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To be appalled at neighbours joke

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JessWinson108 · 07/01/2018 17:31

So while leaving I bumped into my neighbour to the right of us while leaving to get some shopping. I was with my teenage DD at the time and he told us that he had sold his house and would be moving sometime in the next two months. He then added he is moving to be closer to family in Sussex, however I asked how quickly it took to sell the house and it he said it went after only a week and he sold it to a muslim family then he proceeded to say just kidding its a white family. [shocked]. I said his joke was distasteful and I couldn't care what religion my neighbours are and he was wrong to presume I would dislike muslim neighbours. We got in the car in a state of shock. Although this area is majority white its still a very diverse part of South London. I never thought he would be racist he puts a Labour board up each election and he's university educated. Maybe as a white women I am oblivious to peoples prejudices. Nevertheless this comes as a huge shock.

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stopfuckingshoutingatme · 07/01/2018 22:07

Casual in its came up in a day to day chat . But not casual in its essence

Twat .

lessworriedaboutthecat · 07/01/2018 22:10

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MuseumOfCurry · 07/01/2018 22:11

He sounds like an idiot, but I've never had normal neighbours. Do they exist? He's leaving, who cares?

TwitterQueen1 · 08/01/2018 10:00

WTF Lessworried... did you actually mean to say that?!

DGRossetti · 08/01/2018 10:40

Back in the 1970s, my DF wanted an extension to the house. Next-door-neighbour but one (both NDNs were lovely) made a big stink about it.

Next thing my DF whacks a "for sale" sign up, and asked loads of colleagues from work (who happened to be Kenyan Asians, but racists only see the skin) to come around. With their families. And their families families. NDN but one called around desperate to know what was going on. My DF said that because the house was too small we'd have to move.

Next planning meeting, permission was granted. Probably helped by the fact that the NDN but one was a conservative councillor.

DB (who still lives in that house) has told me that NDN but ones son is now .... a conservative councillor.

MistressDeeCee · 08/01/2018 11:49

A good number of people are inherently racist OP. That's why they think a blatantly racist remark made to your face should be shrugged off...even in front of your DD. & why you're being attacked on this thread. Well at least you know now, good for you re negative reaction to his bullshit, and hopefully wherever he's going a Muslim family will move in next door to him...

RhiWrites · 08/01/2018 11:52

I wish you could tag people on mumsnet. I’d tag “Peekaboo3” and her friends “finds racist jokes funny”.

Well done OP for challenging it.

TwitterQueen1 · 08/01/2018 13:41

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zzzzz · 08/01/2018 13:54

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TwitterQueen1 · 08/01/2018 14:00

Wow, you're a peach aren't you zz

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BatShite · 08/01/2018 14:22

The 'joke' sounds to me like he has some reason to believe you would be horrified by the idea of Muslim neighbours, to be honest. Any idea why he would think that of you? Very odd for a random comment

Coyoacan · 08/01/2018 14:27

He sounds like a racist eejit. But I am sure someone will be along very shortly to say that it's not racism because islam is not a race...

juliesaway
Islam’s not a race so he wasn’t being racist. He was displaying religious prejudice hahahaha

WonderLime · 08/01/2018 14:30

Appalled- yes! It wasn’t funny and showed an awful level of ignorance.
Shocked - I think you do come across pretty sheltered. This type of ignorance and racism is still very prevalent, regardless of education levels or political alignments. In fact, I am from a very working class Labour voting background AND my grandmother was half Indian (and in denial about it), yet the family has always been racist because it’s always been the case that minorities are to blame for housing/money/education/NHS/jobs and never the government Hmm

Thankfully he’ll be gone soon though and can take his toxic attitude somewhere else.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 08/01/2018 14:44

Batshite but if he had thought that, wouldn't he have been appalled to think that the OP believed he was the Islamophobic one, and fallen over himself to correct her? I know I would, if a misunderstanding led to someone challenging me over perceived prejudice.

JAPAB · 08/01/2018 20:01

Islam’s not a race so he wasn’t being racist. He was displaying religious prejudice hahahaha

There are those who believe it is possible to be Islamoracist. Which I think is when Islam is a proxy for the races involved, or some such.

zzzzz · 08/01/2018 20:09

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Olddear · 08/01/2018 20:44

I vote Tory. I'm not racist.

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Olddear · 09/01/2018 06:05

I just wasn't sure why someone who voted labour wouldn't be thought of as racist.

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