agreed with me or not. But calling me “desperate” and being sarcastic that the bride to be replied so quickly are frankly unnecessary. Have a great day everyone

Gorgeous outfit for a wedding OP

I like it but agree with others that I wouldn't wear it to a wedding.

I'd say half the people there would think you are an attention seeker or just not very nice.