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To feel sorry for Lisa

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Flashinggreen · 14/01/2018 08:53

So it’s in DM that Ant’s filed for divorce. I know we only see what the press show us but from my point of view she’s been with him through her fertile years and now he’s gone off the rails and doesn’t want her anymore. I really hope he doesn’t hook up with someone else and manage to have children, not because he doesn’t deserve to have them, but when that happens it must be such a kick in the teeth.

I wish her love laughter and happiness without him.

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HorseItIntoMe · 14/01/2018 10:12

I thought that op. I bet he ends up having kids with someone else. bless her 😔

PeacefulBlessing · 14/01/2018 10:13

OP how about you mind your own business and stop gossiping about people you don't know whose personal lives are absolutely no business of yours.

That way it won't matter what the press are or are not presenting, or what the truth of the matter is, because no one will be speculating about it or criticising either of them for it.

If you do care about these complete strangers' lives, as you appear to think you do so or else why would you be talking about them, then have enough respect and human decency to leave them alone.

SleepFreeZone · 14/01/2018 10:13

Op I know exactly what you are saying and I agree with you.

dementedma · 14/01/2018 10:16

if you are not, or have never lived with an addict, you have no fucking idea how destructive it is to everyone around. Please don't judge until you have been there.It's not about someone who has a few too many every now and again. It's a level of pain,illness, violence, lying, thieving, illness, emotional carnage that I wouldn't inflict on anyone. I wish them both well.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 14/01/2018 10:27

Thoughtful post dementedma
I hope they get privacy and time at a difficult time

Tippexy · 14/01/2018 10:39

Lisa refused to release a joint statement, which speaks volumes to me

Slartybartfast · 14/01/2018 10:40

And also I wonder if Ant is in pain with his knee?
another spoke in the wheel

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2018 10:41

Why should either of them need to make any statement. Just so people can between the lines and make stuff up.

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2018 10:42

*read

LardLizard · 14/01/2018 10:43

I feel sorry for her too

TheHolidayArmadillo · 14/01/2018 10:44

Why should either of them need to make any statement. Just so people can between the lines and make stuff up.

Agree Sparkling. I really can't work out why people give a shit.

Slartybartfast · 14/01/2018 10:48

WE have no idea how much Lisa drinks, or Ant.
what a load of salacious gossip

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2018 10:50

Seems there are posters on this thread that know more than Ant and Lisa do about their situation.

demirose87 · 14/01/2018 10:50

Why do you care about it OP? I prefer to focus on my own relationships, not celebrities. I don't know them personally and no one knows for sure what went on in that relationship and why they broke up for definite. I really can't get worked up over this type of thing.

mistermagpie · 14/01/2018 10:51

It's the wording of the statement which speaks volumes to me. It's clearly his decision and not a joint one.

I don't know anything about them other than what's been in the media and I feel sorry for them both.

Slartybartfast · 14/01/2018 10:52

if you do know them all personally, as so many of you seem to do, i dont think they would appreciate you spilling the beans on their drinking habits

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2018 10:54

All this 'speaks volumes' basically means you are filling in the gaps yourselves with whatever suits you.

BulletFox · 14/01/2018 10:54

I don't know either of them, just feel a bit sorry for the relationship breakdown, like you would with anyone

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2018 10:56

What a horrible mawkish thread, OP.

I thought 'Lisa and Ant' were going to be people you actually know

Dungeondragon15 · 14/01/2018 11:03

Who knows who's idea it was to split up. He may have released the statement but that could be because she was getting some grief for not standing by him with his addiction. Either way, it's sad for both of them but presumably, they have been happy for many years together and at least they are both more than okay financially.

Poptart4 · 14/01/2018 11:05

No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. No one throws away 23yrs on a whim. They've obviously been unhappy for a while. Why should either of them be the bad guy? Sometimes relationships don't work out. I wish them both the best x

juliesaway · 14/01/2018 11:33

I just don’t get why he was bingeing on tramadol morphine and alcohol? Must have been in a very dark place.

FrostyThirties0 · 14/01/2018 12:40

Erm because they are addictive?

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Flashinggreen · 14/01/2018 13:01

No one know what goes on behind closed doors and no one wants to is an expression I do use.

It was a thought I had in my head that I put in MN, I hardly ever start threads but because their fertility issues had been talked about by Ant in the press I have always wished them well (obvs in my head, I clearly don’t know them).

To the PP who told me to do something else, I’ve visited my parents and been to Tesco just in case you wanted to know.

The thread was not started to be be mawkish, gossipy etc etc, it was a thought I had when I read the DMOnline, which I freely admit I do.

Yes I should have more morals and ethics and they have recently printed an awful article which may permanently damage the reputation of someone in my profession. But I look at the pictures and see what’s going on from the DMs view of the world.

I think I care about this person I’ve seen in the press for the last 20 years because I do genuinely care about people.

I’ve had clinical depression when a student and do think he’s had a shit time too, I agree with PP who’ve said they both look unhappy. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but I’m feeling for empathy for her.

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TabbyMack · 14/01/2018 13:07

You have absolutely no idea what went on in their relationship...none. So it's ridiculous amd stupid to decide what "side" you're on.

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