to think my Dad has stolen my best friend from me

[Burchett]

Bit of background, I have always been very nervous and shy, i was self diagnosed with dysphoria when young and struggled to make friends all my life. I have had a couple of jobs that I didn't really enjoy and was bullied but a year and a half back I got a job in a call centre where I was made really welcome and have made really good progress.

I then found a really good assisted house share close to work (within walking distance as before i was catching three buses) and have felt a good deal happier than I was previously. I really feel i have made strides in my life

At my new work I met some really nice people and one especially good friend. We would go out for drinks after work and even to a club occasionally in Peterborough. We get on great and it's really good.

A couple of months ago I had arranged to meet my Dad for a meal. He has split up from my Mum and lives alone on a narrowboat, I think he is mainly happy but he did confide he got lonely and missed company. As I was on my way to meet my Dad my friend ask to join as at a loose end, of course I said yes.

We had a really nice night at Frankie and Bennys and everyone got on great. My friend and my Dad had a lot in common (they both like F1 and are massive Prince (RIP) fans) and it was really good to see them having passionate discussions. At the end of the night they swapped numbers and said they would stay in touch

Since then I have hardly seen either of them. They spend a great deal of time together but never invite me. My friend has even stayed over on my Dad's boat a number of times. I was obviously happy to see them getting on but quite upset as I felt I had been pushed out by them both

Last week I had arranged to go for a meal and drinks with my friend but was stood up again, I then found out my friend and my Dad had been to watch a Prince tribute act in my Dad's local pub. They said they had texted me and asked me to join but I didn't get this, they said it must be a confusion with phone numbers which is technically possible as I do change mobile contracts quite often to ensure I have the most up to date handsets (I am a bit of a phone geek) but I always make sure they have my newest number so they can contact me

I really want to say something to them and especially to my Dad as I feel he has stolen my friend from me but I am worried if I do they might say they prefer achother's company to mine. How can I raise it with them and get my friend back?

I have theee numbers at the minute

I mean three

Burchett, it certainly sounds like your friend is bisexual. Please try not to reveal too much about him/yourself on here. It’s a bit strange to have three numbers!

You’re a phone geek but don’t understand about using a PAC code to transfer your sim?

I don't think the sex / sexuality of your friend and the sexuality of your Dad change the mostly sensible replies and advice you've been given.

Fluffywuffy100 the OP already explained that. It's not really the point of the thread. There a plenty of other AIBU threads to be a dick on so maybe move along?

I understand PAC codes but you can only get that if you buy out your contract and I prefer to just start a new one and get a new phone and let the old one run down.
I thought my friend was into both but can't imagine my dad being that way inclined

Burchett - how many monthly contracts are you on? Can you afford all these phones?

And is your Dad gay?

Please give considered responses on this thread. I feel the op is rather vunerable and could do without the sneery responses.

You are currently paying for 3 phone contracts in order for you to have the most up to date phone..!

Do you have someone in your assisted living that can help with “social relationships” etc - like we use social stories for children with ASN to help them understand about friendship etc.

Is there budgeting help available too..?

You say you have a place in an assisted housing scheme so I wonder if there is an assistant or carer there you could talk this through with? I'm not sure of what sort of set up you have.

It's worth talking to your friend alone and telling him how you feel. Just bear in mind that you can't view friends as possessions as such. He is free to make other friendships.
It can be hurtful that a friend cools on you and doesn't want to see you so much but you can move on from this and make other friends.

Your dad and your friend are still in your life. A good starting point is to speak to them about how you feel without accusing anybody.
Good luck

Yes I am on three but one is out next linty, I can afford it out of my leisure lineup so I don't see the problem. I'm also not posted in here to talk about my phones respectfully, I am wanting advice about my friend

I second what everybody here says, I think you should speak to the people that are there to help you in your assisted home. They can talk through the stuff with your dad. It’s not a great idea to keep replacing phones all the time.

Leisure money not lineup, bad typing

Next month not linty, same bad typing

You can't stop them being friends all you can do is tell them that you feel pushed out and you don't appreciate being stood up.

Yes I am on three

Three simultaneous phone contracts?

Why?

No wonder you aren't always getting your text messages.

You’re paying for three phone Contracts?

😲

What is dysphoria and why are you in an assisted living place if you don’t have an official disagnosis?

I've explained why and also that I did not post to discuss my phone contacts but the loss of my good friend

This so didn't happen

You are posting too much personal information.

Dysphoria does exist en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dysphoria.

Self disagnosed though ?