a rant about an overly needy friend

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I'm feeling like a bag of crap and I just want a rant.
Does anyone have someone in their life that just drains them and it's almost impossible to ditch them permanently because they are so emotional?
So anyway, my HG is still in full force and it's just a struggle to get from A to B each day. Most days I've still got my head in the toilet or basin.
Being bombarded with phone calls and texts about this drama and that drama from said 'friend'. I've always been there to listen and offer whatever advise I can, I've tried to say on several occasions that I'm sorry but I just can't help just now, I can't focus and what little energy I have is just surviving. On deaf ears!
She's absolutely a hypochondriac. Obsessed over thought. If she has pms it's not pms, she says she's on the bipolar spectrum. If she feels like tidying it's not a whim to have a deep clean, it's OCD.
I was in hospital yesterday to get rehydration and I had atleast 10 messages progressing into a rant about issues with feeling abandoned and I should reply because now she's panicking. I explained what happened and I was asked not to talk about being sick as it's a trigger for her bulimia. She was not like this when met at work, i feel kind of duped, as though it was just act.
I'm not meaning to sound insensitive, none of the conditions she says she have been officially diagnosed. We've had these conversations and she pinned it on the doctors being incompetent and not believing her.
Thankfully we don't work together anymore but I just feel stuck with her, if I tell her all of this, I really don't know how she'd behave.

Good grief!! Horrible woman!! She sounds like she has an unhealthy obsession with you. Def time to block.

A stone and a half and whatever she weighs too op! Good riddance:)

Actually before I blocked her, I would have to message her: I understand you have been gossiping about me & saying that I am not as ill as I am saying. A stone and a half weight loss & hospitalisation attests to the fact that I have been desperately unwell. No true friend would behave in such a way, especially when I have been endlessly supportive to you. Do not contact me again".

She's an utter cow!

Any more nonsense from her please get your husband to call her.

I doubt people at work would be bothered, I had hardly any days off sick in 10 years before this. I know at first everyone was very much like "oh you are just pregnant" but like Bash said, they don't admit people for fun.
What a silly childish thing to do, It's just confirmed that I have done 100% the right thing.

Respond to everything with 'you should see a professional'.

She's a parasite. And you don't need her. It sounds like her selfish self centered behaviour is affecting your husband too.
Iv had GG and it's a bastard. You have all my sympathy OP.

HG.

My post was far later than it should have been....block block ignore and a pox upon her!

I can not imagine having to deal with this , I had HG from 6 weeks until 25 weeks and was admitted a number of times and I literally shut off from the world , I couldn't even deal with people and their small talk never mind this! I wouldn't worry about her feelings tbh you are priority here people don't realise how draining HG is , you don't need the added drama!

A tip for the "sore" sickness as well , freezing cold strawberry Ribenna cartons are (this is disgusting) the "nicest" () thing to throw up helps anything else come up quite easily so gives your throat a bit of a rest, its the only thing that passed my lips for weeks on end even if it did only stay down for a minute or two , you have my sympathy hoping it doesn't last too much longer for you!

Sweetheart, just get shot of her

No further contact and just block her.

Even if you werent pregnant it would be too much and intrusive for anyone to expect to deal with.

Tell her I am too ill to deal with this, I am not your mother or your doctor or your partner or a psychiatrist and I am not listening to this anymore.

Brilliant! Her bitching to your work colleagues is just the ammo you need to tell her to fuck off!

I've got tougher over the years.

Nothing anywhere near as bad as this.

Just subtle things.Friends not making an effort. Not confirming plans. One in particular enjoys throwing things in my face that upset me and reminding me of bad times in my life. But my god they want support when they have problems.

I am taking a massive step back and not bothering with them anymore.

In the case of this lunatic I would lose my patience.

What a bitch. She's not your friend at all, she's shown you her true colours now. My ex friend wouldn't have done that but it's definitely the same old 'I'm worse off' shit. I'd recommend and hard dose of the cold shoulder.

Stemetil is horrible. Ondansetron was a wonder drug for my HG journey but they don't prescribe it unless you've gone through most because it's expensive, I had to ask for it.

Actually noting she is still a current co-worker I would take it to HR if it escalates.

You are colleagues first and foremost before friends. WHilst you are off sick, her behaviour may contravene something about being disturbed on sick leave.

im not messaging her again, I really feel like I can't be bothered, I've got no energy now and my husband thinks that's exactly what she wants, more attention.
newyear we met at work when she started for Christmas cover a couple of years ago, she got kept on but left about 4 or 5 months ago. So she still knows everyone. A colleague who let me know was just pre warning me as she knows what she was saying wasn't true, that and she thought it was odd.

God you poor thing. When I had HG just breathing from one minute to the next was effort enough. You need people on your side to see you through this not a drama queen who is draining you of any emotional energy you manage to muster.

I'm definitely going to mention Ondansetron tomorrow, I hadn't even heard of it before today.

Oh pregz I know exactly what you mean about the nicest thing to throw up. There's been times I've been crying trying to down a pint of cold waterthat will come up within seconds because the burny acid foodless sick is worse!

Oh I see.

Just plain old block if you are no longer colleagues

It's a shame hearing how she used to be. She needs professional help and you are not one to give it.

I don't know the answer to the friend problem, but sending you many sympathies for the tough pregnancy struggles. HG (and spd and exhaustion and just sometimes pregnancy) is other worldly (and not in a good way)...you have my every strengthening heartening encouraging thought!

Well she has really shown her true colours by gossiping about you to your colleagues. Thank goodness they know you well. She’s certainly no friend. You are well rid of her. Concentrate on your own health and that of your baby. Hope you are feeling better soon.

Well she is nasty all over and no friend, delete and block her, your dh was totally right.

I’m astonished by her reaction and behaviour. You made the right decision OP!