This is why we can't have nice things, and I'm tired of it

[faithinthesound]

Full disclosure: I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable. I know I'm angry and that is coloring some of my words and actions and responses, but I don't think I'm all that wrong. I'm here for a vent and some commiseration, really.

I've got this joke I make all the time when something goes wrong, like something gets knocked over or falls on the floor. I laugh and I say "and that is why we can't have nice things". But I'm sitting here today seething at just about everyone I've encountered today, because the truth is, we CAN'T have nice things. And I am so sick and tired of people who are the reason why.

Like, we can't have a nice sit out on the back porch because the neighbors are blasting rap.

Like, the timetable machine thing at this bus stop has been broken for months and will never be fixed because the second it's fixed, someone will be along to smash it up again.

Like, I can't get anywhere on time today because people want to stand and argue with the bus driver over whether or not they have to pay (spoiler: yes you bloody well do).

Like, I'm not particularly enjoying my dinner because the woman who served me at the fast food restaurant spoke to me like I am a moron (I'm not), and it has vexed me.

Like, we can't have threads like we used to like Sharon and the wasp, because there's a contingent of Reasons We Can't Have Nice Things who will be along before we're ten posts in, troll hunting and pooh-poohing and calling shenanigans, instead of getting into the spirit of the thing.

What about you guys? Want to share your "I can't have [nice thing] because [reason]"? I know I'm being very negative and ranty but sometimes it's nice just to be able to unload.

Who knows, RWCHNT (Reason We Can't Have Nice Things) might even catch on as a new MN acronym lol.

Speakout and *Lovemusic
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I appreciate that comprehension is not every poster's strong point but the OP was very clear about her wish to whinge. Perhaps you could be a love and jog on?

I can't have nice things because my moron H breaks all of them that I have had since childhood/I made/items with memories.......
heavy handed, or deliberate, you have to wonder

Why do people vandalise playgrounds? I cannot understand the mindset of someone who would wind all the swings up over the bar. “Haha, great, the little kids can’t play any more”. Where’s the pleasure in that?

We can’t have nice things in our house because it’s tiny and full of baby things!

See Lovemusic - you're part of the problem! People can have a light-hearted moan if they want you know. I do KNOW I can't have beautiful carpets because I have dogs. I don't need some miserable drone with pursed lips pointing out that that is my choice. I do kind of know that.
Doesn't mean I can't say it does it?
Go back to the Daily Mail comments section - your people are there.

I find it incredible that many middle class people are so patronising to those who live in poorer areas. Statements such as "the community can solve these issues!" hardly help. I think on MN many posters have sod all appreciation of poverty and think it just means going to asda rather than waitrose.

Why is "the community can solve these issues!" patronising?

Was just saying

It’s a bit sad that people don’t have anything else really worth moaning about.

lemon yeah brilliant idea! lets club together as a community and provide mental health services, drug and alcohol service, let's re-open our closed sure start centre and also fund decent repairs to existing social housing and provide more good homes for people.

Creambun2 the village I am speaking of is mostly local authority housing, one of which I lived in until a few years ago.
We could leave our doors unlocked.

cheesey- maybe you could take off that Thread Police Uniform.
I know you think it fetching, but perhaps you could be a love and jog on?.

We cant have nice things because HS2 is going to rip through our community - and the building will go on for 17 years.

We cant have anything nice outside (terraced house no garden) because a neighbour lets her dog piss everywhere. "I cant stop it weeing" no...but you can bloody put it on a lead and take it out like normal people instead of just opening your door and letting it out.... so it doesnt piss on our flowerpots, and you can put it on a lead so it doesn't piss on my sons leg,... or on my washing, ...or on my doorstep...or on my dog when its on a lead!!!!!!

Remember earlier in the thread when you talked about how annoying "what did you expect?" was? Well here's lovemusic saying it in a different way, followed by a "well I was just saying". Lemons and sucking comes to mind.

Can't have nice things as we have a so called 'conservatory' which looks like a lean to green house. It was fine for about 15 years (bought with the house), and now it leaks and I have six buckets catching water and there is still a swimming pool in it!
I would like to walk in the countryside (I am right in it), but I have to drive to get anywhere to walk as the road is fast, lorries use it and there is NO pavement for miles. All because a selfish person decided that they wanted to buy up a field and stop access.

'Go back to the Daily Mail comments section - your people are there.'

We can't have nice things because many, many people are just horrible to each other as demonstrated by the above comment.

Human nature is the problem, not where you live or who you vote for.

I find it incredible that many middle class people are so patronising to those who live in poorer areas.

I grew up in a very poor area to parents that worked but we were still in poverty and sometimes they struggled to feed us (no benefits for everything or food banks etc back then). We didn't go round taking people's things and smashing windows etc because we were brought up with better standards and also aware that telling anyone who told you off in the street to "fuck off" would have consequences. We also took our litter home.

Being poor doesn't give you the right to behave in an antisocial and criminal manner. The vast majority of people don't but the minority seem to be able to do whatever they like and it's always someone else's problem or fault. Years ago I told a child of about 9 to pick up the litter they'd just dropped in the school playground to be told, "that's the janitors job"!!! They didn't come up with that idea by themselves.

Poor bashing.

The real problem is that 1% of the population hoards 60% of the world's wealth.

Speakout the place you live sounds identical to where I live I moved here precisely because I was sick of city life. I've never looked back

WCHNT because even in gorgeous rural Yorkshire (where we were on holiday recently) the ancient dry stone moss topped prettiest walls in the world are stuffed full of dog poo in plastic bags - grim fuckers

Oh good, I needed a rant! Being told by our local cinema that they HAD to schedule the special viewing for disabled children of Paddington 2 during school hours because they also need to schedule parent and baby viewing, hearing impaired viewing etc.

Also, when I pointed out that they wouldn't get many, if any, actual disabled children at 2pm on a tuesday, she told me they get plenty thanks. Yes, plenty of noisy toddlers who will grow up and be able to access mainstream cinema viewings, of which there are hundreds. Whereas this is the only one my son can go to. Patronising fuckers.

Why do people vandalise playgrounds? I cannot understand the mindset of someone who would wind all the swings up over the bar. “Haha, great, the little kids can’t play any more”. Where’s the pleasure in that?

I arrived at a park one day when my boys were pre school to find all the swings wrapped. I approached the biggest looking guy of a group of youths with my two big eyed toddlers and politely asked if they'd help unwrap the swings as the little ones couldn't play. It was probably them that had done it but faced with the little sad faces, they went and sorted them all. That was about 12 years ago. I'd probably get told to get fucked now.

bananas and speakout - Barnes by any chance? Or Wimbledon Village? I know what you mean, these places are few and far between, but they do exist!

We get angry when inequality exists. We are the monkeys in the cage.