To think the no pubes thing is a trend....

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My previous career had me seeing people's genitals on a daily basis. Most had full pubic hair. Now I can see (mostly on naked attraction) that fully shaved is the fashion.
But was slightly surprised when a 50 something friend of mine said he prefers shaven as I assumed he would be less 'trendy' like me with my 80s stylefanny
Is it just a personal preference?? In my day at work it was defo rare to see fully shaved. Out of 20 people you'd be lucky if 2 were bald!

I’ve shaved ever since I got pubes, I was just horrified by them from an early age. Nothing to do with sex! However now I’m late 20s and mellowing out a bit, I’m actually considering a change. TBH on a couple of my most recent medical examinations I’ve been embarrassed about being completely bald. I’m pregnant now so perfect excuse to grow it out

I've been shaving since around 14 I think. My partner prefers it and wouldn't like going down on me with a full-bush. Thankfully, he shaves his too! I don't like pubey, hairy (think back hair and chest hair) men.

I have always shaved since I was a teenager as I just prefer the feel of it. Most of my friends get waxed too and they are a variety of ages. I am 37.

I’m late twenties and have always shaved since I was a teenager. I keep on top of it every couple of days in the shower so it takes less than two minutes, and it’s so much better for me, both in appearance and sex.

I also think there is something creepy about finding a child-like pubic area attractive.

If you don’t think there’s a difference between an adult woman who has shaved/waxed and a child, I think there’s something very creepy and wrong with you.

That doesn't surprise me Womblinglove! 😹

I don't like the bald look, though. On young women, it's harking back too much to pre-puberty, and on older women, it just looks like you've got rather early to the stage where your pubes fall out naturally! Either way it's not something I'd aspire to.

I've told my Dgd's if anyone suggests it tell them to eff right off!

Why? Do you not want them to have an enjoyable sex life? Or at least let them have the opportunity to find out if it’s something they enjoy.

For the people who do remove all - how do you cope with the itching? I have removed all 4 times - 3 for childbirth and once just to try it out. It was insanely uncomfortable each time (shaved or waxed) Madly itchy, really sore, oh, and madly itchy, plus some ingrown hairs which turned painful. And, in no time at all, it looked stubbly and gross. Really horrible. Immediately after, all itchy red bumps, and then stubbly. I don't think there was any point where the pubic area just looked like bare skin, and didn't feel horribly uncomfortable.

So, is there a secret to not getting red blotches, or itchy, or stubbly? Or do you just get used to it?

Piling in and talking" about ANYTHING is generally the whole point of mumsnet!!

Right, but house prices and Philip Schofield isn't pervert bait, is it?

So PP was right to urge caution, because clearly people don't get the potential issue.

And it doesn't matter whether OP has grubby intent, either. A collection of pubic themed posts is still something that then sits out on the internet in public, encouraging a certain type of visitor to MN.

For the people who do remove all - how do you cope with the itching?

It doesn’t itch and I don’t get ingrown hairs, so that’s never been an issue. I also keep on top of it so no stubble either.

The itching stops after the first few times if I remember rightly.

It’s something I’ve only really heard about being a bigger thing in the last 10/15 years. None of us really about it when I was a teen or in my 20’s. So possibly more of a long term trend perhaps because it’s more openly discussed. Back when I was young it was more through peers and mags that you heard about this kind of thing now the whole internet is out there.

Nah just creepy and childlike, Aless.....

And we should all loathe anal....

Scary that feminism seems to have come full circle and we are STILL telling women how they must have their bodies or what they can enjoy in bed.

Whattodoabout. If you can't have a good sex life without anal sex then I feel very sorry for you.

I feel ugly if I don’t fully remove . Ever since high school when somebody got badly bullied for having hairs coming out of her costume when swimming. And boys used to look at pictures of porn stuff and make fun of the hairy ones etc. Then my ex was the same he didn’t like hair . My OH doesn’t care either way he says, but I fully remove anyway because I’m a bit traumatised from seeing so many people ripped apart for it in the past I think! Lol

However when I’m pregnant I go balls to the wind and don’t bother with shaving at all... until the end when I give myself a bit of TLC so the midwife doesn’t think I’m a total caveman

Honky - listen to yourself.
Have you tried anal?

People like different things. People enjoy different things. Providing it is consensual it's all fine.

Seriously, each to their own.

Ernest I am totally in agreement with you. Mine goes exactly the same. There must be some magical trick we are missing out on! Ladies please share!

according to Islam men and women both keep the pubic hair shaved quite short including men's armpits, so in the middle East all the ladies and men would've been trimmed short or completely bare.
This is what I've always known, don't know if religion or culture

It's going out if fashion but it will hang around for ages. It's like colourful ombré hair, body con dresses and, obviously straightened hair. These things are all very unfashionable now but many people still do it.

It's a personal preference, surely!

Regardless of whether or not it's 'popular', I like having my fanjo a certain way - it makes me feel comfortable. I've had it this way since my teens and I'll have it the same way until I choose otherwise.

It's not really anyone else's business.

Whattodoabout. If you can't have a good sex life without anal sex then I feel very sorry for you.

What a strange comment. I have a healthy sex life and that includes trying lots of new things, one of those things I tried many years ago was anal sex and I happened to enjoy it.

Have you ever even tried anal sex? Because if not you have a lot of vitriol for something you haven’t even experienced.

You don’t need to feel sorry for me; I have a regular healthy, enjoyable sex life.

I hope so.

It’s been a ‘trend’ ( requirement in younger years ) for my whole life. I know my DP prefers it, though he’d never be put off by me having a bit of hair down there and prefers me to just be comfortable,and every other partner I’ve had too. I’m pretty lax about it ( we’ve been together 5 years and I’m sorry but one day shaved to two days rash isn’t a sexy lifestyle) but do know that it’s seen as gross by many my age to go natural.

I’d prefer to be trimmed but natural, and generally am, but I would like to feel it wasn’t lacking in sexiness. My hair, pubes, armpits, legs, grows at the rate of knots and shaving provides precisely 20 hours of hair free skin. My mum thinks my armpits are always gross and hairy too, but she can shave and have hairless armpits for 5 days, again for me it’s around 20hrs and if I repeat then it’s just asking for a rash.

Plus, I think it’s gross that as an adult woman I’m expected/desired to look prepubescent.

Honky - would you really tell your DGD not to try certain sexual things? Is this 1951? Lie back and think of bloody England FFS!!

YOU might not like it. Others do.

Well the only person I have sex with is myself and the less hair the better.

Isn't it a cultural thing for Muslims to be hair-free?

I know 14 year olds who wax their arms. Seems like a lot of effort to me as I can't be arsed to shave/wax anything most of the time. DH doesn't care either way which is lucky as it's not his choice. Same applies to my feelings about his hairy bits - good job he's not a gorilla as I would have to learn to live with that!