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To ask what your DH/P does that really bugs you?

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HannaPintura · 20/01/2018 16:32

Mine is useless round the house. Leaves the toilet seat up, does no housework/laundry whatsoever, doesn't put milk bottles in the bin when he's finished with them, doesn't clean the sink after washing up, he comes in late sometimes and starts talking to me when im asleep!

He has good points too obviously but sometimes he makes me want to tear my hair out!

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moita · 20/01/2018 20:18

mumonashoestring are we married to the same man? Mine does that!

Starts random DIY projects that require multiple trips to B&Q and telling me in great detail what's he's done/is going to do. Drives me up the wall as he makes lots of noise and spends hours on whatever it is he's doing, then expects me to shower him with praise.

We have 3 calendars around the house because he refuses to use one on his phone, but he never looks at them and expects me to reel off important dates/times. I'm not your bloody PA - look at the calendars!

bedtimestories · 20/01/2018 20:19

I've got over all his annoying habits except the one where he only gets his knife and fork out the draw! You'd think after 14yrs he'd remember he'd be eating with the person passing him his dinner!! I just find it funny now lol

codenameduchess · 20/01/2018 20:20

Everything. His breathing, coughing, faffing, slow driving, chewing, obsession with fucking warhammer, the insistence he's always right when he is wrong soooo often!
Omg and the way he eats cereal, it's inhuman. Who slurps cereal?!

But he's great around the house and with DD, doesn't complain when he has her so I can train for the mental running challenge I'm doing and will generally fix stuff within a few weeks of it breaking.

cloudyweewee · 20/01/2018 20:22

Washes up under a cold running tap.

Leaves drawers and wardrobe doors open.

Does very smelly poos but doesn't open the bathroom window to let the smell out.

moita · 20/01/2018 20:24

the insistence he's always right when he is wrong soooo often!

Yes, my DH will smugly tell me something I know isn't right but he'll insist. I've learnt to ignore it.

Rememberallball · 20/01/2018 20:25

My husband is wonderful - cleans, washes up, shops, cooks. Loves me unconditionally, lives with my mother!!

But.............

He will insist on loading the washing machine and leaving it for days and days to smell musty - and I’ve no idea why he doesn’t just put the machine on.

And he puts his wet towel on the bed (on my side as it’s nearer the door) after his bath and doesn’t mind that it leaves wet patches on the bed!!

Marmite27 · 20/01/2018 20:25

He can’t put a towel back on a rail without screwing it up.

Can’t empty the drain in the sink.

He does all the laundry, most of the dishwasher loading / unloading, some of the cooking and tidying, all the DIY, the bins, some of the gardening and is a very hands on dad, so it could be worse Grin

Marmite27 · 20/01/2018 20:26

Oh and doesn’t put the glass recycling in the box under the stairs Angry

Hairgician · 20/01/2018 20:27

Uses every cup and teaspoon in house rather than rinse and use first one or take one from draining board.

Takes out a clean dishcloth for the sink but then leaves the manky one beside sink instead of leaving by washing machine or in it.

Leaves cupboard doors open.

Keeps hitting bastarding snooze button on alarm in mornings. It's set for 5am. Fucker.

Hairgician · 20/01/2018 20:30

Oh and makes zero effort to be quiet when coming in at night or getting up in mornings.

AnaWinter · 20/01/2018 20:31

Snoring
Thinking a tidy up is a clean
Booking a cleaner at really inappropriate times and thinking he is helpful
Never putting away his clothes that have been washed so much so that I put them in a black bag in the guest room
Discarding any coin from his pockets on random surfaces throughout the house while toddlers are present
Buying the most expensive diy/cleaning piece of equipment that he will never use

Polkadot1974 · 20/01/2018 20:33

Shouting at me for leaving pyjamas on the floor but fine to leave a trail of socks and jeans down the side of his bed...

Skittlesandbeer · 20/01/2018 20:53

Never answering the bloody question he’s asked!

Example:

Me- did you hear the weather report for today on the radio in the kitchen just now? I had to answer a call and missed it?

Him- it’s going to be a sunny day.

Me (finally learning after 15 years)- sorry but was that just you predicting the weather, or DID YOU HEAR THE BUREAU OF METEOROLOGY REPORT?

Him- oh it’s just my gut feeling.

Angry

Also he never asks the right questions himself. I send him out to talk to the plumber, to ascertain if one of us needs to cancel plans and stay around during the job. He returns 40 mins later having ascertained the guy’s football affiliations, preferred coffee, ideas on private schooling and HIS weather predictions- but nothing to do with the job at hand. The job he’s charging us in 15 min increments to do.

