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To ask if Are you the best looking person your DP/DH has been out with...?

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CrispyAubergine · 18/01/2018 15:36

...And if not, how do you feel about it ?

Just wondering out of sheer nosiness interest really. I am almost certain that I am not. I have seen a couple of his ex's and they are fairly attractive but probably about equal to me. But he was very popular and good looking when he was younger and also a semi professional footballer so has probably been out with some proper stunners. Whereas I was gawky as a youngster (improved a bit in my 20s and 30's!) so have no exes that are remotely as attractive as H.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 18/01/2018 16:04

For his sake, I hope he's been out with better looking women than me!
That said, I'm not good looking but I AM attractive,
They are not the same thing.

Ifailed · 18/01/2018 16:04

they are fairly attractive but probably about equal to me.

How on earth are you measuring this?

DailyMaileatmyshit · 18/01/2018 16:05

I was, when we met. Now I'm not becuase I'm a haggered, fat, pudgy old thing riddled with cellulite, stretch marks and spots.

Truthstar · 18/01/2018 16:06

Yea I'm gorgeous!
And fabulous and hes lucky to have me!

Thats what I tell him anyway 😊

BrazzleDazzleDay · 18/01/2018 16:07

No, dh's ex was shit hot imo

x2boys · 18/01/2018 16:08

Beauty and attractiveness is very subjective anyway and I never really had a type dh is bald for example and was whenbi met him I had never been out with a bald guy before and when you are going to be with someone long term its far more than physical attractiveness.

CurlyRover · 18/01/2018 16:09

It's so subjective. I don't know is the honest answer.

As for how I feel about it, well it doesn't really matter does it as looks aren't everything.

Beauty for me is as much about the person on the inside and is it on the outside. I honestly don't look at DP and wonder if he's the best looking guy I've ever been out with as to me I have a fantastic relationship with him, we have amazing chemistry and everything that matters is right between us and I think he's the most beautiful person I have been out with but most of that is based on his personality and character if that makes sense

whiskyowl · 18/01/2018 16:10

I definitely was when I met him. Not so sure now!!

Lovemusic33 · 18/01/2018 16:10

I think I was the best looking that my now ex husband had ever been with, his ex wife was no oil painting, he’s now with someone who he is embarrassed to introduce to his family.

I’m probably pretty average so I’m sure if I ever find a new man I probably won’t be the prettiest girl he has been with but I’m not really bothered. Looks are not everything, it’s the full package.

bellsandwhistles89 · 18/01/2018 16:11

He is not the most attractive man I have ever been out with but he is by far the best/funniest/one that I wanted to keep around.

Also makes me want to wish silent deaths on him as he can be an irritating bastard

I think I may be the most attractive woman hes been with but cant say I know every person he has ever slept with...I am going to say I am at least. Possibly the most irritating one for him as well.

Aspatria · 18/01/2018 16:12

I don't know enough of his previous flings or other, so I can't do an average! He had a few stunning girlfriends I vaguely know of, but oh my, not always that bright.

I have had enough of a life before we got married to know I used to qualify as attractive, so I am quite comfortable. I would find it quite offensive if I was the best looking one and all the previous ones were not that attractive. That would be very weird

Flippetydip · 18/01/2018 16:14

Nope, and I'm the fattest by a fairly long shot too but we've been together 17 years and married 14 so it mustn't really matter at all what we look like - who knew?

FWIW I think however, that I'm the most "normal" person he ever went out with - and again, normality is a relative concept - so I guess he found a bit of normality quite restful.

He is not the best looking person I ever went out with either but hey ho, it matters not one jot.

Laiste · 18/01/2018 16:22

With first husband - yes. His only girlfriend before me was a minger.

(look, i'm just being honest here)

With DH - i think i'm on a par with his longest serving ex. He's been with a lot of women and he's very good looking.

On a bad day i feel like i'm punching a bit above my weight - on a good day i feel we're about equal

sinceyouask · 18/01/2018 16:22

He says I am. I can't quite believe it, as he is hot and I am not, but if he believes it that's all that matters really.

Oysterbabe · 18/01/2018 16:22

Probably when we first got together. I look like a sack of shit now.

Laiste · 18/01/2018 16:22

With first husband - yes. His only girlfriend before me was a minger.

(look, i'm just being honest here)

With DH - i think i'm on a par with his longest serving ex. He's been with a lot of women and he's very good looking.

On a bad day i feel like i'm punching a bit above my weight - on a good day i feel we're about equal

sinceyouask · 18/01/2018 16:22

He says so. I can't believe that's true, as he is hot and I am not, but if he believes it then that's all that matters really.

sinceyouask · 18/01/2018 16:22

He says so. I can't believe that's true, as he is hot and I am not, but if he believes it then that's all that matters really.

Laiste · 18/01/2018 16:22

With first husband - yes. His only girlfriend before me was a minger.

(look, i'm just being honest here)

With DH - i think i'm on a par with his longest serving ex. He's been with a lot of women and he's very good looking.

On a bad day i feel like i'm punching a bit above my weight - on a good day i feel we're about equal

Laiste · 18/01/2018 16:22

With first husband - yes. His only girlfriend before me was a minger.

(look, i'm just being honest here)

With DH - i think i'm on a par with his longest serving ex. He's been with a lot of women and he's very good looking.

On a bad day i feel like i'm punching a bit above my weight - on a good day i feel we're about equal

whoareyoukidding · 18/01/2018 16:22

My DH is objectively a very good looking man but for some reason his exes were not very attractive at all and I'm nothing special. Maybe he is chiefly attracted by personality. Seriously, it is very odd. When he was younger he could have passed for a rock star. And his partner at the time? I would say average to plain.

Oysterbabe · 18/01/2018 16:22

Probably when we first got together. I look like a sack of shit now.

Deshasafraisy · 18/01/2018 16:24

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, hard to compare - one persons brad Pitt is another’s mr bean, don’t do this to yourself, he loves you.

Laiste · 18/01/2018 16:24

oyster i belly laughed at that. The years can be cruel.

Placeboooooooo · 18/01/2018 16:27

OH has only had one other GF. I’d say we are probably on par although we are very, very different.

She’s dark whereas I’m blonde. I’m probably slightly less psychotic than her. I’ve been told I’m better in bed but who knows!

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