To be horrified at how I look

[theavianexecutioner]

Just asked my mum to take a pic of me from the back and side, for bra measuring.
Horrified. I've been in SW on and off for a few years, need to go back. I've already decided I'm having a dry january and it needs to continue. I'm 43 in May and want to feel and look content.

If I gain weight, it appears on my face first, then arms. If I lose weight, my face loses it last.

That's why at this weight, my face is a blob/round circle with no angles and just a hint of dimple. 50 pounds ago, it was round, no angle, but it was a cute round (if I may say so myself) with a dimple.

I am with you all!

Am large size 12 but short and have a petite frame so I feel like there is flab everywhere.

I have a big holiday booked for June and wanr to be able to wear a vest and shorts easily.

Have never dieted and I Don't fancy a group so really need to keep motivated!

Same problem with the face here: even if I lose weight ,I won't look any younger - I will just look more wrinkly. I can improve the body, but the face... nope, it's a good as it can be now.

God this is depressing.

of course nothing would be worst than being physically unwell, I am semi-lighthearted!!

Honestly not being a GF, but assuming all PPs on this thread are women - I see so many portly men with big beer bellies, and I wonder if they feel as bad when they see themselves in photos?

Going back to work tomorrow and have nothing that I fit in, over Christmas I have added another stone to my everything collection of stones (how is that even possible)
I am the only fat greedy bird in an office of salad eating skinnys who will be wearing amazing outfits they got in the sales while I am fooling nobody in a fecking waterfall cardi.
I need to get some motivation, as well as looking a total fat mess everything is hurting and I miss feeling fit and strong and feel I am aging by the day.

I think it depends on the man, the same way it depends on the woman: some of us will hide under baggy black clothes as soon as we reach a size 12, whilst others will wear tight mini dresses on an overweight body.

Some men spent hours and hours at the gym, tanning salons, waxing places to get a look they like.

I am a slim brunette, but for some reason photographs that people claim are of me show a rather plump white haired old lady. Must be something to do with the lens.

I could also do with help in finding clothes I look good in. I'm a standard size 12 but big boobs (38DD) and small waist and short legs. I'd love to be tall (I'm 5'6" but the short legs make me look shorter) and whatever I wear I seem to look chunky and dumpy. I WANT TO BE ELEGANT, DAMMIT!

So any clothing advice welcome too.

we need Trinny and Susannah on this thread!

I actually really enjoy eating a lchf diet, although I’ve ditched it during the festive season - no bloody way am I missing out on twiglets and roast potatoes!
It’s so easy to follow and adapt for the dc too, they still eat carbs.
But my face definitely looks fuller over Christmas and my hips are starting to feel soft, I’m back to work on Thursday and home from holiday tomorrow so will start back then.

They say cameras add 10 pounds, right??!

I am also the heaviest I've been

tbh I'm not that bothered in the sense that I have accepted I will never be size 8 again but I would like to be size 12 (from 16).

I am short so I look ridiculous. I feel fine, I exercise, but I look silly! I tried not to let it bother me and ended up getting bigger. I need to tackle my diet because have no issues exercising but I cannot face low carb (well I've tried it and I got no enjoyment from my food at all and I'm veggie as well).

today I waited to see when I was hungry for dinner....it was actually around 8.30 which is interesting, I would normally just eat much earlier out of habit.

It's my mindset that needs to change. I have a friend who lost a bunch of weight doing yoga - not because of the calorie burn but because of the general mindfulness. I did half an hour this morning and I'm now wondering if that's why I was more aware of not being hungry at dinner time....

🙋🏻 Can I join too? A couple of months ago I was feeling ok about myself, now I’m dreading going back to work because I’ve put on so much I can’t fit into any of my work clothes 🙈 I know I need to get myself under control but it’s just so haaaaaaaaaaaaaard!

You’ve all made me feel a little bit less lonely.

