To feel sorry for Lisa

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So it’s in DM that Ant’s filed for divorce. I know we only see what the press show us but from my point of view she’s been with him through her fertile years and now he’s gone off the rails and doesn’t want her anymore. I really hope he doesn’t hook up with someone else and manage to have children, not because he doesn’t deserve to have them, but when that happens it must be such a kick in the teeth.

I wish her love laughter and happiness without him.

Shes better off without him and seems nice enough.
He's a bell end and a dead weight, if I were her I'd be pleased to be shut of him.I bet he ends up like Gazza in a couple of years.

Doesn't sound

Nobody knows what happened. From what I can see they seem to be two rather nice people who've gone through some very difficult times recently. I hope they both find happiness.

And I don't really like the implication that this successful woman is a failure because she doesn't have children, or that she can't be happy without them.

Wow Rudgie you won’t ever get a job with Relate will you?!

I assumed she'd booted the pathetic middle aged addict out after she'd absolutely had enough

I'm currently on the similar meds that Ant was. I need to take them otherwise the pain is too much to cope with. I've been on them for 5 years, I dread to think how my body will react when it's time to come off them (and that won't happen until I have a surgery that will work). My last meds review, the Drs increased my meds yet again, and I asked about this issue, they replied you have 'to weigh up the risk of pain against the risk of addiction'- so pain won, but it means medication.

Please don't ever call someone out for an addiction until you've been there yourself. I would have honestly gone, just stop taking them, and get over it a few years ago. No I can understand why and how that addiction affected him. It's not just about the pain. If I run out of my meds or if we are changing them (which happens a lot), the way my body reacts is horrible. It's a drug addict going throug cold turkey. The shakes, the stomach cramps, cold sweats, nausea, vomiting, anxiety which is off the scale to name but a few things. And that I'm replacing straight away with another similar medication.

Addiction is hard, but he's lucky in that he can still afford the best healthcare to available to him. But it's shows that when something happens on top of an already (possibly)/ fragmented relationship, that even the strongest fall.

OP you’re trying to have a discussion about an article by the DM which is likely lacking in truth.

Go find something to do

Sad for them both. Rumours abound that Ants issues are more complex than reported. I am always suspicious when a celebrity chooses to talk about their troubles to a newspaper...

Why are we assuming that she is blameless? Why does she deserve sympathy over him? Because she's a woman? Because he's famous? Whether he has actually chosen to leave her, there could be any number of reasons why.
Perhaps he has agreed to take the media blame so she doesn't look like a heartless wife who abandoned her DH who is fresh out of rehab? Perhaps they just don't love each other anymore? Perhaps she hasn't actually been very supportive so he had chosen to end the marriage so he can focus on getting better?
You don't know.

Some of the comments on this thread. Nobody knows what's happened. Leave them alone and stop speculating.

If this is based on a DM article,women who's marriages break up are either 'homewrecking sluts who abandon their children to frolic with younger men ( Zoe Ball, Louise Redknapp, Billie Piper) or they are poor abandoned wives who will then spend the rest of their lives 'showing their exes what they are missing'

As i dont know either of them personally, all i could say is that it is always sad when a couple divorce.
And stop reading the Daily Mail.
Hth

quite Sparkling my thoughts exactly

What Sparkling said.
It's sad for them both. It's none of our business.

I am genuinely curious as to why people post as if they know celebrities. You even say yourself that you don't in your OP.
What is the point in having an utterly groundless opinion?

It reminds me of an interview I read many many years ago with some soap star villain character, who said he had people verbally abuse him (in all seriousness) in the street.

I concluded that those people were a bit thick, and I think it's the same for people who think they know what has gone on in other people's lives - who they don't even know!

I'm reminded too of a neighbour who when my mother visited an ill relative for a week, told the whole street my mother was in hospital for a hysterectomy.

Horrible thread. Just horrid.

Ant is an addict and has sought help. Mumsnet never ceases to amaze me when it comes to addiction problems. It often disgusts me.

Good luck to them both. It’s none of our business and the DM have been gunning for the story for weeks. Read something else.

I admire Ant for going public about his fertility issues. It takes enormous guts to do that especially if you’re a man. Most celebs don’t go public about it until and unless they’ve had successful treatment, which isn’t really helpful to those who haven’t.

Meant to add I am sorry that their marriage has ended and wish them both well.

Actually if it has anything to do with addiction I suspect it might be more to do with Ant giving up his vices and Lisa being more reluctant to do so. She was photographed drinking a lot while he was in Australia. If you're going dry it might be very difficult to be with a partner who is not supportive of that and still wants to lead a lifestyle centred around alcohol.

I don't know Ant but Lisa is awesome. Strong, talented and all round good egg. She will be fine.

I think the more important story here is how Dec is suddenly being referred to as "Declan".

Ant has also not given up alcohol, he has cut down but is not being treated for alcohol addiction. Lisa was not pictured driving 'a lot', she wet out a couple of times with work colleagues & friends in December - not unheard of!

The main difference being, she was being photographed doing so by people in bushes.

drinking not driving!

He gave up drinking altogether but he said it might not be permanent. If you look at the pics of them in the year before they split they both have puffy bloated faces. Ant does not now. Lisa still does, it makes me wonder.