Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Can’t see to proceed out of drive

110 replies

cuddly61 · 13/01/2018 17:15

Ok I got a problem. My neighbour is parking his lorry right up to the entrance of my drive over the sloped kerbstone that forms a dropped kerb.it totally obstructs my view of oncoming traffic and totally obstructs the view of oncoming traffic to actually see my car proceeding from my drive.
It’s difficult to swing out to.
There isn’t a option speaking to my neighbour as they have done nothing but cause problems for me yet I never done anything wrong to them they just took a dislike .
I have already asked the highways about a white t bar being painted but they said they don’t do that no more also they said they don’t put mirrors up no more as that would had solved the problem.
But I’m so worried if I do hit oncoming traffic am I held responsible?
The police are not interested I’m just told he is not breaking the law.
It doesn’t matter if I turned left or right my view is still totally obscured.
And makes no difference reversing out or driving forwards out.
Any advice please

OP posts:
Nicknacky · 13/01/2018 22:22

disgrace there is no such offence as parking otherwise in accordance with a licence.

NoStraightEdges · 13/01/2018 22:50

Spill handfuls of nails in the gutter.

ThatDamnedDog · 13/01/2018 22:57

As you state, he doesn’t need an o licence so the parking overnight wouldn’t be relevant. But I would still check with the traffic commissioner about any possible violations (include photos you may have as evidence). Also continue to contact his employer each and every time he causes a nuisance to you, the squeakiest wheel etc.
Deepest sympathies though op it’s vile putting up with arsehole neighbors [flower]

SistersOfPercy · 13/01/2018 23:06

Get yourself on your local Facebook selling pages and pick up one of the bargain bin cars they usually have on there. You know the kind, 8 months mot etc. Tax it, park it and forget it for the next 8 months.
They can block that top their little hearts content

londonrach · 13/01/2018 23:12

Interested to know solutions as a posh private school has taken to parking their large school bus On the main road just where the junction is (they parked legally and not a problem if normal car but this school bus blocks the view. Can see an accident happening soon). This makes it very hard to see when you leave my road onto the main road. Posh private school is other side of town so must be the driver lives nearby.

MissEliza · 14/01/2018 00:08

A neighbour of ours used to park his van outside our house, which is on a corner. A neighbour left him a snotty note saying it contravened the Highway Code as it obscured the view when trying to turn into our road. I don't know if it's true but he parked on his driveway for evermore.

cuddly61 · 14/01/2018 00:12

Yes that was the time the police said I didn’t know they had done it on purpose .

OP posts:
safariboot · 14/01/2018 03:58

You know the kind, 8 months mot etc. Tax it, park it and forget it for the next 8 months.

Regarding this idea, remember it's now the law that it would need to be insured. Depending on the area you live in that could be expensive.

Veterinari · 14/01/2018 07:50

Reverse in and pull out forwards - it doesn’t solve your problem but it does mean that if yhere’s An accident you are following the Highway Code

insancerre · 14/01/2018 07:58

You are going to have to reverse in
You should be doing that anyway

HippoPotOMoose · 14/01/2018 08:05

No advice but what a childish twat you have as a neighbour.

We have parking wars at the minute but that picture takes some beating. You need a cunning plan but first always reverse into your drive even if it means a few shunts.

Meanwhile MN needs to get its collective head together. Whereabouts are you OP, could local MNetters all descend on you and park to block him in, give him a piece of his own medicine. Preferably big 4x4s or horse boxes...

MeeWhoo · 14/01/2018 08:06

Is there a way you could put up one of those corner mirrors yourself in your property? You can get them from Amazon,they're not too expensive.
It doesn't solve the neighbour problem, but it would make you safer driving in and out.

