To think the no pubes thing is a trend....

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My previous career had me seeing people's genitals on a daily basis. Most had full pubic hair. Now I can see (mostly on naked attraction) that fully shaved is the fashion.
But was slightly surprised when a 50 something friend of mine said he prefers shaven as I assumed he would be less 'trendy' like me with my 80s stylefanny
Is it just a personal preference?? In my day at work it was defo rare to see fully shaved. Out of 20 people you'd be lucky if 2 were bald!

If someone wants to shave their fanjo, that is their prerogative.

Looks much better IMO. And there is no 'pressure' on women to do it, and it's fuck-all to do with the patriarchy. Women shave their fanjo because they like the way it looks, (and feels,) and it makes them feel more sexy. Also much better sensations during sex - especially oral (which is waaaay better when you are not overly-furry down there!) The fact that many men like it is a bonus. It is not being DONE for the men, despite people trying to say it is.

These threads always turn out the same way. Women who shave their fanjo (or legs and armpits,) being lambasted by those who don't; for 'bowing to the patriarchy.' These same women will have their hair dyed, pay someone to cut and style it for them, wear make up, false nails, false eyelashes, hair extensions, high heels, short skirts, and a push up bra, in order to improve their appearance.

But a woman shaving her fanjo is bowing to the patriarchy and submitting to societal expectations.

What a load of shit. There may be the odd woman who feels she needs to do it, but I can assure that everyone I do it for ME, and me alone. The fact that my husband loves is is a bonus. I think most women who shave feel the same as me, and very few do it 'because they feel they have to to please other people...'

And I am nearly 50, so no, it is not a generational thing. that only the young like.

And as @womblinglove and @whattodoaboutthis2017 said, quit the fucking nasty 'you must look like a child' bollocks.

I agree with *whattodo when she said...

'If you don’t think there’s a difference between an adult woman who has shaved/waxed, and a child, I think there’s something very creepy and wrong with you.'

Amen to that. There is something very weird and creepy about people saying GROWN WOMEN who shave their fanjo look like children. VERRRRRY creepy.

DH shaves down there too, and has no foreskin. And yes, it is very good sex. Maybe you haters, (throwing shade on women who shave their fanjo,) should give it a go. You will enjoy sex more, trust me,

People can see filed and polished nails. That's the difference. Shaving pubes is for yourself (apparently) and for your sexual partner.

And there is no 'pressure' on women to do it.

Not true. My teenage DD gets pressured to do so during changes for PE and swimming at school. Girls are told they are dirty and ugly if they don't shave.

My DD was not even 12 when this pressure started, btw.

And there is no 'pressure' on women to do it

I will accept this for anyone who was raised on a desert island, with no access to the internet.

For everyone else, that statement is nonsense. Of course there's pressure.

And there is no 'pressure' on women to do it,

The problem is though, that there is. I think for the older generations it is genuinely a free choice and women do what they want, but I worry for the younger generations that they feel that is something they have to do and that is where it becomes a problem. I've seen plenty of threads on here with people fretting about how they're going to manage to wax before they go into labour because 'what will the midwives think?' or worrying about what the nurse doing their smear test might think if they don't shave beforehand. That's not right.

User19..., that's horrible to hear. My dd is a preteen but whose pubic hair has started growing. God, more pressure from idiots for her to deal with.

I've heard the trend is changing; I've heard the bush is back. No idea why or where I have heard it!

I've also no idea why anyone would want to shave their vagina. Seems utterly pointless to me. Of course people can if they want to. I've never tried to stop anyone shaving their vagina (vulva) and don't intend to start now.

However, when there is a thread about it I think it is fine to express one's views.

I think it does make a person's private parts look more like a child's since a child doesn't have pubic hair. And I think it is a porn thing. Personally, I think this.

@HRTpatch "And the "childlike" comments are just weird." How is it weird to notice two very relevant points about shaved pubes?

If it was easy I'd personally like it all bare except for a little strip at front

However it isn't easy so mine resembles Ken Dodds hair 99% of the time.

What Sunandmoonshine said.
Everything.

Oh we're not allowed have anal sex are we?

