I have cut off my partners money - AIBU?

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My partner & I seperated mid December.

At the start of August he bought himself a new car which at the time he could afford. In October he lost his job & hadn't bothered finding one after (big reason we split up) even though he had a massive loan to repay.

He asked if I could contribute towards the loan until he found a job which I did but this was on my terms and there was no legal agreement. Basically a favour.

The day after we broke up I ended all contributions and yesterday I got the phone call asking to start them up again. I said I wouldn't as we were no longer together.

Am I being super harsh?

I only paid towards the loan once in November.

no, yanbu. he choose to get the car, his responsibility

No not at all. Assume you're not listed on the loan papers or the loan adress?

Were you married? Do you have children?

Is the loan in his name? Or joint?

Would be a bit odd to pay your ex's loan. It's his problem to solve.

It is entirely in his name! Sorry I should have mentioned that duhh

Unless he is main carer of a mutual child who needs this car to get to medical appointments or similar...

Why would he think you would give him money? You split up.

How is he supporting himself?

Have you got kids together?

How long were you couple?

What is you back story?

The solution is simple. He gets a job.

No kids together.

Couple for a year.

In which case he can piss off with no need for you to concern yourself.

I can't see why he expects you to pay for his car, when you are not together.
Why would you even ask if you ABU

YANBU. But you only gave him two months to find a new job?

You have no kids and were only together for a year? He can bugger right off imo

Oh, you've only been together for a year? You shouldn't have helped him in the first place. That's madness!

@HonkyWonkWoman my sister thinks I am being awful unreasonable because I know that he will sink himself trying to keep on top of the loan. Basically, taking away the paddle!

She thinks I should set up a legal agreement until he gets a job but, I think otherwise...

I don't want to see anybody fail but, he's not my problem anymore?

YANBU. He’s one of the biggest CFs I’ve read about on here in a while. You’ve already been very generous to make payments on the car. No way should you be paying now you’ve split. I’m shocked he would ring you to ask. He needs to support himself or sell the car and get a bike.

Your sister should be supporting you imo.
Don't give him money!

In your circumstances with no ties to each other I think what you did sounds sensible.
No longer a couple, his car, his loan, he repays. End of.

@Eltonjohnssyrup Yes he works in a trade where he could get a job at any builder sites! So, I expected a quick offer but, he wouldn't ask around.

Eh? Your sister’s mad. He’s a grown man and you’re finished. You were only together a year. It’s his car.

Your sister is nuts!! Don't give him a single penny!

No he isn’t. Tell him not to contact you again.

The loans not down at your address though is it just for bailiffs n shit?