To think this is a hurtful thing to say?

[Purplerain101]

Was just talking about the stupid program ‘naked attraction’ with my OH (for those who haven’t seen it it’s a dating show where the person gets to pick between 5 naked people and they get shown their body parts bit by bit).
I said to him “would you pick me if you were on it and just saw my body and not my face?”
His response: “maybe if I saw your top half but definitely not your bottom half”. He wasn’t joking either and said it in a completely serious voice.
He’s now saying I’m over reacting for feeling hurt. AIBU?

The lesson to learn here is Don’t ask questions that you don’t want to know the answer to!

I’d much rather hear a hurtful truth than a sweet lie.

Do you feel your bottom half is nice, good enough or has room for improvement?

But loving all of your body is not the same as blind picking it out of a line-up not knowing it's yours. Surely you want the former and not the latter???

Well, he was being honest, it's the sort of thing I would say to dh but he would never say to me in a million years, as he'd know better than to be brutally honest.

I think most people would lie to keep the peace.

He must be joking because the bottom half is where the sexy times happen.
YABU to watch Naked Attraction. Gives me the heebie geebies looking at all those cocks and fannies. And for some strange reason the bald fannies especially.

Do you feel your bottom half is nice, good enough or has room for improvement?

Well, he can steer clear of your bottom half then.

And sleep on the sofa till he comes to his senses and grovels properly.

What a wanker, literally!

@beverley I don’t watch it, just saw it on gogglebox and thought it was utterly bizarre.
I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with my bottom half. I’m an average size and I work out. Not sure which area he was referring to whether it’s my legs, genitals or bum. Definitely not going to ask further as I really don’t want to know the answer to that haha

I’d have to ask what it was about my bottom half he doesn’t like.

...mind you, I might not pick my bottom half if I had a choice...there might be pretty ones with flat tummies on offer! It’s a shame you can’t order them as replacement parts really...

"Ok Darling, I''ll take that constructive criticism on board. So fair enough, no more bottom half for you"

I would never pick any man by either half, gross.

What a shit.

You asked the question! He just gave his honest answer. I'd rather that than a lie.

Ach, you were fishing, he was answering honestly. I'd much rather be told the truth than ask questions hoping my husband would lie to me. It seems you're the opposite?

Personally I'd have pulled on that thread though and simply asked "why" , I don't know how you don't want to know. Not wanting to know is similar to wanting him to lie in the first place . And my pulling on the thread is similar to my desire for honesty in the first place.. Different strokes for different folks.

It's a
Stupid snow for twats who pick beauty over substance .... bollox and probably as shit equality as you could try to find this day and age on the box!

Was your husband looking st context in which case you should say well I'm bright and funny with oodles of personality why wouldn't you want somebody to pick me for my body shape - that's shit and telling of the other party! 🤪😊😵

Sorry ... why WOULD you want to be picked for your body shape - talk about shallow!

Purplerain101 I wonder who does watch it! I watched a bit of an episode because I couldn't believe it was really cocks and fannies. But when the woman described what she liked about the cocks, I couldn't watch anymore!

Yeah, I watched it once and I was really cringing, it just all felt so toe curlingly awkward, and all I could think was "how the fuck do they face everyone at work etc after they've been on there"

On the one I watched some dude was saying he disliked his small penis. It was indeed rather small. I mean really, why would you go on telly then and show everyone you know your dick?

I think it was a hurtful thing to say.

I wouldn't be letting him near my bottom half if he was my DH.

No need to be so rude, even if the op asked.

Aww, that’s awful and is hurtful.
We women are all beautiful. Our scars, stretch marks etc all tell the journey of our experiences and we should feel proud.
Xx

You fished, got told something hurtful, so obviously he is a total bastard you should lave, and possibly hate all men for the rest of your existence. No way it may have been in jest, or a throwaway comment between two people who have known each other intimately and emotionally far better than us anonymous twats on the internet. BOO, DOWN WITH MEN.

He should have told you he loved every inch of you. Clearly he has not been brought up properly. You will need to retrain him.

Why are people blaming the OP for asking the question? What is there possibly to justify telling your partner that you think a part of their body is unattractive other than that you want to be a dick to them? I don't get the obsession with being honest sometimes. You will achieve nothing other than hurting the person you are supposed to love.

Yeah - pretty hurtful. I don't like it when people say hurtful stuff in the name of "I was just being honest". I actually think that is a classic example of when a person should say a sweet lie rather than the harsh truth. I know you asked - but it's like he's negging you.

He’s a complete arsehole.