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To ask if he is single!

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inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:22

To ask for flirting advice!!! I have a crush on a delivery man who comes around every now and again. He is very flirty but it might just be his way. Quite cheeky chappy type. How can I ask if he is single without it being really awkward and embarrassing? I've been married for the past 15 years so I'm a bit rusty with this kind of stuff!
Am a bit worried he is just a cheeky flirty type and I embarrass him and myself! Blush

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cakedup · 15/01/2018 22:09

I think it's odd that he's helped you every other time and not this time. Maybe there is an explanation as you suggest. Have you been out before when he has tried to deliver?

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inmyshoos · 15/01/2018 22:12

Yes been out before and it was put in bunker no problem. The grass was ridiculous. My shoes have had spikes on them for past 3 weeks because it's like an ice rink. I can see why he didn't get round the back but I was a bit miffed he left the pile of coal on the grass!!

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DavidBowiesNumber1 · 16/01/2018 07:08

So he came round to deliver, found you weren't there but spilt his load anyway and left you to clean up the mess? MEN!!!! WinkGrin

lurkingnotlurking · 16/01/2018 07:25

Maybe he was miffed that you expected him to carry it around to the back but had allowed the ice to form where he needed to walk. He probably slipped. It'd be a small gesture to let you know..

NoCanoe · 16/01/2018 09:17

'@DavidBowiesNumber1'
Grin I had similar thoughts but couldn't quite express them as tactfully as you did!!

NoCanoe · 16/01/2018 09:20

Have to say, OP, I'd have expected him to be equipped for the job unless there is something special about your path to your bunker.

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 16/01/2018 09:29

NoCanoe WinkWink

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inmyshoos · 16/01/2018 15:36

davidbowie Grin

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demirose87 · 16/01/2018 16:13

If he likes you enough he'll ask himself or at least make it obvious that you wouldn't be questioning it. I wouldn't be putting all my thoughts into this man without at least knowing if he's single, and definitely not while he's doing his job. He could be like this with every woman he delivers to. And even then he might find you attractive and be enjoying a flirt, it doesn't always have to go further.

NoCanoe · 16/01/2018 16:28

He lost me at not delivering to your bunker, OP. And leaving overspill.
That's just rude.

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inmyshoos · 16/01/2018 20:29

nocanoe that's my feelings too. When I got home I just thought er thanks a lot!!!

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NoCanoe · 16/01/2018 20:49

OP,
You need a DPD Dan!!

bobstersmum · 16/01/2018 22:19

This has such a disappointing end! I hope there is more!
All I can think is he was naffed off you weren't there so dumped it and buggered off, but still, bit shoddy.
Or maybe he thought he'd come back later and sort your bits out...

Mimsy123 · 16/01/2018 22:31

You should definitely ring the depot, and ask them to pass on the message that you are not being awkward and are only asking him to return because you are single, and desperately need him to come and fill your bunker ASAP.

NoCanoe · 17/01/2018 07:10

'@Mimsy123'
That'd work! The direct approach! Grin

NoCanoe · 17/01/2018 07:12

Still think he a tosser now, though. Angry

NoCanoe · 17/01/2018 07:15

My DPD Dan always asks where I want it. And if I'm not in he leaves it in our - between us- safe place. And leaves a little note with a smiley to let me know he's been. Smile

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inmyshoos · 17/01/2018 13:15

DPD Dan sounds lovely. Grin
Yeah I'm definitely torn between using this as an opportunity to let him know i am single or as an opportunity to realise he isnt as considerate as i thought and worth forgetting about now!

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cakedup · 17/01/2018 14:10

Are you going to be a bit haughty when you see him next? Unless he has an amazing explanation.

I'm thinking maybe he didn't notice the spilt coal? If he is dealing with coal all day long then perhaps it doesn't register.

Cantspell2 · 17/01/2018 14:28

Save yourself the bother and let it go as I don’t think he is interested in you back. If he was he would be trying to impress and not be dumping your coal on the grass.

MiddleClassProblem · 17/01/2018 14:45

There’s always a miss understanding in the movies just like this. It will turn out that he had to help an old lady who had a fall and too her to the hospital in his truck. He stayed with her all evening and he forgot about your abandoned coal as it was so late when he left.

RoseWhiteTips · 17/01/2018 14:52

He’s a coal man? Our coal man is always covered in coal dust as is his son.

Filzma · 17/01/2018 16:07

😂😂😂@MiddleClassProblem. If you're not in the filming industry, you might want to reconsider your career.

MiddleClassProblem · 17/01/2018 17:12

You’ve outed me! I’m Richard Curtis! There will also be a slapstick friend with a regional accent that brings them together in the end. It’s probably the depot lady who is his kooky flat mate.

BulletFox · 17/01/2018 17:16

DavidBowie yeah they just spill their load, then leave you to clean up