To think this is a bit of an over-reaction on DH's part?

[MiniMummy576]

I posted an AIBU a while ago about wanting DH to take notice of the chores that need doing around the house. Following the advice I put together a weekly schedule and put it on the fridge (I got the template from Mydarlaclementine.com and found it really useful to set out everything that needs doing on a weekly and monthly basis and split it over the week!!) with asterisks next to anything that DH can pitch in with.
One of the daily tasks is to spray the bathroom surfaces with the daily cleaner after the shower's been used (one of the ones that doesn't need to be wiped off). I asked DH to remember to do this as he has a shower every morning. He's been a bit sporadic with remembering, but this morning after coming out of the bathroom I heard him rush back in and start spritzing.
The only 'problem' was that the old bottle of spray had run out, so I'd bought a new one and reused the bottle to mix up a Zoflora spray, but hadn't had time to write on the bottle what it was or get the new one out of the cupboard.
DH made a point of proudly mentioning to me that he'd remembered to spritz the shower and I thanked him, but pointed out that I'd now switched the bottle, so he needed to use the different brand from now on.
He then threw up his hands and said 'Oh FFS that's the last time that I'm bothering to do it then'
I said there was no need to get annoyed, he'd just have to look out for a different bottle.
Then he said 'Well you should have told me before I wasted my time spraying the shower. I suppose you want me to respray it'
I told him no, the shower spray can't be sprayed over the top of another cleaner, but that the stuff in the bottle is disinfectant, so it didn't matter for today.
'FFS, you can do it yourself from now on then' he said.
I pointed out it wasn't a problem, he hadn't done anything wrong and all I was saying was that he needs to look out for the new bottle but he wasn't having any of it.

Is it just me or was this a (completely baffling) over-reaction from DH over such a little thing???

[Ohhdear]

How old is he 13? Do you give him a gold star when he ticks something off?

[Seasonseatings]

I feel a bit sorry for him about the shower spray issue tbh

[hellsbellsmelons]

A weekly schedule on the fridge? What fresh hell is this
It's the hell poor OP has to go through to get her DH to do anything around the house.
It's tedious as fuck but she's put a system in place and he needs to follow it.
Although this situation is a bit odd.
Why spray the shower every time?
What a waste of product and time and energy.

[expatinscotland]

'I reckon half the men being nagged about housework would pay for a cleaner in a heartbeat.'

I'd rather live with a partner who didn't consider house and lifework beneath them/not their job because they have a cock or any partner who expected them to pull their weight in the house as a 'nag'.

[allthgoodusernamesaretaken]

Wow, I think OP is getting a hard time. Her DH wasn't doing his share of housework, she came up with rota as a solution, he's throwing toys out of the pram

I think a rota should be agreed though, rather than you dictating what he should do

YABU for reusing bottles. That's not a good idea

[KimmySchmidt1]

Yikes daily bathroom cleaning - you trying to make sure your life is proper empty? That is not a good use of the incredibly short time we all have on the planet.

[ConciseandNice]

I couldn’t stay with someone who was micromanaging me. It’s aounds utterly grim. He’s an adult. If he can’t change and you can’t take it then there are bigger problems. My marriage would be going to hell in a handbasket if my husband did this or indeed if I did it to him.

[glow1984]

I think I'm on your DPs side. I'd be pretty miffed if I had done something and found out it was a waste of time.

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

You were being absolutely ridiculous in decanting one type of cleaning agent into an unrelated bottle and then whinging when he couldn't tell the difference.
Outside of a student shared house, a list to tick off really shouldn't be necessary. I wouldn't even follow the fecking rota myself if I made one, never mind expecting other people to...

[MrsPicklesonSmythe]

I think you’re both overreacting to be honest. You asked him to do something, he did it then you told him he got it wrong.

Just leave the right bottle in the shower cubicle so each person can spray when they turn the water off and the problem is fixed. I think you’re over complicating things.

[Bluelady]

So, expatinscotland, this isn't really about housework at all. I suspected as much from the off.

[MrsPicklesonSmythe]

Oh yes and rotas for grown ups are so patronising I’d go out of my way to not do things on it

[expatinscotland]

'So, expatinscotland, this isn't really about housework at all. I suspected as much from the off.'

How do you get that? She says he doesn't 'notice chores'.

[Julie8008]

Using soap in the shower causes germs. Even though you cant see them you know they are their, growing and reproducing. You spend the whole day stressing about them, just waiting for them to pounce on you next time you enter the bathroom.

The only way to combat this hell is to sterilise the shower with a random chemical from random bottle every time you are in there. At least that is what adverts teach me, so it must be true.

[Marcine]

Bluelady I am far from houseproud but as a minimum every day the dishwasher needs to me unloaded, breakfast things cleared away, kitchen sides and table wiped down, kitchen floor swept, laundry put on, hung up, folded and put away, toilet seats wiped, cat litter tray emptied, dinner cook, cleared up after and dishwasher loaded, living room tidied, lunchboxes cleaned out and repacked. Other jobs that need to be done more often than weekly - general tidying, hoovering, bins and recycling taken out, bath cleaned.

[WhatchaMaCalllit]

In case it helps, here is the OP's earlier post about the issue of sharing jobs around the house with her DH:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3117457-To-want-DH-to-pay-attention

[Bluelady]

I was talking about what you said, expat.

[expatinscotland]

'I was talking about what you said, expat.'

Eh, housework is part of lifework. Personally, I would never put up with a partner who felt any of that was beneath him/her and the sole remit of the alternate partner because it's disrespectful.

[Ski4130]

OP’s getting a really shitty time for trying to address the issue of her dp not helping enough with the cleaning! Jesus, so she put a list on the fridge, if it works, and even if it doesn’t, isn’t credit to her that she’s trying to rectify the inequality of work in her house?! As for berating her for daily bathroom cleaning, or even aspiring to daily bathroom cleaning, so what? That’s not what her AIBU was about.

OP fwiw I tend to agree with your dh, though not in his delivery, it does seem he couldn’t do right for doing wrong on this case BUT the fact he’s had a strop, and that he even needs a cleaning schedule taped to the fridge do point to a slightly less that mature bloke. No easy answer really, and even if you’re being made to feel like some pp’s have angelic dp’s, who clean to a high standard and without prompting, I can say that in my house dp is amazing BUT even I get a bit 🙄 at what he forgets to do/doesn’t do quite the way I would.

My theory is that as long as we’re both keeping the house clean and tidy. I can’t really bitch about his way vs my way. It might be worth you accepting that if dp is doing what you’ve asked him to do, you can’t give out when he misses the mark.

[Bookishh]

Sorry didn't realise this thread is a "part 2"

[SilverySurfer]

YABU. So is your DH a mind reader or should he have received the info that you had put different chemicals into the old bottle by osmosis? Apart from that being a really stupid and dangerous thing to do, why did you not tell him?

I'm all for partners doing their fair share but personally prefer to treat them as adults.

[Bluelady]

Nor would I. What's that got to do with paying a cleaner?

[FluffyWuffy100]

He had a stop because he’s pissed off he’s having to do some cleaning.

But it does sound quite complicated what with the daily spraying.

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

Its a ploy. The 'total overreaction' is an excellent way out of doing a job that he KNOWS hes agreed to do. Don't him get away with it or he will do it with all the jobs.

My husband does it with the washing machine. in 15 years despite using it evey week he has to ask me stuff, and then throws a tantrum because its so difficult. The man has a technical degree FFS!

[Glumglowworm]

YABU

I’d have had a strop if you refilled a bottle with a different cleaner and expected me to know without being told too, wtf not just leave things in their original packaging?!