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To ask if Are you the best looking person your DP/DH has been out with...?

116 replies

CrispyAubergine · 18/01/2018 15:36

...And if not, how do you feel about it ?

Just wondering out of sheer nosiness interest really. I am almost certain that I am not. I have seen a couple of his ex's and they are fairly attractive but probably about equal to me. But he was very popular and good looking when he was younger and also a semi professional footballer so has probably been out with some proper stunners. Whereas I was gawky as a youngster (improved a bit in my 20s and 30's!) so have no exes that are remotely as attractive as H.

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supersop60 · 18/01/2018 16:28

Probably not. One of them was a dancer from Venezuela, so I'm guessing gorgeous and hot bod. This may have been the same one who used to howl at the full moon.......
But I don't care.

crunchymint · 18/01/2018 16:28

No and DP is not the best looking person I have been out with. That was a very attractive man child. I don't care that DPs ex was better looking than me. We are very happy together.

ClaryFray · 18/01/2018 16:28

I don't care. He's with me now.

TrinitySquirrel · 18/01/2018 16:29

100% yes in every way. Not even being modest. I am.

TrinitySquirrel · 18/01/2018 16:30

They were all pretty minty and I'm just above average btw so I'm not even being big headed saying that Grin

HipNewName · 18/01/2018 16:31

What an odd question. I don't have any idea. We've been together over 20 years and it never occurred to me to find out.

I only wish that we both looked as good now as when we met! I'd like to turn the clock back on both of us!

Bluelady · 18/01/2018 16:32

It freaked me out when I met his ex wife, we could be sisters. He clearly has a type!

wagil · 18/01/2018 16:32

Laiste, I believe you. Grin

CoolCarrie · 18/01/2018 16:36

No, probably not tbh, however he isn’t the best looking guy I have been out with. One guy was absolutely gorgeous, striking , kind face, tall, black hair, very blue eyes, and well built, in more ways than one, and was a really lovely guy but he moved down south and that was that.

ziggiestardust · 18/01/2018 16:36

I have no idea, I have never met/seen DH with anyone else. It wouldn’t occur to me to ask him either; he’s with me and I can’t be that bad/knackered looking as he’s stuck about for 10 years.

Fibbertigibbet · 18/01/2018 16:36

I don't know. I would probably say one of DH's exes is more attractive than me, but years before we started dating when they were still together and I wasn't remotely interested in DH she was very jealous of me, so I have a feeling she thinks the same about me. DH is probably not the most objectively attractive out of my exes, but I find DH the most attractive, and that is the important thing.

Solly76 · 18/01/2018 16:37

I have only seen two of them, so I can't really know and if I ask him he will say that of course I'm the best looking one 😂

They are plainer facially than I am, but definitely slimmer. I'm always conscious about my body size.

TeeBee · 18/01/2018 16:38

Who knows, but I am inevitably the sexiest, most educated, most talented, and most dedicated partner he's ever had so why should I give a shit about the best looking? That stuff doesn't last...besides their beauty doesn't take away from mine.
I'm also the most modest...obviously.

Enirroc · 18/01/2018 16:39

My last partner definitely... And people comment that they can't understand why he dumped me for who he did... Grin

Of course, I know it really doesn't work that way, but it's still nice to hear.

My xh though had never had another gf, so he doesn't count.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 18/01/2018 16:41

I am very different to DP's ex. She would be considered more attractive than me in a conventional way - she's tall, slim, bleached blonde hair, wears revealing clothes and high heels etc whereas I am short and fat curvaceous with short dark hair, wear jeans and boots most of the time.

My DP insists I am the most beautiful woman in the world, that my eyes, lips, figure etc are all wonderful. I don't believe a word of it, but I like to hear it! He'd definitely prefer me to have long hair, but I can't be arsed with it, so it stays short. I've even put on about 3 stone since we met and he still reckons he prefers me now to then. its all lies!!

So technically yes, she's better looking than me. However, I can see why he might not find her attractive any more, as she's also quite brash and wears too much make-up, so although she will turn heads when she goes out (when I most certainly won't) I think his view is that I have a more natural and unassuming beauty! Plus I'm fucking awesome, so the way I look isn't even the best thing about me.

PinkyBlunder · 18/01/2018 16:42

Nope, not even close but he’s been with me the longest, married me, chose to have kids with me. So...

how do you feel about it ?
I don’t care!

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 18/01/2018 16:43

I am very different to DP's ex. She would be considered more attractive than me in a conventional way - she's tall, slim, bleached blonde hair, wears revealing clothes and high heels etc whereas I am short and fat curvaceous with short dark hair, wear jeans and boots most of the time.

My DP insists I am the most beautiful woman in the world, that my eyes, lips, figure etc are all wonderful. I don't believe a word of it, but I like to hear it! He'd definitely prefer me to have long hair, but I can't be arsed with it, so it stays short. I've even put on about 3 stone since we met and he still reckons he prefers me now to then. its all lies!!

So technically yes, she's better looking than me. However, I can see why he might not find her attractive any more, as she's also quite brash and wears too much make-up, so although she will turn heads when she goes out (when I most certainly won't) I think his view is that I have a more natural and unassuming beauty! Plus I'm fucking awesome, so the way I look isn't even the best thing about me.

dreamies · 18/01/2018 16:44

Not with anyone at the moment but i would say I'm the more attractive than my most recent exs previous partners and much prettier and thinner than who he's with now. I'm also very modest Grin
Most attractive man I've been in a relationship with is a sexist cheating prick so it's swings and roundabouts.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 18/01/2018 16:46

I am very different to DP's ex of 10 years+. She would be considered more attractive than me in a conventional way - she's tall, slim, bleached blonde hair, wears revealing clothes and high heels etc whereas I am short and fat curvaceous with short dark hair, wear jeans and boots most of the time.

My DP insists I am the most beautiful woman in the world, that my eyes, lips, figure etc are all wonderful. I don't believe a word of it, but I like to hear it! He'd definitely prefer me to have long hair, but I can't be arsed with it, so it stays short. I've even put on about 3 stone since we met and he still reckons he prefers me now to then. its all lies!!

So technically yes, she's better looking than me. However, I can see why he might not find her attractive any more, as she's also quite brash and wears too much make-up, so although she will turn heads when she goes out (when I most certainly won't) I think his view is that I have a more natural and unassuming beauty! Plus I'm fucking awesome, so the way I look isn't even the best thing about me.

dreamies · 18/01/2018 16:46

Not with anyone at the moment but i would say I'm the more attractive than my most recent exs previous partners and much prettier and thinner than who he's with now. I'm also very modest Grin
Most attractive man I've been in a relationship with is a sexist cheating prick so it's swings and roundabouts.

dreamies · 18/01/2018 16:46

Not with anyone at the moment but i would say I'm the more attractive than my most recent exs previous partners and much prettier and thinner than who he's with now. I'm also very modest Grin
Most attractive man I've been in a relationship with is a sexist cheating prick so it's swings and roundabouts.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 18/01/2018 16:46

sorry stupid laptop keeps double posting Angry

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 18/01/2018 16:47

Yours too Dreamies?!

IHaveACuntingPlan · 18/01/2018 16:49

I wouldn't have a clue because I've never met his ex partners.
Otoh he's not the most aesthetically attractive man I've been out with but he is the kindest. He is overweight and is losing his hair but he looks OK in a suit.

afreshnewname · 18/01/2018 16:51

I have absolutely no idea 😂 8 years together and it's never crossed my mind to put faces to any names that come up in conversation

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