AIBU to ask opinions on this outfit..

[QueenArnica]

BIL’s wedding in August, dh is best man, dd (14) bridesmaid and ds (11) an usher.

It won’t be super formal but I wanted something different to just a normal dress. Would wear hair in a messy side bun with a flower probably and have ordered a pair of gorgeous matching heels.

Opinions please lovely mumsnetters..

I get how wearing a white dress or two piece is a massive no no. But this is a NON WHITE jumpsuit with black and grey flowers...

Don’t wear - everyone will just think you are desperate to get married yourself
Don’t wear white to a wedding - there’s hundreds of other colours to wear
If you have to ask if something is acceptable it’s probably not as a general rule

Surely the point of the don't wear white rule is so that nobody mistakes you for the bride. Unless the bride is wearing a white jumpsuit instead of a dress I reckon you'll be fine op.

I wouldn't mind as a bride if someone wore that to my wedding.

I'd ask the bride and say u love this but wasn't gonna buy it as it's a bit white and see what she says.

U could team it with a brightly coloured shawl or cardigan.

It looks very white for something non white!
We are all telling you it’s not suitable and you don’t want to listen!

Yes, you say it's not white, but it is very pale, and I would look for something else. So many other colours and outfits between now and August, I'd keep looking.

Have you asked the bride on her opinion?

It's lovely! And no way is it competing with or similar to a wedding dress.

It’s hard to tell from the photo. If the main colour isn’t white, then what is it?

It is fine. Not likely to offend the bride but you could ask her opinion.

I love the style but the colour would do nothing for me!

It looks slightly pink rather than white & obviously has the pattern - I think it would be fine to wear

Colour fine, IMO. Outfit itself not my thing at all (I don't get jumpsuits, and not keen on the print) but if you're tall and slim I'm sure you'll carry it off splendidly.

I’m all for etiquette and would never wear white to a wedding, but I’d wear that (if it suited me).
Agree with PP though - buy it early in case it doesn’t suit you irl.

Thanks all, I’ve run it past the bride and she loves it so yay!!

Nah, you'll look like a bridesmaid wannabe.

It's too white

If you're lucky enough to be the sort of person who can carry that off then wear it, it's gorgeous. I may be slightly biased though because I love Coast clothes!

If however the bride is a massive twat or pearl clutching mnetter you might want to run it past her first.

Not sure any bride would say they love it! Even if she doesn’t mind it everyone else at the wedding will be judging you. But hey you are going to wear it no matter what anyone says!!

Lovely, I would not be upset with a guest wearing this to my wedding, but it is close enough to white and long that I wouldn't risk it unless I knew the bride was very relaxed about these things.

It's a bit pyjamary for my tastes.

I think there are better choices for a high summer wedding.

I honestly don’t think things with patterns count as ‘white’ in the sense of not wearing white to a wedding.

You could always check with the bride? I wore cream to a wedding once when I was 17, just checked with the bride first that it was appropriate. She couldn’t have cared less!

FWIW I think it’s lovely. I had a jumpsuit in a similar shape but dark green with a pink and white pattern that I wore until the fabric at the crotch wore out!

I think it looks very nice and if you are tall and slim it will look lovely for a string.

Stunning. Doesn't look desperate bridesmaid or bride wanna be at all. It's beautiful and perfect for a wedding. And the bride gave her thumbs up. Winner winner!

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Gosh...that was quick! You ran it past her and got a reply in less than 5 minutes?

Brilliant!

I think a contrasting colour flower in your hair would look nice too......give it a splash of colour.