Pubes on, lights off, missionary position.

Got it.

Childlike comments are not weird given that the only people who are naturally hairless in their pubic area are .... children.

It is now the fashion to have hair there. Anyways it is meant to be there and there has been much gynaecological advice to prove this.

Pubic hair serves a purpose, on a personal level I think it looks gross and creepy and childlike... but it's a preference thing.

However it's no coincidence that young women are getting vaginal bacterial infections through this sort of extreme grooming.

@sunandmoonshine "And there is no 'pressure' on women to do it, and it's fuck-all to do with the patriarchy."

I think you will find that women on here have expressed that they feel under pressure to do it. You may find it very creepy women have made this connection. I find it very creepy you have not. But, in spite of that, it doesn't bother me what you do with your own body. Enjoy your sex life, no one wants to stop that but so much of what we do as a society is affected by patriarchy. I can't imagine how you 'know' these influences on all women are not because of patriarchy!

Old people are often naturally hairless too. Didn't you know that?

They are weird because a child's vulva looks different to a woman's.
If I shaved all my hair off, I wouldn't look the same as I did when I was 5.

@sunandmoonshine do you have a teenage daughter/niece etc?

I am 50 odd.

I have been having sex for over 30 years.

Full bush, trim, strip, waxed, shaved and everything in between.

Sex is INCOMPARABLY better bare. Oral sex is off the scale better.

So I couldn't give a rats bare or hairy arse about societal pressures, trends, porn or anyone else's opinion. Hell will freeze over before I grow it back when sex is this good!

@Womblinghlove it's your body and your choice. And it doesn't mean you or your partner will fit any kind of assumption or stereotype ever. But just because you or your partner do not fit an assumption or stereotype does not mean other posters are wrong to not want to consider this or to consider it inappropriate.

You said "...But fill your boots being judgemental .."

You are also being judgemenal not wanting others to have a different opinion to you. Live and let live goes both ways.

"Scary that feminism seems to have come full circle and we are STILL telling women how they must have their bodies or what they can enjoy in bed." No one is telling women that, except men that is!

If you don't understand why this might be a feminist issue, read the post from poster @BigBaboonBum "I feel ugly if I don’t fully remove blush . Ever since high school when somebody got badly bullied for having hairs coming out of her costume when swimming. And boys used to look at pictures of porn stuff and make fun of the hairy ones etc. Then my ex was the same he didn’t like hair confused . My OH doesn’t care either way he says, but I fully remove anyway because I’m a bit traumatised from seeing so many people ripped apart for it in the past I think!"

BigBaboonBum, I think your expereince are very sad and I really hope you will overcome this. Women's bodies are naturally beautiful and don't need to be plcuked to be seen as such. "However when I’m pregnant I go balls to the wind and don’t bother with shaving at all... until the end when I give myself a bit of TLC so the midwife doesn’t think I’m a total caveman" Do what is right for you, stuff the midwife, you'd be a cavewoman, total or otherwise!

@ivenoideawhatimdoing "It's a personal preference, surely!" It should be, but as you can see from this thread some women are shamed into it by men. So it is a feminist issue.

I've been getting a full Hollywood incl my butt waxed for the best part of 18 years now.

Nothing to do with what it looks like or pressure from anyone else (I couldn't give a fig if DH has a preference one way or another, in fact in 18 years I don't think I've ever asked or he's ever offered an opinion?!)

It's entirely down to personal preference in regards to what is comfortable and what I personally feel is more hygienic.

To those who have said they tried shaving but it itches - yes, horrifically, but waxing doesn't hence my preference for it

Childlike comments are not weird given that the only people who are naturally hairless in their pubic area are .... children

Indeed. And.....children have no hips, breasts, scars from childbirth etc etc.

No one is asking you to grow your pubes back @Womblinghlove

I don't think it's a trend, I just think these days it seems people are more willing to admit/talk about what they get and what they prefer?

If it’s was just that people feel more comfortable talking about it, then surely this would still have been quite a widespread phenomenon before ten advebt of the Internet.
And it wasn’t even though hairless leg or armpit as well as bikini trim were already considered ‘normal’.