I have cut off my partners money - AIBU?

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My partner & I seperated mid December.

At the start of August he bought himself a new car which at the time he could afford. In October he lost his job & hadn't bothered finding one after (big reason we split up) even though he had a massive loan to repay.

He asked if I could contribute towards the loan until he found a job which I did but this was on my terms and there was no legal agreement. Basically a favour.

The day after we broke up I ended all contributions and yesterday I got the phone call asking to start them up again. I said I wouldn't as we were no longer together.

Am I being super harsh?

He sounds like the type who would never repay you a cent

Plus you owe him nothing. You were only together a year - only a crazy person would expect a partner of a year to continue funding their purchases. Lucky escape!

Haha!! No yadnbu!!!
I have to say I would’ve also asked when I could expect the money that you’ve already spent on the car, you’re not a bank!

Seriously, that is cheeky! And your sister is deluded. Where’s the evidence that he would pay you back?

He is not your partner since mid-December.

You are so very well rid of that man!

If he can’t afford it, surely he can sell the car? YANBU. Not your problem!

No, you don’t have to give him anything. His loan, in his name...his problem.

He’s essentially asking you for a favour right now. I would not oblige without a legal agreement as I doubt that he will pay you back (he’s already struggling). Unfortunately it’s not your problem.

The cheek of him asking if you’d start payments again! How about he start job searching or downgrade the car?

Yanbu. Not your circus or monkeys. His loan, his problem. He owes you nov payment

He's not your partner. He's your EX-partner.

And if I were you, I'd still be laughing after that request. I can't believe anyone would have the bare nerve to ask an ex to pay on their loan. TBH, I wouldn't pay a loan for a partner, let alone an ex-one, unless they were unable to pay due to injury or illness.

I just read your update that he’s a trade, fuck no. Trade work is easy to get through agencies. He can find a job, easily and have money to pay his own loan payment quickly.

Hope he's going to pay back what you've already paid.

Tell him to get his finger out and get a job or sell the car. What a colossal cheek!!

It might be something to consider if you had lived together for years or had kids or something but as you have only been together 12 months it would be ridiculous!

"I'm going to buy myself something lovely with my winnings"

What winnings?

Unless he was hugely generous to you when you were dating, then YANBU in the least. You don't owe an XP, with whom you have no kids and no shared finances, anything.

Winnings?

He's not even a partner. He's a lousy boyfriend. Your sister's on glue, tell her to pay for him if it matters so much. Cut him off entirely. Just block him. You don't owe him anything.

Winnings??

Yes, what winnings? If you’ve won the lottery he might have thought there was no big rush to get a new job as you’d be heading off round the world...

No way would I be giving him any money towards his car but I would like to know where all these building trade jobs are as this time of year building work is hard to come by as a lot of work is out doors and the weather shuts it down.
My dad was a builder and winter was always the worst time for work.

He can sell thr car, cut his losses. YANBU.

By winnings I meant the money I've now saved from cancelling my contribution!

Stand your ground Lady.. it's a ridiculous request ..

Then YADNBU!!

Haha, you were only together a year! That's boyfriend territory, not life partner for whom you may feel some responsibility.

His problem, I wouldn't even have paid one installment. It's amazing how entitled men are. you are not his mother.

It's not your partner's money.

Walk away and don't look back.