To ask what your DH/P does that really bugs you?

[HannaPintura]

Mine is useless round the house. Leaves the toilet seat up, does no housework/laundry whatsoever, doesn't put milk bottles in the bin when he's finished with them, doesn't clean the sink after washing up, he comes in late sometimes and starts talking to me when im asleep!

He has good points too obviously but sometimes he makes me want to tear my hair out!

These things never go well. Have you got your response ready for when you get told you’re an ‘enabler’?

I’m pregnant so at the moment him breathing does it for me.
He’s a hard worker though all he does is help out and try to make my life better, so I’m being VERY unreasonable.

Still though, breathing.

Thinking he is tidy - he's not.
Starting jobs - leaving them for months before doing them.
Having too many hobbies.
Buying too much stuff.
Snoring.
Not cooking dinner.

Ha ha icing sausage! His good points make up for all his bad points! If I'm an enabler, then so be it!

Loud chewer. I know he can't help it, but it goes right through me.

He crunches ice cubes too. That he can help, he now knows to leave the room.

BigBaboon, sympathies! Wouldn't it be nice if we could 'turn them off' when they were home?!

Recently I caught my dh washing cooked rice under the hot tap.
Bought him a rice maker!!

My husband is the same. He never takes any notice of things either its all left to me. for e.g we were on our way to dads and I asked him to pick up a couple of bottles of ready made baby milk. Baby has always had cow and gate. Bought ready made stuff a few times. He came back with a completely different sort in blue packaging. I said whats that? He doesn't drink that. He said well i dunno i thought he drank that. I mean ffs how hard is it? Then he says oh what do you want me to do take it back? Yes

Always says leave my t-shirts there and I'll iron them (hi-dry) and leaves for days.

Never puts the ironing board away so it also sits out for days.

Never opens his post, so lies in a pile for weeks.

ROLF @ enabler.

Never tells me when he is going to be late home from work, it drives me mad as I like to have dinner ready for when he gets in so I can clean up sooner and relax for the evening.

So much so, I can't type apparently. LOL.

The noise. Oh god the noise. Has the TV on if he's in the living room (not watching it), has the radio on if he's in the kitchen, marches round the house barking orders at DS and the dog (largely ignored), yawns, sneezes, coughs at FULL VOLUME and as he's a SAHD is very rarely not in the house when I am. I love him dearly but every now and then I get noise fatigue and tell everyone I'm tired and need a nap, then go and hide in the bedroom for two hours reading in noise cancelling headphones

Doesn’t recycle envelopes. So his paperwork file is just stuffed with envelopes.

Mumbles.

Starts things and rarely finishes them. Unless it’s warhammer or a marathon.

Asks me why I’ve done things the way I’ve done them and is always surprised when my response is because it was.

Makes my cuppas too hot.
Rolls the dog onto my side of the bed while i'm brushing my teeth.
Goes out every Friday night for dinner with his family.
Keeps The Child quiet downstairs when i'm having a lie down.

Washing up under a running tap - not putting a plug in and filling the sink a bit. It's usually only for a few things but still!

Loo Seat

Leaving the damp used flannel in a heap on the bath edge. As if anyone would want to use it next like that.

Spending an hour in the bath. I think that one is unreasonable of me but it still really bugs.

Waiting till I am walking out/have just left a room before asking me something. (or just saying "oh..." and then nothing else!)

I have now started ignoring him every time he does it. If it's important (rarely) he'll either come after me or wait till I'm back.

(along with his award-winning levels of faff. And he takes cups of tea into the loo as well which makes me feel sick)

Procrastination followed by panic and finger-pointing when something doesn't get done.

Oh, and trying to summon me for conversations - saying 'OH, THAT'S INTERESTING...' from another room then pausing, theoretically allowing me time to drop whatever I'm doing and rush upstairs/downstairs/room to room to listen, attentively.

It doesn't work

Comes back from work through the front door past the milk delivery whereupon he generally goes to the kitchen anyway!
Other than that he might yet live to 50.

DH is awesome. He does all of the washing up, does the school drop-offs and pick-ups, cooks most of our meals and does all of the laundry. He’s funny and kind and I still fancy him after 12 years together.

However, his slurpy apple eating makes me want to kill him.

Not responding when I ask him a question. . Only answers (just about )when I scream.
He’s so laid back he’s horizontal most of the time.

He will not sit still. He has to be doing something. I love him, but he needs to learn to relax occasionally.

It's my 2nd marriage and i'm still head over heels with him after 12 years, butterflies and everything ... but

WHY does he have to yawn so bloody loudly? There's no need. We can be literally whispering so as not to wake DD and he'll stop whispering to yawn and does this AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRR thing on the out breath loud enough to hear down the street! For.god's.sake!

There i've said it.

The only things are:

• Getting momentarily but unreasonably cross in traffic and while doing DIY
• Not wiping down the kitchen worktop when he makes toast
• Yawning so loudly it makes me jump

Otherwise he is literally perfect.

His three for me would be:

• Not rinsing my toothbrush off properly
• Getting bees in my bonnet about things and having to do them IMMEDIATELY (eg it's dinner time but I just HAVE to hang the new curtains first)
• Not hanging my towel up and then using his instead (this one is MONSTROUS and I really must stop!)