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To make my bf wait hours for his blind date

567 replies

RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 12:17

Ok so I've not been on here for years ...... but I'm raging. My bf has been behaving suspiciously so I checked online and right enough the wanker has a POF profile!

So I catfished him and we're meeting today at 12:30 ..... well he thinks we are ... I'm not turning up. Want to see how long I can make him wait!

If you're in Swindon feel free to give him a wave!!

Am I being unreasonable to make him wait a couple of hours. Will I be able to drag it out that long .....

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newyearfabulousness · 04/01/2018 17:39

poor thing. You and your children are well out of this. Good luck for 2018

debbs77 · 04/01/2018 17:41

Hope you're ok OP!

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck · 04/01/2018 17:45

ginger for multitasking read procrastinating! Xmas Grin

Msqueen33 · 04/01/2018 17:45

What an arsehole!!!!

gingergenius · 04/01/2018 17:52

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck I have ROCKED my college work today!!! Got 2 assignments to hand in by end of jan and I'm half way there!!!!!

checkingforballoons · 04/01/2018 17:54

This has kept me entertained whilst in bed ill!
Please, please, PLEASE tell him that you're ending things because he's clearly more into you. That it's not fair on him to be so committed and loving towards someone who just doesn't feel as strongly. That he's planning a future that you just can't see yourself in. Tell him it's not him, it's you. Say you know it's not easy to put yourself back on the dating scene but that you hope that once he's had some time, he'll be confident enough to try. Do your best to manage a little pat on his shoulder and a sympathetic look before you leave.

thelikelylass · 04/01/2018 17:58

Right. I'm away, I'm away in a remote place an so swore I wouldn't get embroiled in anything online, not even banking/sales/checking on children but.... from one lass to another, well done on getting your revenge it is indeed a dish best served cold (standing outside a bar waiting kind of cold...)

Weezol · 04/01/2018 17:59

I still vote for ghost. If you feel you must speak to him/text him I would say 'It's over. It's not me, it's you.'

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck · 04/01/2018 18:00

So anyway, what does wjataops mean? Xmas Grin

Orchidiona · 04/01/2018 18:00

@comingintomyown god me tooo 😑

GrooovyLass · 04/01/2018 18:13

Urgh what a catch he is. I'm sorry this has happened, op, but glad you found out before you got serious.

Bunchofdaffodils · 04/01/2018 18:18

Am I the only one Googling ‘attractive women in their fifties’ ?!

RatRolyPoly · 04/01/2018 18:19

Bunch I spent far too much of my afternoon doing just that. I even picked out my own alter-ego, should it ever be useful to have...

TheSassyAssassin · 04/01/2018 18:19

Oh Red. Sorry you had to go through all this but like you say, you can walk away with your head held high. And for being so damn cool and in control? StarFlowersGin Oh wait, one more emoji Biscuit -
that's for your dickhead exDP! Grin

swingofthings · 04/01/2018 18:24

You've dealt with the situation amazing well but really hope you are not too heartbroken. So disheartening to see there are 'grown up' adults still acting like stupid kids.

BulletFox · 04/01/2018 18:27

I quite like checkingforballoons's suggestion

TheHeartOfTeFiti · 04/01/2018 18:28

Just get rid and tell him why don’t let it drag on

userinterface34 · 04/01/2018 18:28

Tell him that his gushing phone call made you realise just how needy he is and you’re just not that into him!

gingergenius · 04/01/2018 18:32

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck :

WJATAOPS

Will Just Accuse The Asshole Of Penis Stinkiness?

Scrumptiousbears · 04/01/2018 18:33

Excellent thread. Something I've always loved to do.

Mxyzptlk · 04/01/2018 18:34

^^ Good one, userinterface34.

marywasneeavirgin · 04/01/2018 18:34

Go OP. Love how,you've behaved. He deserves it. Personally I'd string him along a bit more but cancel this weekend due to being unwell and say you want to be better for friends wedding. Then ghost him and don't go to the wedding!

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 18:40

Thanks thanks thanks for all your support and making me giggle and chortle even though I was upset.

I love all your suggestions on revenge but don't want to be all filled up with anger and bitterness again. So I'll just slowly ghost him. In answer to a question about his age, he's fifty fucking three! Don't know what the demographics are of mumsnet now but "Yup he's an old dickhead"

Not going to be able to change him now so no point in revenge .... however my ex of 18 years ..... well that revenge has been brewing for 2 years!! Best def served cold!

Anyway I'm back on the saddle, got date for tommorow .... already stalked his Facebook and LinkedIn and doesn't seem married ....

I'm not giving up!!!

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Funnyface1 · 04/01/2018 18:40

He may well think he knows who it is and not necessarily that it's you. I think there's a strong chance that he's screwed over some other women in the past who may bear a grudge.

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 18:42

As regards the wedding was only invited to disco in the evenig.

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