cuddly61 · 14/01/2018 09:20

He can’t block my car in now because I had my driveway put in but he is now trying to make it difficult for me to get on and off my drive .
Before not only was he and his wife blocking my car in but after a court case against him for criminal damage which was a total travesty,basically he wrecked my brand new fence caught on cctv police thought it was cast iron case.but he lied to the court said it was his boundary and I put my fence within his boundary therefore he only damaged his own fence ,he had also said I had replaced his old falling down fence for him which was all lies.of course I told the court I had in court my boundary plan and his proving it was my boundary but no one in court asked to see my boundary plan . So they dismissed the case excuse being the magistrates didn’t know who owned the boundary.i spent months trying to get something done about obvious perjury but our police force was useless.but he knew that if he kept blocking me after the court case I could go for witness intimidation so he would park his lorry behind my car and get his neighbours to park their car in front blocking me in and their van.the van got a police warning ticket as this neighbour had left it there and gone out in his car.
But on returning came round mine ranting and raving and threatening.
He was coming round quite a few times posting a threatening note even signed it but the police did nothing yet again.
But luckily they moved. It was pathetic .
There a lot more that happened but too long to list.
In that photo the back of his lorry is actually over hanging my car .
Another time he had a car they didn’t use but taxed etc he parked his lorry behind ,then got this other car that hadn’t moved for months off his drive and parked it in front of my car leaving it there .
They are complete vile and nasty idiots.
The police have asked them twice to do mediation with us but they refused hmmmm wonder why maybe a few awkward questions would be asked.

OP posts:
Ilovecamping · 14/01/2018 09:30

If you are getting nowhere with your local council, out in a complaint and get your neighbours to do the same. If you than get problems from the neighbour you get the police involved.

wheresthel1ght · 14/01/2018 09:43

If the cops are doing nothing about the intimidation etc then I would file a comolaiewith the ipcc and ask them to look into it further.

In the meantime I would do some sad face pics with the dm or your local rag and contact your local mp

ElsieMc · 14/01/2018 09:47

So sorry for you op. Sadly whatever steps you take to protect yourself parking and driveway wise, you simply cannot change the mindset of your horrible neighbours. You seem to have tried every avenue open to you and the police are particularly useless here. You could try a complaint against them but that is just another shed load of stress and as they investigate themselves, well you already know the outcome.

Do you rent or own? To be honest life cannot be much fun living there at all. Is there any chance you could move. Its not about letting them win its about you having a quality of life and that is worth ££££.

ElsieMc · 14/01/2018 09:49

Posted before remembering to say that over on Property MN, there is a thread from someone who has moved to a village with hideous neighbours, one of whom parks a large 4x4 opposite her drive making life difficult all the nearby neighbours. She is considering calling it a day after 6 months.

Maddiemademe · 14/01/2018 10:22

I agree, if there is any chance you can move do it. I know it doesnt seem fait but believe me your sanity is worth a lot more than not letting them get to you.

I have had awful issues with my neighbour and i put my house on the market 8 months after buying. I couldnt live with the threats, harassment and the awful anxiety i was feeling every day. Still waiting to exchange contracts but just knowing i will soon be away keeps me sane for now. Hugs as i know how it can affect you mentally Flowers.

CrashBangWollop · 14/01/2018 10:25

If you've told your insurer that your car is now parked on a private driveway at your home address overnight, but then leave it on a public highway outside your house overnight and anything happens to it they won't pay out as they will say you told them it would be parked on your drive!

I'd also second buying a cheap convex mirror from the internet and putting on a post on the left side of your drive so that you have a bit better visibility to your right past his lorry - and reverse on, pull off forward.

cuddly61 · 14/01/2018 11:48

I tried complaining went as high as the chief inspector but she only handed it back down to officers.
When his neighbour parked his van on my drive I knew I couldn’t damage it or even tow it. So I positioned my car to make it difficult but not impossible to get off as the police had twice told me yes they was coming out and yes they would take action against him. Next morning owner of the van comes round ranting and raving I tell him to get off my property several times.i ring the police yet again seeing how long they going to be because now he was on my garden taking photos of my house they say they on their way. Meanwhile I spot his partner on her phone.few minutes later a police officer rings very nasty saying no he is not coming out I’ve agrravated the situation and to go and move my car to let van off my drive .if he had bothered to come out he would had seen the van could had got off my drive.
I put a official complaint in but to no avail officer lied said he was firm not nasty.

