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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask what your DH/P does that really bugs you?

101 replies

HannaPintura · 20/01/2018 16:32

Mine is useless round the house. Leaves the toilet seat up, does no housework/laundry whatsoever, doesn't put milk bottles in the bin when he's finished with them, doesn't clean the sink after washing up, he comes in late sometimes and starts talking to me when im asleep!

He has good points too obviously but sometimes he makes me want to tear my hair out!

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10thingsIKnowAboutYou · 20/01/2018 22:39

mops up spills on the kitchen floor with a paper kitchen towel and his bare foot
Oh this would drive me mad!!!

LuluJakey1 · 20/01/2018 22:43

Pees like a horse- drives me mad.
Talks to me in the middle of the night if he can't sleep.
Leaves tea mugs in the study until they grow things.

Tisfortired · 20/01/2018 22:45

The other day we were getting ready to go out. Me and DS we're dressed ready to go, shoes and coats on.

DP goes in his wardrobe to choose a top, and chooses right then to go through ALL of his tops, for keeping and the charity shop, and organised them all. Why?!

8DaysAWeek · 20/01/2018 22:45

Tonight I found out he used my new demister pad to wipe the OUTSIDE of the car windscreen.

A massive "sponge"-induced argument was had.

GrooovyLass · 20/01/2018 22:47

Never puts teabags in the bin, always leaves them on the side. Drives me demented!

GloryHunter · 20/01/2018 22:57

Mines leaves the soggy dishcloth in the sink, never wrings it out Angry

8DaysAWeek · 20/01/2018 22:57

After me getting annoyed at something he said:

"Oh come one. You know I didn't mean that, I actually meant xyz!"

Well then why don't you actually say what you mean in the first place and not act as though IABU for assuming you meant the thing you said!!

Infuriates me.

FarmerSee · 20/01/2018 23:03

Fidgets non-stop. He puts his feet up on the coffee table but those feet and toes never stop fucking moving. They're right in my line of sight when trying to watch tv. It drives me round the bend.

He always talks to me in silly voices and different accents. Especially on the phone. I hate it. I've told him that after 10 yrs together the novelty has well and truly worn off, but it's like he can't help himself. I flipped when he started doing it when trying to initiate sex. It completely kills any libido I may have.

He sings his own silly words to songs and then keeps looking to me for attention. I have to react with laughter each time otherwise I'm "being moody" if I just ignore him. Again, I've told him after 10 yrs together the hilarity has started to wear a bit thin. He's welcome to sing, but he needs to stop the needy attention seeking from me when he does.

He snores. He takes up all the bed. I've not slept properly for years.

He's obsessed with food. He talks about it non-stop. He spends far too much time, effort and money on every damn meal. If he doesn't get some cordon bleu meal each time he eats, or if a meal he cooked doesn't turn out to a michelin standard, he's a proper moody fucker.

He's extremely argumentative and unbelievably stubborn, to the extent that even if you then agree with him he'll do a u-turn and end up essentially disagreeing with himself! It's ridiculous.

He'll ask me something, I'll begin answering him and then he'll just cut me off by talking to someone else. Its so rude.

Tries to talk to me mid loud yawn. I can't make head nor tail of whatever he's just said. When I say "what?" he'll snap at me for listening.

Fatarseflanagan09 · 20/01/2018 23:55

Twitches his legs in bed, river dancing all over the bastard place.

MinnieMinchkin · 20/01/2018 23:58

DH is generally wonderful, but he will ask me what a programme or tv/magazine article is about even when we have both seen the headline or title at exactly the same time. I DON'T KNOW! I have no more information than you! OK?

SleepOhHowIMissYou · 21/01/2018 00:27

Rings the doorbell when he has his keys on him.

Too much trouble for him to go into his rucksack or pocket and find them. Much better for me or the kids to stop what we're doing (pause TV, put down book, get out of bath, stop cooking, whatever) and open door.

As a result he spends a lot of time waiting outside of front door ringing the bell. If he has his keys, he can open the f'ing door, his time is not more important than anyone elses. Still rings bell every time though.

He thinks we are highly unreasonable.

tigercub50 · 21/01/2018 00:32

Why is keeping your child quiet when you’re having a lie down a bad thing?!

libbylousmum · 21/01/2018 00:35

Breathing

kissbeforelippy · 21/01/2018 00:35

Minnie mine does this too! Drives me mental.

