I have cut off my partners money - AIBU?

[oodlesofnoodless]

My partner & I seperated mid December.

At the start of August he bought himself a new car which at the time he could afford. In October he lost his job & hadn't bothered finding one after (big reason we split up) even though he had a massive loan to repay.

He asked if I could contribute towards the loan until he found a job which I did but this was on my terms and there was no legal agreement. Basically a favour.

The day after we broke up I ended all contributions and yesterday I got the phone call asking to start them up again. I said I wouldn't as we were no longer together.

Am I being super harsh?

Thank you ladies and gents for your responses!

You shouldn't be contributing anything to his lazy ass! Block all contact with the freeloader

Let your sister pay his loan off if she is so concerned. Setting up a legal agreement with someone who can’t be arsed to get a job is the very last thing I’d be doing.

Tell your sister to help him out if she's that worried about him.

@gamerchick No thank goodness!

He’s a cheeky fucker and your sister is bat shit. YANBU.

Happy days man and I agree, tell his sister I cough up if she’s so bothered about it.

Sorry your sister! Is she sweet on him or something?

Oodles, fuck him then. Loads of those jobs about.

I'm going to block his number. I'm going to buy myself something lovely with my winnings

Can he not sell the car, repay most of the loan and stand on his own two feet?

@gamerchick No, just a really soft hearted lady! She would hate too see anyone fail & just wanted me to help him. She will see sense too.

my sister thinks I am being awful unreasonable because I know that he will sink himself trying to keep on top of the loan. Basically, taking away the paddle! She thinks I should set up a legal agreement until he gets a job but, I think otherwise

Is your sister Drunk ? on Drugs? a substance abuser ? or just Stupid? ? WTAF is she thinking... why is this your Problem ......

@danceswithotters Haha

He is a grown man, let him deal with his own responsibilities, you are not a bank. Been there, and got the t shirt, don’t give him a penny.

He is Mr. Cheeky McFuckerton from the little town of Cheekiest Bastard on The Head.

It's bad enough he thought it was ok to not work but mooch off you when you were a couple but bloody outrageous now you have split. Just say no. Let him find some other mug.

Tell his sister she can pay off the loan if she's so concerned about her brother.

Or, more sensibly, she can suggest he sell the car as quickly as possible!

If the Roles were reversed... would he Pay your Car Finance.. then there's your Answer

YADNBU!

Don’t pay for his car, tell your sister to pay the loan if she’s that bothered about him!

He’s not your responsibility and he needs to pull his finger out before the car gets reposessed.

His car loan, his problem. You did the decent thing when you were stilltogether, but you have no responsibility to him now.

Even your thread title isn't right - you haven't cut off your partner's money. It isn't his. You have simply declined to pay for a debt that he took on. Not your responsibility at all.
Yes, it would be different if you had been married or if you had children. But you don't. I'm actually surprised you even considered paying it.

He is so far past the other side of reasonable you can't even see him any more. I don't even know what to say about your sister. Wow.