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a rant about an overly needy friend

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ColaCube22 · 16/01/2018 12:54

I'm feeling like a bag of crap and I just want a rant.
Does anyone have someone in their life that just drains them and it's almost impossible to ditch them permanently because they are so emotional?
So anyway, my HG is still in full force and it's just a struggle to get from A to B each day. Most days I've still got my head in the toilet or basin.
Being bombarded with phone calls and texts about this drama and that drama from said 'friend'. I've always been there to listen and offer whatever advise I can, I've tried to say on several occasions that I'm sorry but I just can't help just now, I can't focus and what little energy I have is just surviving. On deaf ears!
She's absolutely a hypochondriac. Obsessed over thought. If she has pms it's not pms, she says she's on the bipolar spectrum. If she feels like tidying it's not a whim to have a deep clean, it's OCD.
I was in hospital yesterday to get rehydration and I had atleast 10 messages progressing into a rant about issues with feeling abandoned and I should reply because now she's panicking. I explained what happened and I was asked not to talk about being sick as it's a trigger for her bulimia. She was not like this when met at work, i feel kind of duped, as though it was just act.
I'm not meaning to sound insensitive, none of the conditions she says she have been officially diagnosed. We've had these conversations and she pinned it on the doctors being incompetent and not believing her.
Thankfully we don't work together anymore but I just feel stuck with her, if I tell her all of this, I really don't know how she'd behave.

OP posts:
ColaCube22 · 17/01/2018 08:22

Goodmorning, passed out early and had an up and down night!
I've blocked her on my phone. I don't have Facebook or things like that so don't need to worry about that.
Oh ladies, why do people do these things? Surely it can't make someone very happy in the long run!
Thank you everyone for your support yesterday with this issue and the HG advise. X

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Aeroflotgirl · 17/01/2018 09:28

Good op, you should have done that ages ago. She is a blooming leech. Friends support you, and help you, not give you rubbish like that. She is no friend but a nasty user. A good friend would have asked you how you were, what she could do to help you, if you did not feel up for friends she would have given you the space that you needed.

BhajiAllTheWay · 17/01/2018 09:36

HG is just awful. I had it with multiples and I honestly thought none of us would make it.Last thing you need is an emotional vampire.Keep her blocked. They are literally a bottomless pit and will drain you dry. I had one..no support is ever enough, It's all about them and their dramaFlowers

shakingmyhead1 · 17/01/2018 09:44

nothing to say about her that others havent already suggested
but get your husband to buy some ice blocks ( clear kinds no dairy)
and bring you one each morning and eat it b4 raising your head from the pillow ( thats important)
weirdly i could keep that in for quite some time, thru the day you could set a clock to my vomiting, it was that regular
anything i ate or drank was quick to reappear, but oddly the ice blocks, lemonade Popsicles or fruju's stayed down longer and i think the cold helped too ( its harder to throw up when you are really cold)
give it a try, might work for you too, i also tried my doctors seasick electric shock bands but they didnt work :(

NewYearNiki · 17/01/2018 12:49

Oh ladies, why do people do these things? Surely it can't make someone very happy in the long run!

Given that she used to be an apparently healthy and happy person like you said, she sounds depressed or mental health issues.

But she needs professional help. It is not your problem.

Dizzybintess · 19/01/2018 13:46

I had HG and for 4 months I ate nothing but salted Doritos and salty Italian crackers and vitamins.
I remember standing in the middle of Tesco sobbing because my husband said he could buy me whatever I wanted!!
Take one day at a time and look after yourself. And have plenty of rest.

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