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To feel sorry for Lisa

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Flashinggreen · 14/01/2018 08:53

So it’s in DM that Ant’s filed for divorce. I know we only see what the press show us but from my point of view she’s been with him through her fertile years and now he’s gone off the rails and doesn’t want her anymore. I really hope he doesn’t hook up with someone else and manage to have children, not because he doesn’t deserve to have them, but when that happens it must be such a kick in the teeth.

I wish her love laughter and happiness without him.

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NapQueen · 14/01/2018 08:54

I feel sorry for any couple who divorce after such a long time

Not entirely sure what the fertile years/him having a baby is about - its well known theyve tried and been unable to concieve. Presumably they could afford assistance with it so a choice on both sides to remain together in spite of it.

Mammabear31 · 14/01/2018 08:54

We don't know why - I had assumed she'd had enough of his addictions and left him; not the other way around.

FrostyThirties0 · 14/01/2018 08:55

How do you know she doesn’t have fertility problems? Maybe she wants the divorce and he’s agreeed to take the flack in the media. Maybe she’s doesn’t want children and he does?

Slartybartfast · 14/01/2018 08:56

i also assumed addiction related

cheerybigbottom · 14/01/2018 08:56

I feel sorry for her because each time their marriage is reported on some of his fans say really nasty things about her. I'm sure he's not blameless in this breakup.

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Flashinggreen · 14/01/2018 08:57

It has been said before that the fertility issues played a factor in his addiction. Yes maybe she is the one whose had enough and I don’t blame her, but he’s taking the responsibility for it in the statement.

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Lostflipflop · 14/01/2018 08:58

I feel for them both, they both look so sad

ColinFlower · 14/01/2018 09:00

I don't know much about their relationship but I have empathy for anyone in a relationship with an addict. Must be extra tough when that addict is nationally loved.

Pugsleypugs · 14/01/2018 09:03

My sympathy is with both of them. We don't know what really went on in the relationship but they both come across as unhappy at the moment.

I just hope the press leave them alone as there have already been some horrible things said online about each of them.

Thatsnotmybody · 14/01/2018 09:03

They were one celebrity couple of really felt for, infertility is so soul destroying even when not played out in the national press.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 14/01/2018 09:06

For both it is sad, they’ve known each other 20+ years.
Hope they both get privacy and support to process this

londonrach · 14/01/2018 09:06

I feel for both of them. Sounds like theyve been struggling to have a baby for years. Can destroy so much

sarahjconnor · 14/01/2018 09:07

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TwitterQueen1 · 14/01/2018 09:07

I feel sad for both of them - not sorry for them - in equal measures. It's always very sad when a marriage ends, especially when fertility is an obvious issue and they are in the public eye.

Ant has not 'gone off the rails' - he's having some problems certainly but do you have any idea how easy it is to become addicted to powerful painkillers?

I wish both of them all the best for an amicable, peaceful and successful resolution.

Drinaballerina · 14/01/2018 09:08

Not often that i care about celebrity things, but I feel genuinely quite sad for them both. I hope they can both move forward and find happiness.

McTufty · 14/01/2018 09:10

If it is the case that she has stood by him through his addiction and now he’s casting her aside, then I totally agree. Who knows the real story though - either way a tough time all round, I feel for them

Bluntness100 · 14/01/2018 09:11

now he’s gone off the rails and doesn’t want her anymore

That's a bit much really. I'm sure she doesn't need or want your sympathy and none of us know what goes on behind closed doors. She may also wish the divorce.

SoupDragon · 14/01/2018 09:13

sarahjconnor that’s really nasty and uncalled for

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 14/01/2018 09:14

Plus let’s be clear the daily mail is a scurrilous rag,they’ll write anything

HamishBamish · 14/01/2018 09:18

Well, none of us know the full details. Clearly their relationship has reached an impasse and they can’t continue. Infertility has been mentioned and I do have a lot of sympathy in relation to that as it nearly destroyed our marriage. Addiction issues in top of that must have been unbearable.

Snowysky20009 · 14/01/2018 09:18

It's sad that it has happened, but it goes to show that, money can't buy you happiness. At the end of the day they are just like you or I, they have had their issues, they've tried to work through it and unfortunately its not worked.

Throw in an addiction and fertility problems, and it can break even the strongest of relationships. I just hope the press won't hound them too much over the coming months.

Nanna50 · 14/01/2018 09:19

I feel sorry that the media have printed some unflattering photos of her and I truly hope this doesn’t become about her. By his own admission he has put her through hell. I did think it would be her divorcing him, though I do think it’s sad for them both.

I also feel it won’t be long before it is announced that he is with someone else and perhaps will have children. I think the whole addiction, rehab, career and break up is being very carefully managed through the media to protect him.

OnionKnight · 14/01/2018 09:22

Why must we feel sorry for one or the other? Can't we feel sorry for them both? Also, nobody knows what is going on in their relationship, don't believe anything that the tabloids or gossip mags post.

TwitterQueen1 · 14/01/2018 09:22

Your post is really unpleasant OP. What is the point of it?

LucilleBluth · 14/01/2018 09:24

I think the wording of the announcement is odd. It does sound like he's taking the blame at all...'Ant has decided to end his marriage' 'he needs to focus on his heal'. Not the usual mutual decision, remain friends blah blah blah.