He'll also wander through the sitting room and stop to stare at tv whilst I'm watching something he has no interest in. Then the questions start 'Who's that?' 'What's he done?' 'Why are they doing that?' Me: Are you interested in this programme? DH: No. Me: Well fuck off then! Drives me bananas!

Also incapable of closing a drawer or cupboard but I think he's actually trying to finish me off hoping I'll walk into a door (probably due to all my nagging Grin).

Kingsclerelass · 21/01/2018 01:39

I love this thread. I have no idea what a war hammer is but am laughing too much to go to sleep.
Mine puts things away broken and then pretends to be surprised. - Ooh look, the broom handle has come off, - your Hoover is broken. For God's sake!!! Things don't snap on their own or transport themselves back into locked garden sheds. Why can't he tell me so I can buy a new one? It drives me demented. Smile

He says I'm picky. Hmm

TrinitySquirrel · 21/01/2018 01:46

I wrote my list and just deleted it. Think I may petition for divorce instead now tbh.

robertaplumkin · 21/01/2018 19:21

Asks me a questions I say "pardon" he . Third times a charm and it turns out it was something practically rhetorical or so lazy that my only response is "HAVE YOU ACTUALLY LOOKED".

Blonde87 · 27/01/2018 00:43

Surely ‘not wiping the shower after each use’ and ‘not plumping cushions’ is a piss take.

Topseyt · 27/01/2018 01:57

Blonde87, I'd agree there. None of us do either of those things in our house. Shower is left to dry after each use. Why does it need wiped down all the time?

DH has various irritating habits though. Like putting his plate in the sink rather than the dishwasher.

He is also apparently barely capable of seeing that the dishwasher has finished it's cycle and needs emptied if he does go to put something in it, though I must say that he has improved a lot on that one recently.

He steals the quilt in bed at night, though I have learned to go to sleep holding on to my corner of it to thwart him there.

He never puts his clean laundry away. He just stacks it on top of his chest of drawers.

His "study" is an absolute bombsite where you can hardly move.

There is plenty more, and I know that he would have a good list of irritating things about me too.

MsHopey · 27/01/2018 05:36

Never putting thing back in the right place.
The biscuit barrel has it's own place on the kitchen worktop, husband will have biscuits and just put the tin anywhere. Dirty plates being left in random places around the kitchen, but not in or anywhere near the sink. Taking an empty can into the kitchen and putting it on the side next to the bin, not in the actual bin.
It's not that hard!!!

VanGoghsLeftEar · 27/01/2018 05:44

My husband does all the shopping, the cooking, half the childcare and cleans the bathroom...

But he cannot hang up anything, fold a towel or put out the washing straight. It all falls off or is hung in a way that it will take weeks to dry.

He also leaves used tissues around the house, and his dirty laundry on the bedroom floor. It drives me insane.

fatPam · 27/01/2018 05:49

Lurks on AIBU occasionally, laughing at the crazy replies / threads.

Farts nearly constantly. Honestly, it's a medical impossible (or so I thought) for one gut to make that much gas. Rarely smells but makes the windows rattle. DS and DD do the same and all three of them think it's hilarious.

k567 · 27/01/2018 06:21

Empty packets in the cupboards.

Buys lots of junk on eBay.

I'll give him a shopping list but he'll get to Tesco, not look at the list then come back with half the stuff and wonder why we've run out of nappies.

If he cooks - can't clean up, uses as many utensils, dishes and saucepans as he can, can't cook anything normally; has to try and be creative and ruin it via the spice cupboard and then stares at you eating expecting endless praise.

Puts socks in the washing basket all scrunched up, or two t-shirts inside each other or pockets still full of crap.

When he makes me coffee sometimes he gives me extra sugar 'as a treat' -wtf?

Falmer · 27/01/2018 07:42

Choked on my cuppa with 'river dancing' in the bed Grin Mine (and dd the same) always have to get or buy something, then never or hardly use it! Last spring they just had to buy small, standup greenhouses to 'grow our own veg'. Bit of an attempt, but never kept up with it. All winter the empty bloody greenhouses have been blowing about the garden! Even weighted down, they just seem to escape.

Gemlou1989 · 27/01/2018 07:47

Gets up for the gym at 6am usually waking the whole house as he goes, then comes home and has loud music on while he sings along like a fucking banshee Hmm Also, standing at the door to smoke letting all the heat from the house really boils my piss!