SAHM/Homemakers - What do you do all day?

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Those who choose to be a SAHM/homemaker, who don’t ‘have’ to work, what do you do all day?!

I’m talking the SAHM’s who don’t work from home. Who don’t have to look after the kids all day etc.

If you’ve done cleaning/washing/shopping etc. How do you fill your day?

moochypooch I’m sure that was the case just as SAHM should share household tasks with dh on days off.

Swings and roundabouts innit?

The most sensible comment on this! Different choices have different pros and cons. That's life.

As the saying goes.. married for life but not for lunch

My dh works full time and household jobs are split accordingly. I am no one's slave believe me!

Namechange16 Two hands is better than one..I find with chores split it takes half the time and to be honest better productivity than when I’m on my own all with baby all day...it’s too easy for me to procrastinate and watch Netflix when DS naps!

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I agree with Passthestarmix. I am not a domestic goddess but my house is clean. If I had the extra 3 days off like I do in the holidays, not much more would get done tbh.

I'm a SAHM and my time is filled with housework, decorating and meetings / appointments as one of my DC is special needs. I don't have any time to myself in the evenings usually so any leisure time I have to fit in during school hours. Life is really busy.

All of the things listed above can be done by WOHP -they just dont spend all day doing it .
Pants and socks for Dd-buy online plus online shopping.
Violen stringing-drop off on way to work.
Forgotten homework -they only forget once if noone is there to drive it back to school

Volunteer, write, sort out Sen issues, research for harder work for ds6.

Tbh though my hubby works really wierd hours and it would hard to fit a job round it.

I don't think it would be possible to hold down a job with caring for a SN child, I suppose that's why carers allowance is given. I lot of the time I'm exhausted from continual broken nights.

quitecleanbandit 100% there.

One other thing regarding "homemaking"
I love cooking and my pets.
I dont really give a rats arse about cleaning nor do I attach any emotions to it .
I like a clean tidy house but rarely pick up even a duster as I have a shoulder injury so Im baffled as to why women are conned into all the cleaning as love crap.
Disclaimer : my house is very clean

QuiteClean - you are missing the point. Those were just examples from one day of the whole litany of the little jobs that take up time.

Other more "fixed" examples would be - one of my sons plays rugby for the school and it's (unfortunately) a "thing" at his school that you watch the match on Wed pm. Another DC is dyslexic and so I'm required to attend a weekly SENCO session at the school. It's only 40 mins, but we're in London so there's always traffic and it takes up a morning basically. Then there are the music lessons in the school (2 per week) which are Suzuki and require a parent to attend. That's not even mentioning the after school stuff that requires me to be a taxi from 4pm several nights week. I realise this is not everyone's life, but it's our life and so it's what we do.

If you are at home, other people have different expectations if you and it's self-perpetuating. For instance, my DH is not really used to having to sort his own dinner out, but if I was working, he might have to occasionally. Same with his laundry. Life is full on. If you can get "ahead of the curve" doing the faff stuff while they are at school, then that's what you do. It frees up time to do all the other stuff in the evenings and at weekends.

Oh come on !
Most of those examples are ridiculous .
"Having" to attend a rugby match on a wednesday afternoon .
Aside from the Senco appt all of that is what you choose to do.
As for your DH -well more fool you for enabling another adult .

Some people wouldn't know hard work if it slapped them in the face. I believe that just as there are differing standards of cleanliness and tidiness as per previous discussion, there appears to be a different standard to what constitutes as hard work!!

There is an expectation that you attend the matches (or most of them). Suzuki requires a parent to be there. Yes, they could do it out if school, I guess, but that's the point. I'm not claiming it's "hard work". It's just what happens.

I also think there is a generational difference. We are late 20s/early 30s & even working pt & with cleaners I don’t feel the need to have dinner ready for DH. He cooks more than me.

boredofwaiting22 I’m a SAHM (to 2 pre schoolers) and I don’t cook. Ever. DH does all our cooking.

I’m 33 by the way.

Namechange16 I agree and I don’t think going into town for bits for your dc is exactly hard work and if anything running errands like that are enjoyable. It beats doing it after work or on weekends when all of the shops are really busy.

Things like a weekly after school rugby match my friends who work attend and take holiday time off work for it or flexi time. It’s enjoyable to see your dc play. How is that a job?

Come to think of it one of them doesn’t because her son plays after school and she works her hours around that.

boredofwaiting22 I’m jealous I would love a cleaner as find cleaning so meanial and boring except doing laundry (I weirdly find that therapeutic )

I agree and I don’t think going into town for bits for your dc is exactly hard work and if anything running errands like that are enjoyable. It beats doing it after work or on weekends when all of the shops are really busy

But so what if it’s enjoyable? Some people’s jobs are enjoyable too. My DH loves his. Should we all be miserable just because some other people are? Why are we defined by how hard we bloody work? It’s insane.