OP posts:
LadyBunnysWig · 14/01/2018 12:01

Park where the lorry is and get a dash cam. Doesn't need to be expensive, but you'll have actual footage if/when your neighbours damage your car

cuddly61 · 14/01/2018 12:04

Thank you everyone for all your advice. I can’t move as brought under the right to buy so got a few more years to go until I can sell,if I sold now I would have to pay thousands back of the discount.and can’t afford to do that.
My only satisfaction is he got a high solicitor bill when he had to go to court. And after the court case was dismissed I went to my solicitor to get advice how or if I could appeal took my boundary plan in and a copy of his as he lied in court saying it was his boundary.also I used my solicitor to purchase my house so they knew it was indeed my boundary. After my visit got a email saying sorry they couldn’t advise me but he had just found out it was his colleague who represented my neighbour in this court case but it will be of some comfort to know they won’t be representing or helping him again lol oh dear seems like his solicitor was not happy he blantly lied to him about it was his boundary lol
I know the problem with my neighbours.my partner and I was on benefits as we both have severe mental illness I have seen his Facebook posts in the past calling us spongers etc.
Then two years ago I lost a dear aunt and inherited enough to buy my council house outright that got to hear about it that’s when they got even worse. But I wasn’t giving up the chance to buy my council house at 43% discount no matter how vile they are. Not only that my money would had soon gone paying rent. Of course we came off benefits everything was legit.but that didn’t stop them trying to report us for benefit fraud anon.i was lucky chap from dwp told us what information they was given so I knew it was them.
So basically they are green with jealousy .i know their other neighbour completely redid her room they copied her exactly even down to the same colour wooden floor.then their neighbour got a new car so they had to take out a loan to afford a new car lol.
All we want is a quiet life and them to leave us alone.

OP posts:
bluebell34567 · 14/01/2018 12:34

so sorry for what you are going through with your neighbour cuddly61.
they are complete bullies and I am astonished nothing has been done by police or anyone else, leaving you vulnerable.
do you have legal cover in your insurance? maybe your insurance company can help you.
I hope it will resolve soon for forever.

cuddly61 · 14/01/2018 13:52

Yes I have legal cover with my insurance but I don’t know what they could do . I did think about taking the police for negligence but knowing them they would come up with excuses.
I know they don’t do anything when I’ve put in official complaints.
One officer who came round after vile neighbours maliciously made false allegation I had shouted abuse at them when I’ve never said a word to them for about two years ,he was just not interested it was lies,he had just come from round there yet did not know the time or date of this supposed shouting of abuse which I found very odd.
As I told him my cctv covers all my back garden and all my front garden and beyond all areas are covered so I could prove I hadn’t even been outside but he didn’t want to know said it was tit for tat with them.
But to me it was a serious false allegation and I could had proved it .
All he was interested in was a solution to it all I said I just want them to leave me alone he said they had said the same about me.my best friend who lives a few doors away told the policeman I had done nothing to them. But he just carried on.made some remark they had told him I had done things so obviously was lying more and more to the police.
I haven’t mentioned that nearly everytime I go out being a semi they must hear my front door opening as they are stood in their doorway .one night I came home first one was stood staring at me she went in then he came out staring. I moved my cctv a tiny bit to cover their front door as I needed proof.next night they both in and out staring over at my house then he did a obscene hand gesture .
Of course the police did nothing yet again.
But I had some karma before Christmas his fishpond caught fire lol he has a platform where his terrapins climb on ,dodgy electrics under that caught fire.but his teenage daughter came straight round asking if I had had a fire what a cheek.
I tell you I was doing my happy dance round my kitchen as that fish pond his pride and joy lol

OP posts:
Nicknacky · 14/01/2018 14:00

You have to understand that neighbour complaints happen all day every day in every neighbourhood. The police don't general start charging people with wasting police time in these circumstances as they would do nothing else. In any dispute there are three sides, yours theirs and the truth! Nothing to do with negligence as you say yourself that one case went to court.

And you are covering their property with cctv so I would probably have given you a gesture too! No wonder the police weren't interested in that.