AIBU to expect him to be old enough for this!?

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DS is 3. He turns 4 in August and starts school the following month when he will be 4yrs and 3wks old.

He is not even slightly interested in potty training.

Everyone I have spoken to has said to let him lead but it is starting to get a bit concerning now. He is the very last of all the kids I know of his age to start and his older siblings were both showing signs at 2 and using the loo by 2 and a half. Am I expecting too much of him?

I put him on the loo first thing in the morning. He isn't afraid just refuses to do anything on there. He has a lightweight plastic potty, a bumbo potty and we have a family seat installed.

I am at a loss to know what to do, it sounds silly but he almost seems like he knows what to do but just can't be arsed!

I’d cool it.
The Eric website is great as mentioned up thread.

My twins were having accidents all over the place in reception, but that’s another story, and you’ll cross that bridge if you come to it.

A word of advice - nappies at night completely different thing from daytime. Mine (and many many other little boys I know) not dry at night until 7+ (soz!!). Nighttime weeing is determined by hormones that kick in at a certain time and not related to daytime wetting. One night mine decided they were dry and that was that....

I wouldn’t worry for now.

Read the Oh! Crap Method book. And bribery.

I tried DS when he was just turned 3, it was okay but he was shitting himself every day, this went on for months. We stopped for a couple of months and started again and he got it in under a week.

At the time he showed no interest, wasn't dry at night, didn't tell me if he'd done a wee or a poo.

My DD was 3years and 2 months. We had tried previously when she was 2, but with no success. She isn't dry in the night yet, I think this will take another few years as she is a heavy sleeper, but she was dry during the day within a few days.

We tried at 3 and again at 3 1/2 and it didn't happen till 3 years and 9 months. went to school fine at 4yrs 2 months.

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wealth of information. We were successful and never will regret it.

It's so frustrating isn't it?!
My son was in undies from 2 and was dry within 2 weeks with the odd, very rare accident afterwards.

My daughter was 4 in November but she is currently on the waiting list for an autism assessment. I have tried potty training at different stages from age 2 to 3.5 and have never been even slightly successful as she was non verbal for a long time and I had no idea how to train a child who couldn't talk/had very little understanding.
Her talking has vastly improved but we are still nowhere near having an actual conversation. Luckily she didn't have to be trained to start at the nursery at her school.
I am really hoping she'll be in knickers for starting reception but I really have no idea how to go about toilet training a child with SEN

DS was completely refusing to use the toilet, until one day just after he was about 3 1/2, he just started by himself. He was dry at night from that point as well (except for one night when he was sick).

My son was potty trained about 2 weeks before he started school!

I used complicated bribery! Ds was obsessed with cowboys so I got a very cheap bag of plastic cowboys with horses. A wee in the loo or potty got a cowboy and a poo earned a horse! You could use mini transformer figures or animals, anything he loves.
By the end of the bag (24) ds was trained and we kept the cowboys in a box for him to play with while he sat on the toilet.

I did not wait for mine to show signs of being ready because some kids would never do that. In the spring when it is warmer put him on pants and shorts and sit him on potty every hour on the hour. Sit him there for three or four minutes if he does not wee. If he wees clap make a big fuss of him, a sweet etc. If he does not go pull pants up and try again in 1 hour. Eventually he will go on potty and like his reward. Always sit on potty after nap, after food etc. My dd was dry by 18 months and ds1 and ds2 by 2 years. Leaving it longer makes it harder not easier.

We have had 2 potty training refusers so far, but both cracked at about 3.5. The turning point with DS1 was when I bought a pot of mini dinosaurs. But the dinosaurs themselves weren't enough of an incentive. I had to individually wrap them so he got a present each time he weed on the potty. He was terrified of pooing on the potty and held it in for 3 days before finally doing it on the promise of 5 dinosaur presents. After that he was reliable in the day but still very occasionally wets at night.

Ds2 would take no bribery at all. Not chocolate or money or toys, and we had 3 failed attempts with him where we just have up as he was so obstinate. Then one morning he came in and told me he hadn't weed in his pull ups overnight, he'd just done a standing up wee in the toilet, and would I tell him where I had put his favourite pants as he would like to get dressed now! I had put the pants away as the week before he had told me he would never wear pants EVER! Since that fateful day he has been dry day and night. I still feel slightly astonished when I think back to that morning.

I suppose my point is that things can turn on a pin with children of potty training age. You can be desperate one week and all sorted the next. Good luck op!

Tell him its happening, go buy big boy pants, take off his nappy and stay in going to the toilet regularly. Sticker chart. He'll get it before the weeks up.