Not to tell his wife?

[ffab]

Father of DD's school friend asked me if I could babysit their two children. They sometimes pick DD up after school for me so I was happy to reciprocate.

I don't know him well but talk to his wife at the school gates and our DD's get on well. She's a nurse and sometimes works nights.

He brought the kids round in their pyjamas at 9pm. I suggested it might be better for them to stay the night. But he said he'd come back the same evening.

He picked them up around midnight and as he was leaving asked me not to mention to his wife that I had babysat.

Very annoyed to have been out in this position. AIBU to tell her?

Agree that the 'why' doesn't really matter it's being asked to keep it secret so for that reason, I'd say similar to their suggestions and drop it casually into the conversation

I wouldn't lie to her if she asks you but I wouldn't tell her without being asked either and I would certainly say to the husband if he asks you again that you're not going to be asked to lie for him ever

I reckon he went out for a drink with his mates.

I agree with poster who said he was likely to be checking on her because of some suspicions. If that's the case, maybe he was reassured realised he was a fool, and telling her will open an unnecessary can of worms. If he found out that she was indeed not where she said she was, he might want her not to know he knows to prepare his separation of something like that.

Either way, don't get involve. Just say nothing, ignore that it happened and just have nothing to do with this family again, end of.

Some men (and women) have a real gift for compartmentalising. If he'd made arrangements and didn't want to cancel a night with his pals, then knowing they were being looked after fine could very well allow him to go out and enjoy himself, then collect them later, no harm done.