To think that some women are naive in thinking their male friends don't want more

[yawlinhere]

I have this friend, she is classically attractive, tall, blonde, legs to here etc etc.

She always says she has lots of male friends more than female as she just gets on with them better. And they all text her a lot, and occasionally stray into flirty messages (she is married, they are married).

Does she not understand they are all just keeping in touch in the hope they'll get into her panties? Or is that me having a sweeping generalisation view?

They all stray into flirting, when she split up with her ex-husband, suddenly loads of them started texting and calling. I was not shocked lol.

So are they "friends" or are they "lechers" (or does it matter?)

I had a male best friend when in uni but he was gay so that didn't really count I suppose. I then had a horrible abusive relationship where I ended up isolated from all my old friends and the only two friends I did have, one male one female, exp hated. The friendship with the male friend was closer but was only a friendship until I found the strength to get out of the abusive relationship. Over time that changed and he is now my DH although having previously discussed it neither of us had ever expected anything to happen (female friend who is still here did though she says we are soulmates). I now have another close male friend who DH also really likes and respects and there's no hint he wants anything else from me and I certainly don't feel anything else for him.

I don't agree, I work in an extremely male orientated environment. Probably when I started there was a bit of flirty chat but now? Just friends and would never be anything else.

I don’t think there is always sexual attraction one or both ways?

And even if there is - why can’t you still just be friends anyway? If you get on well it’s a waste to say ‘I’m not being friends with her’ because she has a long term partner. You’re just missing out on having a friend.

I have a few male friends when I temp seperated from DH two made moves. I had known one for ten years and called him my little brother, the arsehole.

Maybe they are naive but I doubt it.

I do know 1 guy with lots of female friends but he patently likes to be admired so maybe its a pseudo-harem thing. He's big on saying he gets on with women better. He actively doesn't have male friendships.

I think there are women who can get into that mode who will say yes this guy is my friend/ I get on better with men/Im one of the lads type of thing - when really its all about competitive sexual tension on both their and their male friends' part. The thrill of someone fancying you. This guy isn't that complimentary about said friends at times. I only know 2 of them but they speak as if he's their greatest friend. Not so him. Whatever.