No one has loved you enough to marry you...

[Lakeplacid]

Said to me by a friend of a friend, in what I think was intended to be s sympathetic tone.

I said I'm not really interested in getting married anyway, and that the success rate of marriage is so low I'd rather be happily unmarried. Which comment of course she laughed off

Everyone else stood there in silence. It was like something out of a Bridget Jones film.

A couple of days later I'm still stewing on it. Is this what people think of me? That I'm not worthy of marriage? I know when I had a relationship break up a few years ago someone else made the unsolicited comment that he clearly didn't love me enough to stay in a relationship.

Is it me? Or do I just know a load of basic bitches?!

I hope your friend of this friend ripped them a new one. What a birchy thing to say

Thats a horrible thing to say and yes you know some bitches.

*bitching. Birching might be excessive

What a fucking cow.

Probably some awkward comment implying that at least you're not stuck in an unhappy relationship, said in an attempt to be emphatic, but in hindsight it wasn't so well formulated. Don't stew on it too long, it's not worth it...

That's not even a Bridget Jones jellyfish, just pure wanker material from someone with no sense of kindness or loyalty. I'd be removing her forcibly from my circle.

I'm sure you worth more than just 'marriage'.... fuck her...

She sounds like a sanctimonious asshole!!!
It's a very bitchy comment to make, no matter how (mock) sympathetic.
Honey, unless you are Cruella de Ville, you are, indeed, worthy of marriage and love.
Ignore such rhetoric (and find new friends).

Nobody has been worthy of your vows.
Oh and ditch the 'friend'

She sounds jealous and catty. Not the sort of person you want as your friend. Even if you were happily married etc she would try and pick faults.
I'm in a very happy relationship, baby on the way and a relative of mine keeps saying how she's lucky her boyfriend doesn't have "baggage". My partner has 4 lovely children but my family member considers this "baggage" and makes other snide comments. It's just jealously x

Feeling unloved herself I'd say.

No, there was a kind of embarrassed silence. Then I'm the one who looks an idiot because everyone standing around us is married (I know all of them better than I know this woman but none of them are close friends).

It took me back to when I was 21 and bumped into a girl I knew from school who asked how I'd found university and whether (since I'd not had a serious boyfriend while I was there) I thought going was a waste of time - as you're meant to meet your future husbands at uni. Wtf do you say to that?!

Well all happiness surveys show that single women are more happy with their lives than married women. Top of the list....married men, then single women, then married women then single men. Surprise surprise

What a cunt, quite frankly. Truly horrible thing to say - be it by a friend or friend-of-a-friend. Or anyone!

Thank your lucky stars you have the strength of character not to get married for the sake of a wedding day, as so many do.

Stop wasting your energies on such a stupid comment and that’s me being generous, no self aware person would say something so idiotic.

That is breathtakingly horrible.

My mother once said to me that she was surprised that I'd found anyone to love me when I met my lovely future dh. I'm no contact with her now and 25 happy years with dh ( 17 married).

Ignore that woman. X

What a weird thing to say and certainly untrue. Life is not measured like that.

That’s spiteful and utter nonsense. Two men loved me enough to marry me, I am now divorced twice so so much for that! She sounds very defined by romantic relationships, which I always find rather pathetic in a person.

She's a fucking cow.

Loads of arseholes get married, doesn't mean you're any more or less worthy of love than anyone else.

That woman is a nasty little shit, and I would think less of my friend for being a friend of such a horror.

Some people are just bonkers. Saying stuff like this says so much about them. If somebody said this in my earshot about anybody I’d call them on it.

‘Worthy of marriage’ urgh - at best you know people who make idiotic comments, at worst basic bitches.

I'd be asking her in what context did she mean the comment to be taken in?

Let's see how she responds to that question.