Men and wedding rings - AIBU?

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DH and I are renewing our vows next summer after 15 years (his idea, he "proposed"). When we got married, he didn't want a ring and, at the time, I didn't think much of it. This time we are aiming for a more personalised ceremony. When I said I would like to get him a ring too this time, he said not to bother because he's "not a jewellery person" and he said there's no point in men's jewellery anyway. Some of my friends think it would be odd if I receive a ring, but I don't give him one in return. AIBU to think most men do wear wedding rings these days (he thinks not)? I realise that this is hardly a world crisis, but I do feel as if I would like to give him a ring and was wondering if this is indeed the norm for most people these days?

It doesn't matter what most men do, if he doesn't want you to give him a ring respect that.

If you want something to give him, give him something he wants - he doesn't like jewellry, give him a watch, a pocket knife, a packet of crisps, whatever that might have meaning that he does like. It does not need to be a ring!

I only know a few men who do. Dh doesn't.

Neither DH or I have a wedding ring - neither of us like them. Still married - in our eyes the ring is irrelevant.

DH does but only when he isn't at work, like many others he is too scared to wear it incase his finger gets trapped. He trapped the top of his ring finger years ago, and his nail came off (it was vile) and then a few months later he had to cut his bosses wedding ring off because he had trapped his finger and it was swelling.
DH puts his wedding ring on when he gets home and changed, it's just routine now.

My DH never had a ring. Many of our male friends do have rings but rarely wear them.

It's never bothered me that DH didn't want one - he doesn't even wear a watch so I am totally fine with his decision.

Don’t think it matters in the modern world. Think some women prefer their DH to wear one as a symbol of ownership, ie so other women don’t come on to men who wear one as shows they’re married. However, my ex DH wore one and it didn’t stop him straying. My present DH doesn’t wear one, and neither do I.

Yes, as someone said, he hasn't worn one for 15 years so no need for it to be an issue now really. But if I took my rings off, he would have something to say about it, no doubt, because he does see those as significant. He doesn't work with machinery, but I guess if he doesn't want a ring, that's that.

My husband doesn't wear one (hasn't got one), doesn't bother me at all. I don't wear mine a lot of the time either.

My dh doesn't wear one he has one but he wore it just for our wedding. He doesn't wear jewellery and because of his job he can't.

I'm remarrying this year. Neither of us will have rings

what bout a tattoo? ;)

My Dh swore he would never wear a wedding ring!... So we bought the cheapest wedding ring he could get... "show me your cheapest wedding ring" I think is how or went... However he has worn it everyday since we got married... Don't think he's ever taken it off (20 years now!..) and has admitted that he really likes wearing it and would feel strange if he didn't have it!....

My Dh doesn't wear a ring and neither do I (swollen fingers). Not a problem

It was £20 I think!

Get him a Prince Albert...

I am actually thinking about getting a silicone wedding ring.

My DH doesnt wear jewellery and although we bought a cheap wedding ring to exchange for our vows he has never worn it and I couldn’t tell you where it is now. If he doesn’t like jewellery save your money it’s not essential.

If rings aren't his thing OP, it doesn't matter if every male male wears one. He doesn't want one and therefore shouldn't have one.

As for your friends thinking it's odd, they're not important in this. If they say anything, can you not just say "DH didn't want one". I mean there's nothing else you can say really.

I think it depends on the hands to be honest...I think a gold wedding band looks lovely on a man with nice clean hands and clean fingernails. ...Oh yes, and I prefer the hand to have a tan as well...but thats just me!!!

Genuine question, why re-new vows?

My DH doesn’t have one. Doesn’t like the idea of wearing jewellery, which is his prerogative.

I believe in some European countries, grooms receive watches rather than wedding rings*. Would that be a compromise?

*NB I only have DH’s word for this - he suggested I get him a Rolex when we got married, bless his heart . He did not get one but he lives in hope...

We paid £9 for a replacement on eBay for DH's wedding ring. He isn't actually wearing it at the minute because he started a new job recently and he is working with ropes, his hands were ridiculously sore so he took it off. Hasn't put it back on yet, but doesn't bother me.

Before that, he did wear it and was gutted when he lost his original wedding ring!

I'm not married but wouldn't wear a ring if I did. I hate the feeling of anything even slightly "restrictive". I don't wear a watch for the same reason.

My husband doesn't wear his unless we are dressing up to go out, I don't wear mine either as they are a set with my engagement ring,and the diamond gets caught on everything-I took my rings off when I had my babies and they only go on when I'm dressing up to go out. I don't see the reason to wear them all the time (although I probably would if it was a flat plain band).

My dh doesn't wear a ring, he didn't want one. He doesn't wear any jewellery, not even a watch, he never has.

I think any jewellery on men looks tacky