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To ask if Are you the best looking person your DP/DH has been out with...?

116 replies

CrispyAubergine · 18/01/2018 15:36

...And if not, how do you feel about it ?

Just wondering out of sheer nosiness interest really. I am almost certain that I am not. I have seen a couple of his ex's and they are fairly attractive but probably about equal to me. But he was very popular and good looking when he was younger and also a semi professional footballer so has probably been out with some proper stunners. Whereas I was gawky as a youngster (improved a bit in my 20s and 30's!) so have no exes that are remotely as attractive as H.

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Roussette · 18/01/2018 16:51

Yes, of course! In answer to the OP.

Just joking. DH's GF before me was very attractive, dark hair, very sultry looking, quite a sexy woman. But she was an absolute cow, messed him about and ended up stealing a not inconsiderable amount of money from him so she might have been beautiful on the outside, but not on the inside.

peachgreen · 18/01/2018 16:53

Gracious, no. He dated a former Miss Universe contestant, for a start! But it doesn't matter a jot. He loves me for everything I am, and that includes the way I look. Plus we have fantastic sex, which helps boost the old ego. Grin

It's weird, when I met him I was extremely insecure and would always have worried about my looks, but the instant we met eyes I had this sudden but profound realisation that none of that mattered and that he was going to love and marry me anyway, no matter what I looked like (and vice versa). And he did, hooray. It was the first time I'd EVER thought that someone was attracted to me and I felt instantly secure in his affections, and have done pretty much ever since. Very strange but wonderful experience.

IJoinedJustToPostThis · 18/01/2018 16:56

I've no idea. Don't know what they look like. It would be pretty weird to start asking him now though, been together 15 years.

mishfish · 18/01/2018 17:08

Not sure but I’m the one he settled down with and he treats me wonderfully so that’s all that matters really

shhhfastasleep · 18/01/2018 17:12

By a million miles.

TriHard27 · 18/01/2018 17:13

Yeah I think I am. And he's also not the most objectively attractive person I've been with. But this is what works for us, neither of us have any plans to run off. As far as I know. Grin

Purplerain101 · 18/01/2018 17:16

I’m better looking than OH’s last girlfriend, and also the one he had a relationship with for a few gears at uni. The two in between them are better looking than me but sounds like they had horrible personalities

AdidasGirl · 18/01/2018 17:18

Yes.

mrsBeverleyGoldberg · 18/01/2018 17:24

He's the most attractive man because he has eyes that really are a window to his soul. He's gorgeous and I can't believe he's with me. One was more conventionally good looking but was dull. Vacant eyes.

mrsBeverleyGoldberg · 18/01/2018 17:25

I misunderstood. Blush

ArbitraryName · 18/01/2018 17:26

No.

DenPerry · 18/01/2018 17:39

I would say I have a more attractive face than his two exes but they were about 10 stone less than I am right now! Good job he has always had a thing for big bums Grin

anonymousbird · 18/01/2018 17:43

No I'm not as one of his exes is a model and film star!

CrashBangWollop · 18/01/2018 17:51

When we first got together I didn't think so, there was one in particular who was quite "barbie-esque", think tiny waist, huge boobs and long blond hair......

But I saw her recently and I can honestly say that I have DEFINITELY aged better (and I'm not smug about that at all lol)

So yes, as at now I think I am, and like @MrsStinkey I've also been witness to blokes (his friends and random strangers) telling him he is "punching" - I don't think he is and I think its pretty fucking rude to say that to someone!!!!

mynameisspam · 18/01/2018 17:54

I'd say I am, there's only one before me though. On the other hand he's not the best looking and has put weight on, but he treats me better than my fit ex.

Eilasor · 18/01/2018 17:57

DH's ex wife is stunningly beautiful. Ex model who then put on a couple of stone, cut her hair short and became even more gorgeous. Definitely more attractive than me. I think even I fancy her a bit (she and I have a good relationship, luckily, otherwise I'd hate her!). His Exes between the two of us weren't to her level. nor mine they were thinner though.

My ExH has a bigger penis than DH. Something DH knows without me telling him. Men are weird. (They were friends before me meeting either of them for clarity). DH and ExH look completely different but are both equally physically attractive to me. Should I say that about my ExH? Ah well. He gave me a bloody gorgeous son.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 18/01/2018 18:05

He had a girlfriend at school but I have only seen one picture of her. She looked sweet but they were 17 & I don’t feel any urge to compare myself.
I drove myself nuts wondering about his first wife. They got married very young & it always seemed like such an out-of-character things for my Mr Sensible to have done. They’d been divorced for some years when I met him but I used to stare at photos of her. I could see that objectively I was conventionally much better looking than her but I still thought she must have some amazing charisma & sex appeal. I met her and she really didn’t have any of those things. She was just nice.
I think it makes me a tiny, tiny person that I enjoy the fact that I’m better looking than her. I have only admitted it to a couple of close friends.
I saw a recent photo & felt a stab of pleasure that she has put on weight. I’m ashamed of that but I’m still glad. She hurt the best man Ali ever met & my feelings about her are complicated. I’ve never loved anyone like I love dh. I guess I’m jealous that he once loved her enough to marry her.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 18/01/2018 18:07

Ali? should say I

restbiterepeat · 18/01/2018 18:11

Well, my 21yo self was better looking than his exes. Now? Not so much.

bluesu · 18/01/2018 18:12

Ahhh I'm so pleased this is an anonymous site because I can feel free to say yes I am definitely miles better looking than any of his exes I've seen (a few!)

I'm quite a lovely looking lady thooooooo I'm aware age is starting to set in BAH HUMBUG

TheDowagerCuntess · 18/01/2018 18:31

Yes, I'm pretty sure I am, but it couldn't be more irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.

hamburgers · 18/01/2018 18:31

100% yes, but in past relationships no.

Estellanpip · 18/01/2018 18:50

They've all said I am. I do get a lot of comments in general though.
My OH's ex messaged me saying she didn't want me to think she was being weird but she wanted to say I'm too good looking for him 😂 if I'm that good looking, it's wasted on him. He doesn't value external beauty and has never paid me a compliment!

fabulousfrumpyfeet · 18/01/2018 18:54

I'm definitely the best looking woman dh has ever been with...because I'm the only woman he's ever been with. Grin

LokiBear · 18/01/2018 19:03

Of course I am, he is very lucky to have me. (Beauty is subjective, other people may look at DHs exes and disagree with me. That is fine, because I like me just the way I am. After suffering with low self esteem and bulimia for most of my teens and twenties, I have now realised that I'm perfectly imperfect and I like my pretty face, little waist and wobbly tummy and cellulity thighs.)