Not to report this?

[dianemorgan]

Just thinking about all the "me too" sex scandal things.... when I was 14 my BF was 18 and we had sex. (I am now 35)

No hard feelings between us, we are FB friends. He is married with kids. Same for me.

Talking about this to a friend recently who said she would report him to police as was a crime at the time and people should be being held accountable for all these things that happened years ago when all was brushed under carpet etc.

I disagree - i feel I would be ruining his life for nothing.

Who is BU?

When I was around 12 a friend who was a little older had a boyfriend Uncle XXX who lived next door to her aunt, at the time she was really pleased to have the attention of an older man,. It's only lately I realised it was probably sex abuse and I feel guilty that we didn't realise at the time and do something about it

I think it's an extremely toxic idea that a happy-at-the-time consensual encounter between teenagers should be reported to the police decades later.
It takes away that teenage girl's autonomy, choice and freedom. Like it or not, teenagers are interested in sex and may want to experiment when they are not legally old enough. Consensual sex with another teenager is not harmful in any way.

I had sex at 13 with my bf who was 16 - it was great. We dated for another 2 years (and a year beforehand).

It was 100% my decision, he respected me and my choices at all times and I do not consider he did anything bad at all. This would have been rape in the UK (not in the country I was in).

At 16 I had sex with a man 5 years older who was completely disrespectful and it was a really crap experience. This would have been totally fine under UK law.

The law is made to allow for the possibility of prosecution in certain cases, and is necessarily a blunt instrument. Doesn't mean it's always right to use it, or that the law covers everything it might need to.

I would definitely not report him

Angel
Your scenario is equally wrong. Inversing the sex of the two parties makes no difference.