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To think, what the f*ck????

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Dsmummy · 30/12/2017 18:56

I have an iPhone. My partner used to have and we shared a computer to update and all that stuff.
Been together 5 years, have two children together and he has an older son that lives with us 50/50.
I was just listening to my recordings of our little boy when he was tiny cooing and trying to talk. Then I stumble across 3 recordings of my partners whispering that must have merged with mine from the computer. For example:
"It's September 23rd. She's trying to say SS broke the baby gate just because he was upstairs near it at the time. I have photo evidence, repeat photo evidence of the break. She's saying it was him. Again, September 23rd"
And a couple more like that Blush
What in the hell?! Am I being unreasonable to think that's not normal behaviour

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CremeFresh · 30/12/2017 19:12

Did you blame step son for breaking the gate though ? If so, then he was obviously keeping a log , if you didn't then ....... well I don't know Confused

bobstersmum · 30/12/2017 19:12

Very odd indeed! Has he got any type of mh problem?
How is your relationship with him in general, could you ask him what the hell it was about?
And as pp says, what do the other ones say?

GwenStaceyRocks · 30/12/2017 19:15

Rather than jump to him being batshit - could he have been playing a game with his DS eg being spies or trying to defuse the gategate situation by pretending it was a major crime that needed logged?! Confused
It all rather depends on what the other messages were.

Bluelonerose · 30/12/2017 19:16

Woo sounds weird.

The only thing I would think other than he's gathering evidence on you is maybe he put it on there deliberately in case you snooped and he wanted proof.

KitKat1985 · 30/12/2017 19:18

I think you need to ask him.

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Dsmummy · 30/12/2017 19:18

I can't really remember it lol but let's just say it's a fair bet he broke it Grin. I wouldn't have told him off or anything though, it only would've been an accident.
Yeah he's on antidepressants but no other form of treatment for 'depression'. He wants to stop them but he gets bad side effects when he tries.

I've now asked about the recordings again, he's gone all over the top and announced I'm single (a regular occurrence). He says a lot he doesn't mean, it's not hurtful and I know he sounds a bit crazy in this thread but in general he's a good guy. He cannot stand being confronted and knowing he's wrong

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Paddingtonthebear · 30/12/2017 19:19

Bloody help that is weird, you have to play him the recording and ask

Paddingtonthebear · 30/12/2017 19:19

*hell

Paddingtonthebear · 30/12/2017 19:20

Just read your update

He sounds quite unwell to be honest

MincemeatMuncher · 30/12/2017 19:20

Your update is even stranger op Grin

Is there any chance he was gathering evidence about ss’s Mum?

bastardkitty · 30/12/2017 19:22

He's not a 'good guy'. Not at all.

HundredMilesAnHour · 30/12/2017 19:22

He sounds like he has more mental health issues than depression alone. He sounds seriously ill.

Pengggwn · 30/12/2017 19:23

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Dsmummy · 30/12/2017 19:24

It was definitely about me. Why do something so weird? I don't even raise my voice to SS, never dish out discipline or anything like that. Get on fine in general. It was my idea to go 5050 and have him here more. Not really any need for 'evidence'.
Creeped me out

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MsGameandWatching · 30/12/2017 19:25

He sounds like he’s got some kind of fantasy life going on. I’d be urging him to get to the doctors tbh. That’s really creepy.

TossDaily · 30/12/2017 19:25

I think you've just uncovered evidence that your partner is very unwell.

edwinbear · 30/12/2017 19:26

As a PP said, this behaviour sounds almost paranoid. I would seek some medical guidance.

NeganLovesLucille · 30/12/2017 19:26

What are the other recordings saying?

BulletFox · 30/12/2017 19:30

He sounds unwell, sorry

Mrsmadevans · 30/12/2017 19:30

He sounds delusional I think you really need to be very careful OP , tell someone in RL .

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Dsmummy · 30/12/2017 19:30

Sorry, I'm trying to feed my baby while doing all this lol.
Just very quick ones, like 'she's saying in the morning, I must take SS with me when I go'

We lived in a separate town to school. My MIL was picking up my partner for work. I said instead of two trips take SS at the same time. The same as we always did.
These are old, I'm concerned though that maybe there's more weird stuff I don't know

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WipsGlitter · 30/12/2017 19:32

Is SS you baby or stepson?

Is he possibly mentally unwell?

TrinitySquirrel · 30/12/2017 19:32

He is very unwell OP. I would be contacting the doctors first thing Monday and probably not stay in the same house as him for a while. What bizarre behaviour. I think you're rose tinting a lot of it by the sounds of it, none of his behaviour is normal.

SparklyMagpie · 30/12/2017 19:32

I'm sorry but the thought of listening to a recording like he's on some secret mission for MI5 has me wetting myself

Does he like to live dangerously? Grin

In all seriousness though,he actually sounds a bit unstable.

You should leave him a recording

" I'm single, I repeat single....mission accomplished "-obviously in the voice of Postman Pat

SparklyMagpie · 30/12/2017 19:34

Just read your update,yeah this is weird OP

Reminds me of some stories I've read of some people with a split personality who think they're undercover and being spied on

It'd actually make me feel unsafe :(

I feel bad for having a little joke now

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