Leaves me with steam issuing from ears several times a week!

Skowvegas · 20/01/2018 21:00

Honestly he's wonderful. He works hard, earns good money, takes on more than his share at home, wonderful father, good looking, kind, can cook and do DIY.

CHEWS GUM LOUDLY.

jemmstar1980 · 20/01/2018 21:10

That is he is almost bladdy perfect - actually annoying and makes me look like a crap wife.

So I can’t complain that he has to re- arrange the dishwasher every time! oh and watch sky sports at every opportunity - two cockroaches and a ball ok sky sports he’d watch it!!

Notso · 20/01/2018 21:17

Eats the stinkiest food in the world on the way home from the pub then lies facing me in bed mouth breathing all over me.

Says "we need to do xyz" when he means he wants me to do it, he has no intention of doing it.

Keeps his side of the bedroom super tidy by shoving everything on my side.

Comes into the house, walking past the coat hooks, shoe rack and shelf for keys in the hall. He leaves his coat and bag on the dining room table, his shoes in the doorway between the kitchen and dining room and his keys on the kitchen table.

BG2015 · 20/01/2018 21:23

My DP also rinses dishes under the tap - I was brought up to use a full bowl of HOT soapy water.

He will ask me a question and if I don’t respond IMMEDIATELY will say “err hello?”

He gets annoyed at drivers that do the wrong thing - in his eyes!

BUT.....he does 90% of the cooking, will sort the washing out, cleans, mows the lawn, sorts the bin out and makes me a brew EVERY morning! I’m sure he could think of loads for me.

thegreatbeyond · 20/01/2018 21:30

He is just so big and LOUD all the time.

Also, he never cooks. Yet he keeps saying what a good cook he is, and how my cooking is so bland and plain...

ShotsFired · 20/01/2018 21:40

@BG2015 He will ask me a question and if I don’t respond IMMEDIATELY will say “err hello?”

On a similar note, mine will sometimes all the fucking time ask me a question without looking at me. So if I answer by nodding/shaking my head/shrugging, I get a sarky comment about ignoring him!

BBTHREE76 · 20/01/2018 21:43

Takes his socks off when he gets in from work, and puts them in a ball and leaves them on the floor. (When we have a laundry basket in the bathroom). He also puts things next to the bin rather than in the bin.

IHaveACuntingPlan · 20/01/2018 21:43

Snores
Makes the house smell of coffee
Doesn't put the towels straight on the radiator
Doesn't empty the Hoover or the bin until they're absolutely full and nothing else can fit in at all, by which point I've usually got fed up and emptied them myself

BillyAndTheSillies · 20/01/2018 22:21

Eats with his mouth open, he will be in the kitchen and I'll be in the living room and I can hear him munching and it turns my stomach.

He does the same when we order a takeaway, insists that he will bring the food to me in the living room and I can just hear him chomping on the food.

Will give me time to get ready and entertain DS while I'm doing so, but then has a tendency to bundle DS in to the car just as I come down the stairs. Then we will get where we are going and either DS's changing bag isn't with us or it's empty on wipes or empty on nappies or his beaker isn't in there. Drives me nuts.

Other than that, he's pretty bloody fantastic!

Proseccoagain · 20/01/2018 22:25

Makes that puh sound when he breathes in bed; mops up spills on the kitchen floor with a paper kitchen towel and his bare foot; never wipes the kitchen work tops over when he's washed up; has to go to the loo just as I'm about to dish up; faffs around whenever we're due to go anywhere so I now tell him we have to leave by 10 instead of 11 (then he might actually be ready by 11 which is the time I wanted to leave anyway); but he's very kind and generous and he's mine!

isthismummy · 20/01/2018 22:34

Chews with his mouth open and can't use a knife and fork properly. His parents never taught himSad I've now resorted to telling him every time he chews loudly!

Twirls his hair in his fingers all the time. It's a life long habit. Fine in the house, but I could throttle him when he does it outside.

Buys endless numbers of retro football shirts that we don't have the storage for.

Terrible sloucher. It's a good job our couch is already secondhand and knackered.

I on the other hand am perfect. I'm sure I don't have a single habit that annoys himWink

10thingsIKnowAboutYou · 20/01/2018 22:38

Walks around the house with his mug and leaves rings on all tables - drives me NUTS and after 17 years he still can't "remember" a coaster.

Starts talking about something and leaves the room - while still talking - so I either have to follow him around to have a proper conversation or just miss the second part of whatever he is saying - I used to make an effort but now I just ignore and when he comes back and says "so what do you think?" I make his tell me all over again.

Talks in his sleep, and loudly!!!