I hate seeing pictures of myself. I’m very overweight (have about 6 stone to lose) and hate the way I look and feel. I just look like a big blob because I carry my weight on my stomach, back, arms & face but have quite small legs. I have a full blown food addiction going back to childhood but have no idea how to lessen it’s grip on my life. I’m in my 30’s now and need to do something about it!

Yep! My DD is the only child on my DH's side of the family. My SIL's are single and I don't think they'll ever have children of their own. All of their Facebook pictures are of my DD. I would say 80% of their conversations are about her. They act like they know every little quirk about her, when they only see her about once a month. One of them even told my DH how my DD likes to be held the other day (which he didn't appreciate!). I just think it's a bit sad, go get a life of your own! It also really annoys me that they assume the next baby in the family will be mine which puts pressure on me...how's that fair??!

Families ey!

Zaphod if you're a size 12, you're not a 38 anything bra size. That would mean you had an underbust measurement of 38 inches which would make you more like a size 18. You're more than likely a 32 or 34 something.

Bra Intervention will show you how to measure properly. Guarantee you feel less chunky and dumpy in properly fitting bras. The difference it makes to how your clothes fit and look is astonishing.

I'm the same as you ok but 43 the month before and fat again!
I was a size 12 eighteen months ago and determined to shed the 3.5 stone I've gained, I can't be doing with diet clubs.

My meals have always been healthy it's the snacking in between and during the evenings that's my downfall so I've gone cold turkey.

2 years ago someone set up a "mumsnet losers" group on Facebook after one of these threads and it was really motivating.

I saw MOVING IMAGES of myself this Christmas. I was papped leaning forward to help the kids with something and my boobs and belly rolled with their own independent motion completely unrelated to what the rest of me was up to. Utterly and totally horrifying. And I thought I’d done a good job hiding it too.
TBH, I’ve had a hell of a year and self-medicated with wine, toast and cheese. I’ve made an appointment with a counsellor to deal with my stress reactions and emotional over-eating in the hope that I can break myself out of my worst habits or at least ameliorate them...

I just look like a big blob because I carry my weight on my stomach, back, arms & face but have quite small legs

You and me both.

I took delivery of rock salt. over 60kg of it.

I had to hump it over 100m.

I hump this extra weight with me every day. I described myself as a pig in knickers earlier. I'm bigger than a pig.

I will be doing a big milestone birthday this year - I need to start thinking about how I want to be

Oops- I posted on wrong tread! Please ignore

Well this thread certainly hit a nerve...

Does anyone mind if I join?

I don't have photos taken if I can help it. Our first family holiday with my DS1 and DS2 in June and there is absolutely no evidence I was there.

The other day I realised that if I died (extreme I know!) My son's would have no photos of me to look at. I lost my Mum at 21 and cherish the photos I have of us together. So something HAS to change.

I used to be a nice average 10-12 which fit my 5"3 frame nicely but then I had years of fertility treatment, two failed IVFs, two children (very lucky) and depression to contend with. I bought a pair of size 18 trousers just recently 😣

I want to lose around 4 stone before 2019. I've joined slimming world before now but just can't stick with it. Going to aim to go for a "run" (waddle) when the evenings ate lighter and cut out snacks. Crisps are my downfall

Can't remember the pp who asked if guys are bothered about their paunch / tummies but I can say for sure my DH reins things in if he gets a little too cuddly. In fact he's on a diet now. Means he'll cut beer out for a month and lose ten pounds... Git.

Can I join you all? Finding lots of comments very familiar. I’m also 43 in May, OP, and need some change. Like stinky I had fertility treatment which was the catalyst for gaining weight. I’ve since had an accident and major surgery, leaving me unable to exercise much (even walking is very painful). I eat way too much rubbish but have realised I need a big style change!! I’m not massive, but am short and way too ‘flabby’. The size 14 dress I bought for a wedding last month didn’t fit (I blamed the boobs, however!).