Bridezilla

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There's no male equivalent is there? It's just one of those phrases women get lumbered with.

I know this is not a huge thing but it's really annoyed me.

Planning my wedding. I said that I don't want favours. They're a waste of money. I'd far rather use the money for an extra bottle of wine per table or something. Do people really want five sugared almonds on a drawstring bag?

I also think spending £300 on a wedding cake is a bit stupid too (again saying let's have more wine instead )

Finance says it's nice, it's tradition, people expect it bla bla bla. I said I think it's pointless but then I'm aware it's not just my wedding.

He's had a right laugh sending me 'Bridezilla' memes or gifs or whatever they are all afternoon. I imagine there's been office 'banter' this afternoon about weddings making women 'physco' (I know his workmates!)

Now I know he's only having a laugh. But why do women have to get called Bridezillas and other various insults that don't have a equivalent?

Friend's fiancé has expressed a desire to have a baby. Suddenly she's 'baby crazy'. Another time when she wasn't happy he came home late and pissed she was 'hormonal'.

It makes me cross!

And favours are SO a waste of money

I think guests care most about alcohol and it makes for a good celebration.

I went to a wedding with lovely centerpieces and favours. It was the worst wedding I have been to. 1 glass of wine for 3 courses and not even a facility to buy my own.

There's no male equivalent is there? It's just one of those phrases women get lumbered with

No. If a man was acting the same way he's be a groomzilla, but they don't do they? It IS women that do it. It's not the phrase that is the problem.

You sound like a sensible low maintenance bride and he should count his lucky stars!! I didn’t have any of that stuff either, still had a wonderful day and came out of it married

Sugared almonds really are wank.

And I agree with everything else you're saying.

Cake is nice though. I'd prefer cake to wine. Do a cupcake cake?

You sound like me. I want a low key ceremony and a nice meal with lots of wine. He wants me being given away (just no, I’m not anyone’s possession), a herd of bridesmaids, a fancy wedding cake and an even fancier car. Yet I’m the one being difficult apparently. Thankfully he hasn’t heard of favours or that would apparently also be traditional and non-negotiable. Grrrrr!

We had favours at our wedding,they were a new thing then, but only for the bridal party.

How about Stagasaurus...

You can have sweets / chocolates on the table, without the fancy bags and for much less money, which can be nice after a meal or just more wine and as for the cake, you can buy ready made plain cakes and add decoration for very little money. Me, I'd rather have triffle, but it is your wedding so do as you want to and just have a good time! All the best for your nuptials.

You're a sensible low maintenance bride! He doesn't know how lucky he is.

It is perfectly reasonable for you to tailor your wedding to include the bits of tradition you do like and exclude the bits you don't. The whole mentality that you have to have something "because people expect it" is what makes weddings so hideously over-expensive.
Stick to your guns. You are not a Bridezilla.

I like sugared almonds, but yeah, if it's a choice wine is better

The sugared almonds are a French tradition I believe. They have pink or blue ones for christening favours.
The last (American) wedding favour I had was a brown cardboard box, presented as a great treasure , which contained two ordinary biscuits and a teabag. Actually I'd have liked a cup of tea, but there was nowhere to use the teabag.

Just put M&Ms in a bowl.

Everyone likes them and they'll brighten up the table.

Marcipex

Ha ha Stagosaurus is brilliant.

OP you're not a Bridezilla. You're just being a level headed normal person, veering towards a Winezilla if anything

Agree, the "She's hormonal" comments from men if you're justifiably annoyed about anything are fucking pathetic.

Weddings are a waste of money, elope, be happy.

Urgh if a man was insisting on having fancy details or his own ideas for his wedding he'd probably be called a "Hopeless romantic" and everyone would think it was really sweet.

We had Lego minifigures as our favours (mostly collected up by the children and my brother who was not a child, lol)

Only had a wedding cake because a family member made it.

Used family cars (think black BMW type) with some ribbon on, my MiL still mentions that we didn't have proper cars!

Luckily my husband was glad I was in the "it doesn't matter, keep it cheap" camp so it was easy. We still had a lovely day and you might argue that we had an even better day than some might after spending a fortune on the tiny details as we weren't stressing about whether everything was perfect.

Imo sugared almonds are a huge waste!

I'm with you, OP.

I've never gone to a wedding and been disgruntled about not getting sugared almonds (or any other similar bits and bobs).

I made a shedload of microwave fudge and had that as favours. Seemed to go down pretty well and was v cheap.

We avoided a lot of the venue malarkey by hiring a village hall and getting a hog roast in. We had to do a lot of the work but it was all very personal to us and firendly, and a lot cheaper. And we had a celiedh band, and I put my trainers on, the better to leap about in my dress. It was fun.

Some friends of ours still make outraged noises about their wedding venue charging them extra for the use of the chandeliers...! Basically, as soon as the word 'wedding' is mentioned, prices start to shoot up...

You haven't met my DP !! God ever since we got engaged he's been going on about colour schemes cake tiers and the wedding dance im just sat wondering if we're having sausage rolls at the reception

Your typo of spelling fiance as "finance" did make me after your grumbles about wasting money

From now on im calling him Groomzilla it needs to be a thing clearly

i agree OP - im getting married in 5 weeks abroad and we are just doing laid back minimal. No bridal party (Just DP's children), no favours, extra decor, flowers etc just the beach, sea and alot of cocktails!!! I do not get the stressing over tiny details that no-one really gives a shit about. So what if the colour of the napkins doesnt match the chair sash??! I honestly cannot recall the centerpieces or favours from most weddings ive been to, but i can recall if i had a damn good time or not!
i applaud your laidbackness - and desire for more wine