To love my ginger hair?

[SleepForTheWeek]

All through school I was mocked for my hair colour, I hated it and prayed that if I had children they wouldn't be ginger. I dyed it blonde/brown/bright red when I was old enough (not at same time!)

It wasn't until I was an adult and working in an industry that involved people from other countries that I started getting compliments about my natural colour, I've not dyed it for a few years now and love it! It's not JUST 'ginger', it's reds/blonds/browns/golds all intertwined.

Even now I hear people say 'I hope my baby is not ginger' and I've even had a 'friend' tell me they'd drown their baby if it was ginger (in apparent jest). It's not OK to say that about skin colour/disabilities/sexual orientation, so why is it socially acceptable to say it about children with red hair???

Anyway, no point to this except to say

EMBRACE YOUR GINGER HAIR!

Ok. I'll say lots of people particularly don't like afro hair, large lips or a flat nose. You'll find they're particular attribues with people with black skin, and many don't find them attractive.

What a disgusting post is that? I'd be screaming at the screen. It's horrific. Disgusting. The actual comments read tonight on instagram, as well. But that's another story.
But ok to say that about someone with ginger hair on this forum?
Exactly.
It's so far past acceptable.

It's sad really. Ginger hair was never cool when I was at school. A friend of mine has a 13 year old daughter with very ginger hair. She hates it but it is utterly beautiful. She will see it one day.

I do not think anyone has been nasty to anyone with ginger hair on this particular post. More like people with brown hair are being called mousy and blonde hair dull. .

Oh for Goodness Sake

Ginger hair is not better than brown, white skin is not better than black etc etc etc

Ginger hair, and the ginger/red haired face, are the most persecuted because of hair colour - I don't think that is disputable.

All my life people have felt it OK to make me feel ashamed or ugly because of an attribute I was born with (along with the pale skin etc that a few folk have also kindly pointed out are not attractive - thanks)

Why can't we have a thread of people celebrating being ginger, without it being about making people with other hair colours feel bad??

Why can't people just be kind?

These threads never go well.
Not helped by the fact the OP has obviously started a thread with the intention of fishing for compliments.

Not many people have been that nasty to me about my ginger hair oddly. Neither of my parents have ginger hair either, I got my hair colour from my gran. My aunt is annoyed that she has to pay to get what I got naturally. I only ever dyed it once too to brown, mainly because everyone was dying their hair and I wanted to see what I looked like. But I'm too lazy to keep dying it so it's left now. Too lazy for most things cosmetic actually, never wear make up as I struggle to find foundation white enough for my skin.

Nothing wrong with fishing for compliments especially if you're feeling starved of compliments.

Always happy to give compliments. Why not?

Truth be told non whites have been made to feel less attractive then whites.

sleepfortheweek agreed. I only realised when I read an article a couple of years ago that all of the feeling of being ugly that I've had throughout my life was me internalising how I've been made to feel as a redhead.

Whatislife even if that's so it's a discussion for another thread - not sure why it's even been brought up.

And yes, while I've spent most my life feeling ugly because of the accepted prejudice because of my hair colour - why is it a sin to 'fish' for compliments?

So really yes, IABU because while trying to make one group of people feel better it's made a lot more feel bad. Not my intention.

Those of you slating the op clearly have no idea what is it like to have red hair, or to be slated for it, or to have red headed children who currently love it, but are likely to fall foul of bullies when they are older.

I love my children's hair.
So do they.

But one day they will start getting a load of abuse for it and I am dreading it already.

A few negative comments OP but most of these posts show you have fulfilled your aim, there are a lot of us celebrating our gingerness thanks to you. Happy New Year!

Worra I don’t think it’s a bad thing that the majority of posters on threads like this pop up to say they love red hair. Everyone knows how much grief redheads can get over the colour of their hair. Surely it’s a good thing to say we love it?

My hair is gingerly Brown, strangely I have never been bullied about the gingeryness of my hair, even in school.

I'd hate to have a standard colour, I like that my natural colour is so different to the norm

Love my ginger hair ❤️😍

I have red haired kids and I love how proud they are of it! They are gorgeous!

I got bullied so badly in school for being ginger. My mum never let me dye my hair. A girl I went to school with did dye hers black and the first time her roots grew in her name was Jaffa cake and it stuck for 7 years.

I've been accosted in the street by random men who want to know if they can light their cigarette on my hair..'

I've had people lean out of cars and shout things like 'ginger minger'

Being asked at 12 years old if the 'carpets matched the curtains' isn't on. Also all pines are the colour of your head hair moron!

pubes not pines

@GreatDuck I totally agree. When DH was at school he was the only one and got every name going thrown at him.

Our kids are redhead and it’s never been a negative thing.

Ginger hair is thicker than other colours. For that fact alone, I would like to have ginger hair.

YANBU. I’ve been dying my naturally dark blonde hair ginger for years. Just this morning I went a slightly lighter more orange toned ginger. It’s absolutelybeautiful.

Definitely NBU. Have hennaed my natural blonde hair a copper/chestnut colour for years now and although it's a gorgeous colour it's never the same as natural red hair. I would be so happy if I was a natural redhead!

Love red hair ❤️

@SleepForTheWeek you are bu though because now I have Valerie in my head..

And I love your ginger hair...

I'm a natural redhead... something that runs through my family quite a lot ... my DD didnt inherit the hair colour
all hair is beautiful regardless of the colour .. as long as you take care of it