Bridezilla

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There's no male equivalent is there? It's just one of those phrases women get lumbered with.

I know this is not a huge thing but it's really annoyed me.

Planning my wedding. I said that I don't want favours. They're a waste of money. I'd far rather use the money for an extra bottle of wine per table or something. Do people really want five sugared almonds on a drawstring bag?

I also think spending £300 on a wedding cake is a bit stupid too (again saying let's have more wine instead )

Finance says it's nice, it's tradition, people expect it bla bla bla. I said I think it's pointless but then I'm aware it's not just my wedding.

He's had a right laugh sending me 'Bridezilla' memes or gifs or whatever they are all afternoon. I imagine there's been office 'banter' this afternoon about weddings making women 'physco' (I know his workmates!)

Now I know he's only having a laugh. But why do women have to get called Bridezillas and other various insults that don't have a equivalent?

Friend's fiancé has expressed a desire to have a baby. Suddenly she's 'baby crazy'. Another time when she wasn't happy he came home late and pissed she was 'hormonal'.

It makes me cross!

And favours are SO a waste of money

I agree, favours are shit. I said I didn't want them at my wedding. Ended up with 500 bags of sugared almonds.

I believe the equivalent is a Groomzilla?!

And, I agree, spending the money on extra drinks/food for guests is a better bet than "five sugared almonds on a drawstring bag"

Groomzilla

Actually I've seen 'groomzilla' a few times on MN, but usually only when both halves of a pair of about to be married people have gone bananas about the wedding day and forgotten that it's only the first day of a marriage.

And to be serious for a moment... your friend is being a bit of an arse towards his fiancee, and I'm not sure I like the sound of your own HTB much either.

Favours are good if they're chocolate.

I suppose they're meant to go 'in' the bag but that's a typo

Yes, have been plunged into the world of 'things that seem pointless but will cost you loads for your wedding'.

Also encountered are chair covers, and a red carpet for when you get out of the car and take the three steps into the foyer.

Also, I don't think he understands what a Bridezilla is, because it doesn't sound from your OP that you are behaving like one at all.

Well that's what I thought Radio.

I'll make him watch that TV show of American brides screeching like banshees because the bridesmaid has put on half a pound and has a pimple.

I think OP sounds like the opposite of a Bridezilla! But I'd rather have a slice of cake than booze - happy to have cheaper cake though; knock up a home-made sponge and I'd be happy

I'm not having bridesmaids either come to that. I think it's my being stubborn to just include all the traditional things for the sake of it is what has prompted the bridezilla comments as I'm not budging on it.

They are getting cake Lovely home made pudding table selection at a fraction of the cost.

But no white tiers and no photo op.

Well maybe. DP for some reason really wants that

I hate wine and love sugared almonds so YADBU.

A wedding cake is only £300 if you ask for "wedding cake". You can get perfectly lovely decorated cakes that you can plonk a bride and groom firgure on for less than that if you are not after a 5 tiered "wedding cake".

Favours are nice though, if not almonds! Where did that even come from?! We assembled little boxes with chocolates in and tied with a "theme" coloured ribbon.

You do sound like you'd like a lot of wine though! (Not necessarily a bad thing)

Remember its his wedding too. Perhaps compromise on some things

the good thing about over-ordering on the wine for your wedding is that you can always take the wine home with you for later. Can't say the same thing about wedding cake. [taps nose. Misses nose because still drinking up 'leftover' Shiraz. hic]

I don't think that people will expect it so I think he's daft if that would be his only reason for doing stuff.

I love wedding cake though so would be disappointed to not have any.

I agree with you about the term bridezilla, when DP is enthusiastic about wanting something for our wedding he practically gets praised for it.
I’m also refusing to do wedding favours as I beleiev they’re a waste of money and doing cupcakes for the wedding cake but if I could get away with it I wouldn’t botger

He is a groomzilla for insisting on sugared almonds and a tiered wedding cake!

Ask him which of his mates / colleagues he is marrying!

Ask him what it is he wants from the wedding. What is its importance... becoming your life partner and what?

A feck offly big party and... street cred from someone?

He may be having a crisis of confidence, may not agree with your parsimonious money saving idea, he could just be feeling a bit pushed out of the arrangements.

Talk to him about the big stuff and get onto the specifics later!

You sound lovely. DH needs to think about what he actually wants (or cares about/remembers from other weddings he's been a guest at), rather than sticking with expensive traditions I bet his mum loves favours, what men give a shit about them?

We didn't have a cake, just lots of pudding, and no favours. Free bar, pig/lamb roast with lovely salads.

And as others have said ... Groomzilla.. lots of them on Don't Tell the Bride (thinking of the twat who took his mates off on a fact finding mission to America and spent all the money)

I think OP sounds like the opposite of a Bridezilla!

Does MN have a term for this?

Somewhere some person who owns a favours factory is having a right laugh at us all.

They are shit.

I'm in the more wine camp. Best wishes for your wedding

God I remember being asked if I wanted a ribbon on the cake knife for an extra 50 quid. 50 quid!

I'd be sending 'we're not Tom Cruise and Katie Whatserface' messages myself!!