To think this is a bit of an over-reaction on DH's part?

[MiniMummy576]

I posted an AIBU a while ago about wanting DH to take notice of the chores that need doing around the house. Following the advice I put together a weekly schedule and put it on the fridge (I got the template from Mydarlaclementine.com and found it really useful to set out everything that needs doing on a weekly and monthly basis and split it over the week!!) with asterisks next to anything that DH can pitch in with.
One of the daily tasks is to spray the bathroom surfaces with the daily cleaner after the shower's been used (one of the ones that doesn't need to be wiped off). I asked DH to remember to do this as he has a shower every morning. He's been a bit sporadic with remembering, but this morning after coming out of the bathroom I heard him rush back in and start spritzing.
The only 'problem' was that the old bottle of spray had run out, so I'd bought a new one and reused the bottle to mix up a Zoflora spray, but hadn't had time to write on the bottle what it was or get the new one out of the cupboard.
DH made a point of proudly mentioning to me that he'd remembered to spritz the shower and I thanked him, but pointed out that I'd now switched the bottle, so he needed to use the different brand from now on.
He then threw up his hands and said 'Oh FFS that's the last time that I'm bothering to do it then'
I said there was no need to get annoyed, he'd just have to look out for a different bottle.
Then he said 'Well you should have told me before I wasted my time spraying the shower. I suppose you want me to respray it'
I told him no, the shower spray can't be sprayed over the top of another cleaner, but that the stuff in the bottle is disinfectant, so it didn't matter for today.
'FFS, you can do it yourself from now on then' he said.
I pointed out it wasn't a problem, he hadn't done anything wrong and all I was saying was that he needs to look out for the new bottle but he wasn't having any of it.

Is it just me or was this a (completely baffling) over-reaction from DH over such a little thing???

[Lifeisabeach09]

I can't believe you spray your shower every day!
And I'd definitely invest in a cleaner.

[ClareB83]

I think you're right OP and he did over react. You didn't tell him he's done it wrong or ask him to do it again. I think he's just using it as an excuse to get out of his new chores.

[Bluelady]

I really don't understand why people who get the rage about doing all the housework don't get a cleaner and make DP cough up for it.

[MrsMaxwell]

It sounds really complicated - and why are you thanking him? Does he thank you?

[LemonysSnicket]

It’d have annoyed me too. He remembered to do it and then you tell him it was wrong anyway. And it was your fault it was wrong because you randomly swap your bottles around?

[sirfredfredgeorge]

I can't believe you spray your shower every day!

Exactly, of course anyone needs a job list if they have requirements beyond what is normal - it is not normal to have a "daily shower spray" - if it was there'd be adverts on the TV for it...

So if someone wants help with that, they need to tell people, you can't expect others to know the crazy things you demand!

[eddielizzard]

he's looking for a get out clause from doing any housework. of course he's being unreasonable.

[GwenStaceyRocks]

YABU.
I'd be annoyed if I had to stop to think about which chemical to spray in the shower because sometimes the label corresponded to what was inside but sometimes it didn't.
You didn't need to tell him it was wrong since the error was your's not his.
But just stick to the correct bottle for the correct chemicals. Much easier for everyone.

[JellyMouldJnr]

It is very normal to have a daily shower spray - as OP says, you just spritz it about (no need to rinse) and it prevents limescale buildup. I use it (sometimes) and I am definitely not a clean freak! It is easier to spritz when you finish your shower than to climb in to clean it separately once a week.

[Pythonesque]

I'm surprised how many people on this post haven't heard of daily shower sprays - the idea is that you don't have to wipe let alone scrub clean. Work well if last person to use the shower just quickly sprays it over - so really helps if all users are on board! My house-proud mother has found it a huge help now she can't do much of the active cleaning herself.

OP you have my sympathy, think I remember seeing your previous post and the advice you were given. A lot of people here do not appreciate what it is like to have someone who will never do anything around the house unless given a specific instruction. And then get on their high horse if you dare change anything at all about your system ...

[RandomMess]

He was pissed off and grumpy sure he'll be fine about it tonight.

I would wonder why he feels the need that him doing his share of the chores needs a pat on the back tough!!!

My other tip is get a water softener no more daily shower cleaning/spraying needed

[MikeUniformMike]

Who mentioned bleach?

[Gazelda]

I think you need to go back to the drawing board about how you divide chores in your household. This method seems to be getting his back up.
Not that I disagree that he should do his share, without having to be asked to do so.

[Marcine]

Yanbu to expect an adult man to do an equal amount of housework - he should be thoroughly ashamed that he needs to be treated like a toddler!

Yabu to decant new chemicals into an old bottle.

However, he is clearly overreacting in order to get out of doing it.

[g1itterati]

This list on the fridge sounds like a headache for sure. If I put a list up, DH would think I'd gone insane and it would get on his nerves for sure. He would just not entertain it, so at least your DH has tried.

Would getting a cleaner help instead of this whole schedule?

[Marcine]

The people criticising the OP for having a jobs list clearly have partners who already do half the work without being prompted.

[MikeUniformMike]

Decanting chemicals into different bottles is a no-no. Do not do it, especially if you have children.

[Bluelady]

Not me. Mine doesn't do a stroke.

[Regularsizedrudy]

Well he reacted like a spoilt child because you are treating him like one. A rota ffs. He is a grown man, he can use his eyes and brain to see what needs doing. Making him a rota just gives him an excuse to throw his toys out the pram, like he has done. He shouldn’t be “pitching in” like he’s doing you some kind of favour 🙄 he should just do it!

[picklemepopcorn]

I'm with you OP. Nothing you said is unreasonable. Daily shower spray to keep down the limescale- I have used them in the past. Telling him 'by the way, we're on to a new bottle now, I've used the old one for Zoflora' is reasonable too. What a delicate flower he is if he can't be given information he is unfamiliar with.

[AgentProvocateur]

This is stressful to read. Please just get a cleaner.

[BitOutOfPractice]

he people criticising the OP for having a jobs list clearly have partners who already do half the work without being prompted.

No I haven't. I've got one who does more than half

I just think that this kind of dynamic in a relationship is just so unsexy isn't it? Not to mention the way it builds resentment on both sides

[g1itterati]

Marcine - not necessarily because some DHs are generally at work. Mine doesn't do much at all and it's not worth the hassle of trying to engage him. If I did, he would just tell me to get the cleaner in more.

[Marcine]

Regularsizedrudy - but what if he doesn't just do it?

[Idontevencareanymore]

In answer to your question yes he was overreacting. It's hardly a chore to just use a different bottle of product, I'd just have replaced it in the place he usually finds the product.

Saying that,I'd have just smiled and said nothing. It would piss me off to be told I'd something wrong especially if I'm really trying.

Sounds like a bigger story than just this.