This is why we can't have nice things, and I'm tired of it

[faithinthesound]

Full disclosure: I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable. I know I'm angry and that is coloring some of my words and actions and responses, but I don't think I'm all that wrong. I'm here for a vent and some commiseration, really.

I've got this joke I make all the time when something goes wrong, like something gets knocked over or falls on the floor. I laugh and I say "and that is why we can't have nice things". But I'm sitting here today seething at just about everyone I've encountered today, because the truth is, we CAN'T have nice things. And I am so sick and tired of people who are the reason why.

Like, we can't have a nice sit out on the back porch because the neighbors are blasting rap.

Like, the timetable machine thing at this bus stop has been broken for months and will never be fixed because the second it's fixed, someone will be along to smash it up again.

Like, I can't get anywhere on time today because people want to stand and argue with the bus driver over whether or not they have to pay (spoiler: yes you bloody well do).

Like, I'm not particularly enjoying my dinner because the woman who served me at the fast food restaurant spoke to me like I am a moron (I'm not), and it has vexed me.

Like, we can't have threads like we used to like Sharon and the wasp, because there's a contingent of Reasons We Can't Have Nice Things who will be along before we're ten posts in, troll hunting and pooh-poohing and calling shenanigans, instead of getting into the spirit of the thing.

What about you guys? Want to share your "I can't have [nice thing] because [reason]"? I know I'm being very negative and ranty but sometimes it's nice just to be able to unload.

Who knows, RWCHNT (Reason We Can't Have Nice Things) might even catch on as a new MN acronym lol.

OP - I took it as your intention to be a list of (some daft things, some serious) of RWWCHNT, but were you wanting a serious debate about the state of the country and social etiquette etc, I am genuinely confused as to whether my (mainly brainless trivial posts) are the derailing you were talking about. Sorry if I missed the point

Woe is you.

Personally, I focus on good things. I've had today off. I've had my hair done and I've had a nice chat with my lovely hairdresser. The weather is a bit shit so I've stayed inside in the warm. We're having curry for dinner. Not the most exciting day but you need to focus on the little things and be grateful otherwise you'll end up a moaning old bint no one will want to speak to.

God, what a depressing thread! We all ought to count our blessings.

(And no, I don't live in Dagenham!)

Personally it's due to my 5 year old son who breaks everything!
I mean literally everything he touches....need a walking disaster!

Jogel, I think you must live near me. The litter drives me crazy especially when there are so many bins around. Donal Trump ruins my day quite a bit. work often has that effect too!!

I can't have nice things because my gorgeous darling son is a literal version of Mr Bump and whilst he is always mortified and says sorry no matter how hard I try I can't seem to get him to look/think. The school have noticed (he's only been in seniors since Sept) and suspect Autism/ADHD. It goes without question that I absolutely love him but plastic like melamine rules in our house and I miss glass/china!

More people CHNT if the NIMBY/NODAM/SOBBY types, some of whom have posted here about "houses in green fields" were firmly override.

On a more positive note I understand that I have a quality of life that many others don't

But back to the downside - a spider has just floated to the top of my half drunk tea! (but at least I hadn't swallowed it)

Wills - that is totally my DD (10), she has no spatial awareness at all! she’s such a clutz!

The cats are crazy

Yes my cats too the stair carpet is totally bare now and all of the nice furniture is covered in throws so they don't destroy it. It's doing my head in. You would think two 16 year old cats would have enough of that tomfoolery at their age.

I live in a country park and all of the people who think it's ok to throw all of the rubbish out of their car windows so the hedgerows are full of it.

Animals who daub their disgusting grafitti everywhere and wreck the town flower dosplays every single year.

i kno this is generally light hearted but no matter wat bringing up these things people do focus on them subcontiously then or not.
can we have a lets look passed the little thing or help others do so so we can smile and thin "oh ok.but we still all can do this/have a smile/kindness inside of us. so lets feel ok"ple ase

Can't have nice things due to all the house building to accommodate the huge population the country can't deal with. ( Not necessarily immigrants) Folk having too many children for the accommodation they have. Due to so many people divorcing, separating needing housing for two units instead of one. Due to people thinking they must have their own accommodation by time they are just out of their acne phase. Due to all the space turning into brick and concrete that bring all the mess from dogs (owners fault really) litter from lazy irresponsible people.Due to noise from uncontrolled kids who also have no idea what manners are. Due to adults who think everyone in neighbourhood want to listen to their party antics late at night. Lastly due to vehicles with oversized exhausts that do nothing other than create nuisance noise, usually owned by those with dimwits who think their cars are the greatest. Think that's enough for today folks.

I can’t have nice things because I break everything. Everything.
We also say the ‘this is why we can’t have nice things ‘ joke.

I can't have nice things because... I am simply too clumsy!

hahahahahahaha - how about a new one - We can't have nice threads.

Sometimes just for shits and giggles I start on page one, then go straight to the last page to see knickers in twists all over the shop. It's bloody awesome. And yet so, so sad. [Sighs heavily]

I keep hearing Nimby today what does it mean? 😜

I don't think Cold and miserable January helps people's moods either.

"Not in my back yard", Clara.

We can’t have nice things because a feral unneutered stray keeps breaking into our house and pissing on everything - 17 piss shots in one night is his record. So we ACTUALLY can’t have nice things. Or we can but we can never have the cat unblocked (because the bastard can unlock it) so our poor terrorised can’t come and go as he likes.

I love cats but I’m ready to trap this asshole and drive him somewhere remote to dump him. See how he handles proper wildlife!

I live in a village but it's no backwater. Even though we have a bus twice a day and the only shop is a gun shop. We have a railway station at the end of the lane and I am in the nearest town in 14 minutes.
Another village I lived in had a lovely little school. The kids would go to school on their little bikes and scooters but leave them outside the school gates against the fence and they were still there at home time. No crime. No noise.

Sweetpea55 right I'm moving to yours!
Thanks PricklyBall, plenty of those where I live! 😀

Reason we can’t have a nice little courtyard in front of the flats I live in; 1. persistent fly tipping - local council take 4 large items away for £15, you can book collection online in 5 mins - 2. Residents who chuck rubbish at the bins and miss, or who break the electronic security gate so non residents can come in and fly tip/take drugs/urinate/make noise....

Today it’s been cleaned up and the gate fixed; outside looks and feels so much better, but it won’t last.

Why would anyone not want to keep it this way? I don’t get it.

I can't have nice things because ...

For every piece of litter I pick up, another three pieces are dropped by others
Of inconsiderate parking across pavements and entrances to parks and public spaces
Of ignorant parents who allow their teenage offspring to start up basketball games late at night and to be a general nuisance to others

...I could go on forever ...

When we moved to our house, being able to live somewhere where a Christmas wreath was unlikely to be nicked was genuinely one of my search criteria.

We're by no means in a wealthy area but the dcs catch their school bus from the most amazing bus stop ever and it heartens me every day that it remains unvandalised. It currently has fairy lights, arm chairs, pictures and book shelves. It restores my faith a little.