To think this woman at the till was bloody rude

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I was paying for items at the till in New Look and in the queue behind me was a lady with another lady who was a wheelchair user. While I was paying they were called up to the till after me and I was blocking their way. As I was preoccupied at the till, I didn’t hear them say excuse me a couple of times. I apologised and moved out the way. The lady who was pushing the wheelchair then said to the other person “don’t worry I would’ve just taken her ankles out if she didn’t move” while glaring at me. If I hadn’t have been with my mother I would have said something but I didn’t want to cause a scene in front of her. AIBU to think this was bloody rude and unnecessary?

It was rude, but if you've ever spoken to someone who uses a wheelchair, and the experiences they have, you'll see why she might not have had a great deal of patience. I've taken friends in wheelchairs out and about and the number of people who bang into them, barge past them, assume they're deaf, mute and/or stupid, think they deserve no personal space, knock their wheels about etc is absolutely sickening.

Ideally she wouldn't have been rude, but I would forgive her and move on. You're not in a wheelchair.

Meh not worth getting het up about she probably thought you were deliberately ignoring Her, I bet she had to deal with assholes doing that sort of thing everyday. And you know you weren't ignoring Her so doesn't really matter now.

Given that you apologised, they were U. BIT, until you've become beyond exasperated with the rudeness of the public at large re: wheelchair users, I don't think you can fully understand that she was probably just frustrated and had probably dealt with 769 fuckers that week.

I HAVE gone at people's ankles with DD's wheelchair but only when they were being deliberately rude.

How do you know they said excuse me a few times if you didn't hear them?

spend a day in a WC or pushing one ......then judge

Why were you still standing at the till if your transaction had finished and they had been called over to the till? Did the cashier not allow you enough time to put your purse or purchase away or were you just dawdling there for no reason?

Yes she was rude, but I suspect that she is on the receiving end of considerable rudeness everyday.

It isn’t an excuse for her bad behaviour but I think I’d give her a pass personally.

Her day was probably harder than yours.

That was really rude of her.

I don’t know of your circumstances, but you could have been deaf, and therefore disabled just like the wheelchair user. They may have been having a bad day, but it doesn’t give them the right or excuse to say such nasty things.

Yeah a bit rude, but check your privilege.

They were BU about the violence threat.

However, I can't imagine a till transaction is that engrossing that you couldn't hear them trying to get your attention twice.

Was there a chance you were being slightly passive aggressive by wanting them to wait for you to finish your transaction?

She sounds a bit psychotic.

But being a wheelchair user is shit. I've taken people out in wheelchairs many a time. People treat them like babies in prams. If they ask a question the pusher gets the response, if they hand over money the pusher gets given the change, people park over dropped kurbs so you can't cross a road, it kind of sucks.

It is shit being in a wheelchair and some people are wankers.

But two wrongs don't make a right and all that.

The OP didn't hear, apologised and moved. It was only then that the threat was issued. That was just someone being a dick.

Bloody rude! No excuse for that

At all

oh dear it wasnt the disabled person who said it....read the op it was th carer. so the able bodied non disabled person.......so bad luck you can't slag off a disabled person.

How do you know they said excuse me a few times if you didn't hear them?

I obviously can't speak for the OP, but I have certainly been half aware of someone speaking, but not tuned into what they are saying because I am talking to someone else. When my attention is drawn to them, I realise that I can retrospectively process what was being said now that I am attending to it.

Human brain is a wonderful thing.

samcro why? Person who made the comment isn't in a wheelchair

Bloody rude however you look at it.

The lady who was pushing the wheelchair then said to the other person “don’t worry I would’ve just taken her ankles out if she didn’t move” while glaring at me.
just to help the disablist posters and the pmsl Op

It's hardly disablist to suggest that someone was being rude. I admit that I misread the OP but that's just because it's late and I'm tired.

just to help the disablist posters and the pmsl Op

Samcro, what were the disablist comments? And where does OP say she was pissing herself laughing?

Disablist? Where?

Stupid cow threatened violence! That's unreasonable in my book

I think OP, in this situation a little empathy can help. They probably both face a lot of inconvenience, inconsideration and thoughtlessness day in day out which makes life more difficult for them so they feel a bit fed up sometimes.

You were on the receiving end of a barb, which probably wasn't nice, but was sort of understandable in their position and was over very quickly whereas their inconvenience will go on every day...

"Her day was probably harder than yours".

And that's ops fault because, why.
That's an excuse to threaten violence because, why.

We've all got our problems, but we don't all go around threatening to take the ankles off people.

She didn't threaten violence. If she'd shouted 'I'm going to smash this wheelchair into your back' before the OP had moved that would have been a threat. But it wasn't. It was after the fact and was a fairly mild expression of frustration.